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How to Heal From a Toxic Relationship

Updated on September 12, 2019
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Jennifer has a B.A. in Communications. She is an expert with self- help. She studied two years of marriage an family therapy.

When the right couple finds each other it is beautiful. True love takes time but it is worth with it. You have to love yourself first, in orer to find the right person.
When the right couple finds each other it is beautiful. True love takes time but it is worth with it. You have to love yourself first, in orer to find the right person.

We have all been there before. We keep going back to that one person who kept breaking our hearts, time and time again. While the push and pull looks attractive in the movies, it is not healthy in real life. It is actually dangerous to be in a toxic relationship. The after effects of a toxic relationship can stay with a person for a long time and can lead to mental trauma like PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, etc. That is why it is crucial that we as human beings choose the right partner. So how do heal from a Toxic Relationship?

  1. Practice Affirmations. Affirmations are wonderful. There is nothing more powerful than “I am statements.” Getting up, looking at yourself in the mirror and creating a positive statement about yourself can create a wonderful future for yourself.
  2. Practice Self Care. Focus on you. No matter what it is you love to do, do it. Go shopping, play a sport. Do something that builds up your self-esteem. When you start loving yourself the right person will take notice.
  3. Leave All Toxic Situations Behind. There is a saying “If you keep on doing what you have been doing you will get the same results.” Sit down and ask yourself “How can I change my negative with a positive behavior?” example: If you wat to settle down and have a family but keep on going to the club and you keep meeting guys who do not want to settle down or who are emotionally unavailable ask yourself “Where can I go to meet someone who is healthy and looking for what I am looking for?” Try to be the person you are trying to attract.
  4. Know What You Want in a Partner. It is crucial that you know what you want in a partner. If you do not know what you want in a partner you will think every person is the one. Then you will end up in all different types of toxic relationships. You will settle just to be in a relationship. Once you have standards you will refuse to settle for anything less than second best because you know your worth.
  5. Understand That Good Relationships Take Time. Don’t compare your love life to your friends. Dating is like trial and error. Everyone meets the right person at different times. Just know that if it has not happened yet it will. Do not lose faith.
  6. Have a Positive Support System. If you want a healthy relationship than it is crucial that you surround yourself in an environment with people who are in healthy relationships. The consequences of being in a relationship with people who are dysfunctional can be; they can start brainwashing you, you can become isolated and it will be harder for you to meet someone.
  7. Enjoy Your Life. Have fun with your friends. Have fun with your family. Love, laugh and always take new opportunities as they come. The right person will eventually see it.


I hope this advice helped. Sometimes you have to go through really bad relationships to appreciate good ones. As the saying goes “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince.”

"Learing to love yourself is the greatest love of all," - Whitney Housten

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A book that everyone should read before trying to make it work with a one-sided relationship. If he is not calling you understand he is not into you. Do not settle for the man who only wants you when it is good for his conviences. You are worthy of respect and true love.

 
Number one sign of a toxic relatioship. Fighting back and fourth over phone and getting frustrated. A very unhealthy relationship.
Number one sign of a toxic relatioship. Fighting back and fourth over phone and getting frustrated. A very unhealthy relationship.
The pain of a breakup. Toxic relationships can be draining once they end because all the memories will be there. After they end it does get better because no longer is one in that toxic cycle.
The pain of a breakup. Toxic relationships can be draining once they end because all the memories will be there. After they end it does get better because no longer is one in that toxic cycle.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2019 Jpanaro982

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    • Jpanaro982 profile imageAUTHOR

      Jpanaro982 

      4 weeks ago from Eastchester

      Tori I am so sorry you dated a narcissist in college that is the worst. It is a good thing you got out of that. We all learn from our dating experiences.

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      Tori Leumas 

      4 weeks ago

      I dated a narcissist in college and broke up with him after dating him a year and a half.

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      dashingscorpio 

      4 weeks ago

      "4.Know What You Want in a Partner." is the key!

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.

      Each of us has our boundaries and "deal breakers".

      Until you figure out who you are and what you want/need in a mate you're going to keep making the same mistakes over and over.

      Young people in particular are prone to allowing "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate their relationship choices. It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!

      The problem with dating is too many people feel it is unromantic to be analytical. They subscribe to the "follow your heart" ideology.

      Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart.

      We often hear that "communication" is the key to having a successful relationship. However the underlying fact is most people believe in the "soulmate myth" which states your "soulmate" is someone who will {instinctively} know what to say or do to please you.

      In fact it's not unheard of for someone to complain to their mate by saying: "I shouldn't have to (ask/tell) you...etc."

      Asking for what you want and having your partner give it to you is NOT the same as him/her coming up with the idea on their own.

      Essentially these people feel communication kills the romance!

      Until one lets go of the "fairytale" and chooses to date smarter they are going to keep setting them self up for heartache.

      Another common mistake is having unrealistic expectations.

      If you're a teenage girl or in your only 20s hoping to find a guy your age who wants to settle down, get married, and start raising a family don't be shocked to learn odds are against you.

      The average guy in his 20s just left a college dorm room or escaped from his parents' basement. He wants to establish a career, party with friends, play video games, watch sports, and get laid!

      In the U.S. the average age of a first time bride is (27) and for grooms it is (29). The average a person loses their virginity is 17.

      Therefore on average most people are going to have 10 or more years of sexual experience before they get married and odds are it won't all be with their "first love". Now that is reality!

      When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. Very few people hit a homerun their first, second, third, or fourth time up at bat. If this were not the case we would all be married to our high school sweethearts!

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.

      No one is "stuck" with anyone! Suffering is optional.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

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