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How to spice Up a dead Sex life With Your Wife
Reconnecting With Your Wife Sexually
The relationship between you and your wife isn't what you would like it to be. If your love life has lost its spark, it is might be really easy to say that your partner isn't loving. But that might not be the case. More often a lackluster love life is a symptom of an unhappy relationship. It doesn’t mean the relationship is over, but it does mean there are problems.
The first thing you should do is observe your partner. Notice what they are doing. If your wife is doing the lion’s share of the housework, help out at home. Many women have stated they are most interested when their husband cleans the house. The reason is two-fold. It makes women feel appreciated; that they are more than a maid. It also makes them less tired at the end of the day. However, you cannot think of it as I’ve done this for you, now put out. It’s an investment—relationship building.
Women also appreciate it when men help out with the children. Women need to have time to be themselves. To talk to other adults. To go to the bathroom alone. To eat a meal that is at the temperature it is supposed to be at. When your children are especially young, women need a break from all the touching. The last thing a woman wants is to be touched, if she hasn’t had a break from touching all day. Most women will say that nothing is sexier than a man who takes an active role in caring for his children.
There is still more actions needed to bring back intimacy. Listen to your wife. Really listen. What is it that is on her mind? Does she miss working? Did she miss out on a promotion? Would she rather be a stay at home mom? Has she been wanting to take up a new hobby? Whatever is going on in her mind, she needs to know that you care. She doesn’t need to be told that she is loved (although that can’t hurt); she needs to feel your love.
Next, take action to make your wife feel sexy. Compliment her. Tell her she is beautiful. Don’t just say it to say it, but mean it. If she just got a new haircut and you hate it, don’t tell her you hate it, but don’t tell her you love it either. Find something genuine. Tell her you love the way her eyes sparkle. Compliment her laugh or smile. Tell her you enjoy her cooking. Simply say thank you for being there.
Touch your wife. Do not be sexual in touching her, but sweet and caring. Put your hand on her back. Hold her hand while watching TV. Hug her goodbye. Quit trying to put the moves on her. After a few days, kiss your wife passionately without trying to go beyond kissing. What makes teenagers and those who start dating so hot for each other is that no one expects to have sex in the beginning. By taking things slow, you heat up your sex life and reignite the passion.
Do not expect anything to happen overnight. This is a slow process. One that will pay off in droves if you have the patience. The more you think of her, the more she will think of you.