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How to love your lover and get your exciting love life back
Do you need to spice up your love life?
Ways To Love your Lover
- Don't forget that they exist.
Regardless of how long you've been together, most couples tend to stray away from the closesness and friendship they once shared. We all tend to get "comfortable" at one point or another and that point is different for everyone. When your partner walks in the door in the evening, let them know that you were thinking about them by giving them a hug, a kiss, and/or ask them how their day was, even if you've heard the same response a billion times. This let's them know that you think about them and wonder how they're doing and feeling. Think about it, if you walked in the door every day and your partner didn't say anything to you until they needed you for something, that would make you feel pretty unwanted wouldn't it? Acknowledge that you love them and appreciate that you have them in your life.
2. Do sweet things for them daily/monthly to let them know you care.
Another thing you can do to let your sweetie know you love them, especially if you have busy schedules and don't have a lot of "together" time, is to leave them love notes. Now this can be an actual note on a piece of paper that you slip into their lunchbox or coat pocket. It can also be leaving a "ghost message" on the steamed up mirror when they're in the shower or a piece of their favorite chocolate/treat on their pillow at night. There are so many ways to show them that you care. Have lunch delivered to them at work, flowers, candies, etc. They'll thank you later, trust me:)
3. Do things with them that you don't necessarily like to do.
It's common knowledge that we're all different in this world. So, when you put two different people together, you're going to eventually run into certain activities that the other half of the relationship doesn't much care for. Do it anyways!! I can't stress enough how much this will show your loved one you care, by putting your own needs and desires aside and trying to enjoy something that they enjoy. It can be golf, a video game, bowling, going to the shooting range, a basketball game. For the men, it wouldn't kill you to go to a craft fair, a carnival, a fashion show, or just shopping. I know you think it'll kill you, but i promise it won't. Maybe you can talk her into buying lingerie and then your trip won't be wasted at all will it?
4. Stop the nagging.
Okay, I'm a woman, I know that we are the queens of nagging, but let's get real here, men nag too just not as often. So, when you see that cupboard door hanging off the hinge that's been banging around and bothering you for three weeks and it's still not done, another three weeks of not having to open the door yourself because it's broken, is sufficient time to leave the subject alone after the inital suggestion. OR, fix it yourself. I can fix just about anything around the house so there's no use in being a pain in the ass about something so trivial. And for the men, if your woman won't make you a sammich...get off your caboose and do it yourself. You have legs, use them. If you're in a good, equal relationship, don't let things like this start unnecessary arguments. And one more time for the women, stop the nagging! Men are far more simple than we are and they typically cannot think of more than a couple things at one time. Give them some time to do what they need to do, or just do it yourself and you'll save your relationship alot of bitterness and arguments. Trust me. Your man just might help you with the dishes once in awhile if you quit nagging him about it. Try it.
You have to talk to each other in order to gain any ground in your relationship. We all know this, it is common knowledge. Many people, mostly men, are not so interested in the talky talky like us women are, but figure out how your man does like to communicate and use his caveman grunts and groans if you have to get a point across. As I stated above, men are simple creatures and cannot fully grasp as many ideas as us women can at one time. Wait until the football game is over to talk about your garden or your aunt Betsy coming to visit. They will understand and cooperate with you much easier if you talk their language. That doesn't mean they shouldn't listen to you at any moment if there's something important to discuss, but if the dishwasher is making a funny noise and you don't know what to do...turn it off. If Aunt Betsy is on her way over and your man dislikes her very much, wiggle your ass in front of the tv and you will get his attention. He will thank you later for that. That's your way of showing him love, warning him that Aunt Betsy's coming over, so that he doesn't have to listen to her ranting about what a loser she married and asking questions about why the cupboard door hasn't been fixed yet. And men, clean the potatoes from your ears and look in her eyes, focus on her when she has something to say. If it's about the broken dishwasher and you already know it's a quick fix, I give you permission to watch your game and then discuss it. But I must warn you that you better get up and get your own beer.
Spice It Up
Sweet and innocent by day, Sexy by night
1. Give your lover a tease.
Teasing your lover a little bit throughout the day will only keep things heated up so that it'll be on like Donkey Kong at night. As you're passing by them, touch them seductively without getting yourself into trouble of course. Let them know you want them and you love them. Try to do this a couple times in a day, kiss them passionately and then let them go, look them in the eyes with that sexy look you gave them in the beginning.
2. Try something new.
If you've had the same routine for a long time, switch it up by getting a new piece of lingerie or learning a sexy new dance. For the men, give your woman a night where it's just about pleasing her. She'll eventually WANT to please you, but give it a shot. Light candles, pour her a glass of wine, play some music. You can try role-playing in the bedroom. The cowboy and the beautiful hostage or use a different accent to talk sexy. You might start out laughing at each other, but just the fact that you're trying something new, is sexy all by itself, so don't worry if your british accent sounds more like a scottish dog.
3. Again! Communication!
We give teenagers a lot of flack about sexting these days, and as well we should. But, this is a spectacular avenue for keeping your adult love life spicy and sensual. You don't have to look your partner in the eye when you're telling them what you want them to do to you, which is especially mortifying for many people. Therefore, you get to actually communicate your likes/dislikes, both of you, and there will be no embarrassment because by the time you get to the bedroom your partner will already be steamed up and ready to try that new "secret" thing you talked about via text earlier. Not only that, you can tease each other and talk dirty all day long with happy, sexy texts. It won't take no damn hour to get them in the mood this way, trust me!! Try it, you will NOT be disappointed!!