How to lie without being caught: Lying without being detected or getting nervous
How to lie without being caught? The best piece of advice would ideally be – don’t put yourself in a spot where you need to lie. Whether it is to your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, boss, professor or your bestie – avoid lying because honesty and saying the truth really pays off in the long run. If you must lie despite knowing that lying will do more harm than good, here are a few tips which will help you pull your lie off without being nervous.
1) Tell yourself that you are right: Have your reasons for lying
The easiest way to lie without getting nervous is to convince yourself that you are lying for a reason. Lying is unethical and anyone with a conscience will think twice before saying a lie. But this might change if there is a justifiable reason for the lie.
Get over this hurdle by reminding yourself about the reasons for your lie. Mentally, bring yourself to the point where you convince yourself to believe that there is justification for that lie.
This little exercise will help you get step over your guilt to a certain extent. It will go a long way in helping you to maintain your composure when you lie.
2) Practice the lie in your head before you say it
Like everything else in else in life, practice your lie before you actually say it. Play the situation and the conversation in your head over and over again so you can think of what someone might say. This will help you prepare for rebuttals.
Practicing the situation will put you in a familiar territory when you actually face it. Thinking about all the possible outcomes will equip you to handle unanticipated questions.
3) Practice your poker face in the mirror
Controlling the expressions on your face is vital if you want to lie without being caught. The slightest signs of a blush or a smile will instantly give you away.
As easy as it sounds, holding a poker face is actually quite difficult. Overcome this hurdle by standing in front of the mirror and look at yourself in the eyes. Avoid twitching any of your facial muscles and keep a serious face. Practice it again and again until you feel pretty comfortable holding up an expression-less face with ease.
4) Control your body language: Win half the battle
Saying the lie is just half the battle. The other half lies in effortlessly pulling off a calm body language that reeks of confidence and panache. Here are a few pointers:
- Be relaxed and don't carry an aggressive body language
- Avoid unnecessary body movement
- Keep your hands straight and by your side unless you are holding something
- Don’t be fidgety
- Stand straight and relax your shoulders
- Hold your head straight and don’t stoop
- Don’t itch or run your fingers through your hair unnecessarily
These are some of the generic body language signs of confidence, which is exactly what you must portray if you want to avoid looking nervous while lying.
5) Make eye contact and don’t look away
Looking away is seen as a giveaway when it comes to catching a liar. On the other hand, a solid eye contact is seen as a sign of confidence. Looking into someone’s eye when you lie, will also help you judge their expressions and manage your own reactions accordingly.
Don’t look away even after you have said what you wanted to say. Wait for a response and look away only when the conversation comes to a close.
6) Be direct, loud and very clear when you say a lie
Make sure you choose the right words when you are lying. Back it up by being direct, loud and clear so that your voice oozes confidence. Unwanted stutters and pauses like umm and uh make lies easier to detect.
Being nervous can make a lot of people jumble their words up. While it might not be possible to keep nervousness at bay entirely, practicing a loud and commanding voice will help you say it without fumbling.
7) Don’t get into the details
The easiest way to avoid putting yourself in a murky corner when you lie is to not talk about the nitty gritty details. You will dig your own grave if you mumble your way into talking about the sticky details of a situation.
Keep your lie as crisp as possible and cut your sentences short. Always remember that the longer your lies, the harder it will be for you to come out unscathed.
8) Don’t give excuses after a lie
While some people confuse this with arrogance, it is a common perception that people who don’t lie never feel the need to give excuses to prove their point. This is exactly how you must behave if you want to lie without being caught.
For example, suppose you are lying to a guy at work and making up a fake reason for not being able to attend a party. You say that you were not feeling well and you had a fever. After you say something along the lines of ‘Hey sorry I couldn’t make it, but I had a fever’, don’t keep giving long excuses like ‘I was up all night coughing’ or ‘I had to call one of my friends over to nurse me’. Keep it short and keep it real.
9) Have consistency in your voice tone
Too many highs and lows in your voice tone will be a dead giveaway of your emotions and feelings. This is exactly the opposite of how you would ideally want a situation to play out.
A common mistake that people make is that they start out loudly but taper off as they get towards the end of a sentence. This might immediately spark off a question like ‘What did you just say?’ which can instantly make a liar anxious.
10) Give yourself reassurance: Tell yourself that you won’t get caught
Reassurance will go a long way in perking up your levels of confidence when you lie. Keep telling yourself that you will pull off the lie easily and there is no chance of you getting caught.
A genuine sense of assurance will slowly take over your mindset. You will intrinsically feel that your words will magically convince anyone and everyone.
11) Don’t be annoyed if someone doesn’t believe you
Train your mind to accept that there will be people who won’t be entirely convinced with your lies. Stop yourself from getting annoyed or angry if someone tells you on your face that you are lying.
Instead, play it cool and brush off their skepticism with an ‘I don’t care’ attitude. Your nonchalant reaction when someone accuses you of lying will go a long way in making people think otherwise.
12) Have an alibi ready just in case you need support
Complicated lies for delicate situations might need an alibi. For example, suppose a husband forgot his wife’s birthday in the morning. It will take a lot more than just a measly excuse for any wife to forgive her husband and take him back in her arms after he forgot her special day.
But he might manage to convince her that he was going to throw her a surprise party but the caterers ditched him at the last minute. This lie might be more believable if he can get one of his work colleagues to back him up while they are all out for dinner.
Such delicate situations need to be handled with a lot of care. If your intentions are good and you have a clean heart, it may be a good idea to have an alibi ready to back you up while you try to fix something that you messed up.
13) Don’t say something that is totally unbelievable
The most obvious thing to consider before lying is to make sure that your lie is genuinely believable. Don’t cook up something that is just ridiculous and stupid.
For example, suppose you want to say a white lie to your girlfriend because you forgot to call her back. It will sound absurd if you say that you were mugged and your phone was stolen. Instead, you could easily say that you forgot your phone at home when you had gone out with friends.