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How to stop your husband from looking at other women: Dealing with your guy's staring and ogling

Updated on February 26, 2013
The paparazzi is famous for picturing celebrities in an awkward spot even when they are not guilty of ogling.
The paparazzi is famous for picturing celebrities in an awkward spot even when they are not guilty of ogling.

How to stop your husband from looking at other women? While some believe that staring at other women is in a man's genes, it is not impossible to make your guy stop ogling at other women at least when you are around him. For wives and girlfriends alike, here are ways on how to stop a husband or boyfriend from glancing at other women all the time.

1) Don't pass off staring lightly: Reprimand your guy for looking at other women

If you are really serious about stopping your man from staring at other women, don't take it lightly. Pull him up whenever you see him looking at other girls and refuse to take any excuse or pass it off as something amusing.

Don't laugh the matter off and don't accept silly reasons which often include that such behavior is in a guy's genes. Stand your ground and reprimand your guy for checking other women out in front of you.

2) Maintain constant eye contact when you are out on dates

Maintain continuous and constant eye contact with your boyfriend or husband whenever you both go out for dinner or on a fun date. Use your eyes to grab his complete attention, just like how you did when you first started dating.

There is a lot that can be communicated by your eyes. Use the power of expression to pull him like a magnet. This will also make him aware that your eyes are on him all the time.

When was the last time you posed dramatically so you could grab his attention?
When was the last time you posed dramatically so you could grab his attention? | Source

3) Make a move: Give him reasons to ogle at you

Make a naughty move or pose sexily when you know that your husband is looking at you. It will grab his attention instantly. Don't make it apparent that it was deliberate.

Little things like these can leave a lasting impression. Apart from giving your husband reasons to stare at you at that very moment, this trick will also make him look at you from time to time in anticipation of catching you in yet another attractive pose.

4) Refuse to go out with him

Put your foot down and refuse to go out with your guy if his habit of looking at other women does not go away. Let it be an excuse to miss parties, social functions and family gatherings with him.

This will show your guy that you are unwilling to budge until he keeps his side of the deal.

5) Communicate: Express insecurity, rejection and depression

Have a candid conversation with your boyfriend or husband about how insecure and rejected you feel when he looks at other women.

Pour out your emotions in front of him and explain to him that it breaks your heart to see his eyes dart at other women. An emotionally charged plea should get into your guy's psyche. He is likely to consciously make an effort to stop staring at other women.

6) Walk out on him if he looks at other women again

If you have already told him many times before, walk out on your boyfriend or husband when he looks at other women again. This should send a very clear and strong message to him that his ogling will not be tolerated.

Refuse to accept an apology and don't budge regardless of how many times he says 'I am sorry'. Simply grab the car keys or hop on to the bus to leave the spot immediately. Any explanations from his side can be given after he reaches home.

Flirting is a healthy way of getting your guy to focus all his attention on you.
Flirting is a healthy way of getting your guy to focus all his attention on you.

7) Flirt with your guy as if you were teenagers falling in love

Give your husband a chance to fall in love with you all over again by flirting with him, just like how you did when the both of you met for the first time. Stroke your guy's ego by telling him how handsome he looks and whisper naughty things in his ear.

Apart from grabbing your guy's complete attention, flirting is also very healthy for your relationship. It will rejuvenate your married life and make you both feel lucky to have each other.

8) Increase the sexual quotient in your relationship

Your boyfriend or husband may be looking at other women because the sexual quotient of your relationship is non-existent. It is easy for partners to take their sex lives for granted especially after they have been with each other for a couple of years.

Spare some time out from your busy routines when you and your partner can be with each other without any distractions. Increase the physical intimacy in your marriage to get him to focus all his attention only towards you.

9) Let him know how it feels when other men stare at you

You can counter the feeling you get when he stares at other women by showing him how it feels when other men stare at you. Watch him boil from inside as guys get distracted when you walk by.

Use this trick with caution because doing it repeatedly can really annoy your boyfriend or husband if he knows that you are deliberately dressing provocatively to irk him. Don't test his limits with this.

10) Give him a sexy visual image of you to remember

Give your husband a sexy visual image of yourself to remember. Wear your sexiest lingerie or bring out the short black dress. Parade your beautiful self in front of him and allow him to soak in your beauty.

This exercise will leave your husband starry eyed and he will have no reason to look at other women for a long time. Keep giving him these doses of sexiness every now and then.

Refuse physical intimacy if he refuses to kick his habit.
Refuse physical intimacy if he refuses to kick his habit.

11) Refuse sex and intimacy until he stops his habit of looking at other women

Refusing to get intimate and having sex with your boyfriend or husband may be used as a last resort if his habit of looking at other women does not stop. Tell him that you don't feel like getting intimate because you are in a bad mood triggered by his ogling habits.

Refusing physical intimacy is tricky. This has the potential to dent a relationship. You may want to re-think before you decide to use this as a bait to make your guy stop looking at other girls.

12) Look at other men in front of him: Show him how it feels

Look at other men in front of your husband or boyfriend to show him how you feel when he looks at other women. He is likely to have a sudden realization of how disgusting his habit is and how it affects a partner on a deep emotional level.


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      Brenda Durham 

      7 years ago

      dashingscorpio is right, in my opinion.

      A man (just like a woman) should be responsible for their own actions.

      Otherwise you just get drawn into game-playing, which really isn't fun nor funny, if you're serious about your relationship.

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      7 years ago

      A woman should never express insecurity, depression or rejection to a man. Clingy behavior such as holding on to your man too tightly whenever you're out in public is a turn off. Men are attracted to confident women who are secure in their own skin. I don't see anything wrong with a man looking at another woman discreetly. It's very unrealistic for a woman to expect a man to not ever look at another woman again just because he's in a relationship. I wouldn't mind if my partner looked either. It's okay to maintain eye contact if you are sitting in front of each other at a restaurant, but constantly looking around to see what he is looking at or where he is looking at is a sign of insecurity. I agree with dashing scorpio.

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      7 years ago from NAIROBI - KENYA

      This is quite interesting. Letting him know you are also so beautiful in whichever way you can makes him minimize looking at other women in your presense.

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      Single Shot 

      7 years ago

      @ DDE Sorry for my comment, I did realize that after I typed that to you, that I should not have, and this was before dashing said anything. I hope you can accept my apology.

      @ Dashing, your right..and like your name by the way.. born in November??

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      7 years ago from United States

      Interesting tips. Sometimes it is okay to wander around as long as it is just with eyes. ;)

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      7 years ago from Chicago

      Single Shot your statement towards DDE seems to indicate that her lack of (jealousy) means she somehow does not love her husband and his looking at other women means he will soon be cheating.... That is a huge leap to make! Maybe DDE is secure in her marriage. Anyone with eyes looks at attractive people including yourself!

      Everyone is entitled to have their (own) "deal breakers" but one thing is for certain no one has the right to (control) you physically or your thoughts and you have no right to control another person. Ideally you want to be with someone who shares your same values and wants the same things as you. Instead of trying to "change" someone just move on and find someone who (naturally) does things the way you like.

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      Dora Weithers 

      7 years ago from The Caribbean

      Stopping a man from looking at other woman is a job no woman should sign up for. Isn't it true that people mostly do what you tell them NOT to do? Anyway, your views are interesting. Thanks for sharing.

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      Single Shot 

      7 years ago

      It tells your husband that your giving him a little to much free will and soon that "oogling" will turn into cheating..I' think you should think about letting him do it...and think about how you really feel about your you really love him...or since you don't care..were you just wanting someone to be your not lonely..think about it...and have a good day DDE.

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      Devika Primić 

      7 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I don't mind my husband looking at other woman, some women hate the idea of their husbands looking at other women, but so what? Thanks for sharing this hub.

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      Single Shot 

      7 years ago

      Very interesting! Funny how this should come up all the sudden. You fiance' has a horrible habit of looking at other women while in public. He uses the.."your reactions are so priceless and your jealously is so cute". It's not the fact I'm jealous, in fact jealously has nothing to do with it. Hurt, Pain, and fear of him going behind my back to another women is what triggers my feelings. I've talked to him about this numerous times..An sadly I have nowhere else to go if it does come to me deciding to leave. Thank you very much for this Article I will try to do some of this tips you've given ! Rated 10

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      7 years ago

      is it co existence or what? The culture of western and India is different at least before few years ago but ladies having same complaint from their men. :)

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      7 years ago from Chicago

      Very interesting!

      Personally speaking I believe the only person one can actually (control) is herself or himself. If a woman doesn't want her man looking at other women then she should only date or marry a man who does NOT look at other women! (at least not while she is around).

      If you have to teach or train someone to be respectful or considerate of your feelings then he or she is not "the one" for you.

      Whenever we try to "change" our mate it leads to frustration on our part and resentment on their part. No one likes to be "told" what they can say let alone look at. Relationships are "at will" and if someone has to "change" in order to be with you than clearly they aren't the "right" one for you! One man's opinion! :-)


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