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How to meet the right woman with ease and have incredible fun doing it . You can be happy

Updated on June 5, 2012

The beginning always the best place to start

How do I have any idea what I am talking about?

Nothing can replace experience. I am 47 on my second marriage it has lasted 17 years and two great kids. I called her and asked if she was happy just last week she said yes so we will talk again next week. (just kidding) We live together and are very happy.

Am I lucky to have her? Not even a question, she is better than I ever deserved ,a gift from God as far as I am concerned.

Am I lucky to have found her? Not really . This is why. First you need some history. I was inspired to write this hub buy another hubber Robert Urich actually one of his hubs " A Flawless Way to Meet Women" This hub was well written and entertaining like all of Robert's Hubs. But it made me think from a 47 year old's perspective.

For the nitty gritty read Robert's hub, But basically the advise is sound on how to meet woman. But what then ? Are you looking for a lifetime of fulfillment or just to date?

I grew up with very little confidence. That is the unfortunate truth. I was scared to death of girls.

Here is the first secret you should know before looking for your soul mate. Remember the saying you are what you eat? This is also true. You attract what you are.


Let me explain .

My ex had problems it has been 20 years she may be fine now I do not know. But lets just say that back then she was a sweet but confused girl, she said " I do " and she thought that meant with everyone. I disagreed, so it did not work out.

I was raised by two parents that stayed together until the end, And taught good morals. So how did I attract a like you may ask? Simple, we were from two different moral worlds, she had been around the block I had only a little experience. She had been involved with drugs and alcohol. I had never tried either. But we were alike in that we both had low self-esteem ,and low confidence levels.

We both felt deep inside that ,no one would love us. Or that we did not deserve to be loved.

That is what brought us together.

I attracted what I was . Someone with low self-esteem and very little confidence. I paid dearly with wasted time and emotional pain. However I learned from my mistake.


To thine own self be true

You have to know your self.

It won't get more simple than this . You want a decent woman right? So deserve one be a decent man. When you meet a woman remember "To thine own self be true" .

With my ex I tried to be what she wanted me to be. Over the few years we were together I was so insecure that I became someone I did not know or like. I knew she could not be trusted deep inside so I unintentionally created a self fulfilling prophecy. It was a catch 22 because I knew I could not have trust it changed me and because I changed she did not have the same feelings for me.

In a nut shell be your self. With my current wife I have always been myself she has known from the start that I will not change. Because she meet the real me.

Do You Like You?

You have to like your self!!!

If you do not, then do not expect any one else to.

Remember that whole" You attract what you are."

Well you want to attract a confident happy good woman who believes in her self?

First you must learn to like whom you are.

The easiest way to do that is to be someone you would like. You may learn from your religious beliefs or self help books or just by watching those you admire the most. But learn .


Ok so tell me already

So the meat of this are you ready? I paid money to learn this many years ago . It was the best money I ever spent. Because of what I learned I met my wife.

So here it is for free. You will never meet any one watching TV at home. Dating sites maybe . Here is the most fun way to do it. Get the hell out there. Here is what I did. Every time I met a woman that I had even the slightest attraction to I asked her out. Not in the hopes of taking her home.But just simply for fun. Here is how it works. Like any kind of promotion it is a numbers game.

Maybe you ask out Sue and there just is not a real connection there but you go out with her and her friends . Now maybe her best friend Jane is your dream girl.

Maybe you meet all her friends and make many new friends to enrich your life.

The benefits go on and on. New friends the bigger network can mean new learning experiences, better jobs, trying new things, . It can open up a new word you never new about.

My whole life changed. My confidence built up I tried new things I made new friends . Most of all I made a positive change in my life.

Here is the best part

I learned that I am a good guy that deserves to have a great woman.

To put it simply. I deserve to be loved.

As soon as I learned that something magic happened.

I started to attract the kind of woman I wanted in my life. Soon I met my wife now I know I have someone to love who will always return it .

Some one who has values the same as mine.

So one last time

To thine own self be true.

You attract what you are.

You can not set home feeling sorry and meet some one!

So get out there and start having fun. Kind of like that movie "Yes Man" Just do and explore .

Remember all change starts from within.

As always thanks for reading my rable and good luck.

P.S. I read a hub today. 05/12/12. This hub shows a possibly. One of many that can result ,from attracting what you are. In my humble opinion. Most very controlling men are very insecure deep inside. The woman who marry them tend to be as well.

I do not attempt to insult or demean with this statement. It just seems to me to have a lot of truth. Here is the hub I speak of.


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    • bmcoll3278 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Longmont, Colorado

      Becky Katz You are very welcome. I enjoy your writing a great deal. I look forward to your next fiction story.

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      Becky Katz 

      6 years ago from Hereford, AZ

      Wonderful hub. We do attract people of a similar mind frame. I hadn't gotten a chance to read this until now and thank you for mentioning my first fiction story. I am very honored.

    • bmcoll3278 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Longmont, Colorado

      Thanks Guys

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      6 years ago

      Great! I'll follow these tips you're giving us.

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      Robert Erich 

      6 years ago from California

      bmcoll, the honesty and openness that you have placed into this article is amazing and make it very inspirational. I appreciate your commenting about me as well, that is very flattering. I may have to do the same about you sometime! Keep writing and congratulations on finding such an incredible woman!


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