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How to treat a girl

Updated on March 10, 2013
My brother and I
My brother and I

As an older sister, I felt compelled a few years ago, once my little brother hit puberty, to offer some words of advice to him about girls.

I had figured out some things that some boys just don't get about girls, and, as my brother isn't always the most perceptive of people, I figured I might try to prevent any awkward situations with girls for my little bro.

If these sound like they were written in early high school, they were. I don't claim to be an expert in relationships, but I know my brother better than anyone, and I know how girls work, and I know that my brother is like a lot of boys in the world.

Many times, boys (and men) will complain that they don't know what women want... so here are some tips to give you a good start.

Do's and Don'ts of Girls


·Don't be an asshole. Which may be hard for you. Haha.

· Don't over-flirt; teasing too much or playing hard-to-get messes with her mind. And no, it's not funny, you sicko.

· Don't pick up the girl late.

· Don't pick up the girl too early. Half an hour is too early! Ten minutes is good.

· Don't talk about other girls in her presence!

· Don't make the girl call you! It's no fun and it makes it feel like you're not interested in her.

· Don't yawn or look at your watch. Ouch. I mean, it sounds like an obvious "No", but it happens QUITE a bit.

· Don't try too hard; it's like you're trying to be someone else and you're taking her for a stoop.

· Don't let her do ALL the talking, even though we know you're the more quiet guy.

· Don't put her over your friends all the time, because then you seem obsessive.

· Don't have nothing planned, unless if you're just hanging out. Be full of ideas or else you seem like you are identity-less.

· Don't be too pushy or arrogant; that is such a turn-off.

· Don't be too touchy-feely that you can't take your hands off her; it's cute to hold hands once in a while, but it's kind of creepy if you're attached to the hip.

· Don't get anything too expensive, because in your teen years, relationships aren't worth all that money.

· Don't pick anything really serious or deeply personal to start out a conversation or to get to know her, because we all know how badly it can turn out.

· Don't be too forward! Although girls love it when guys make the first move, being too bold can freak a girl out!


· Pick up the girl from her house

· Be courteous and have manners (redundant for a purpose): open car doors, pull out chairs, etc.

· Pay for her things when you take her out! Unless if she persistently refuses financial aid.

· Give her a compliment every once in a while... but only if you mean it, of course.

· Call her! It makes her feel special.

· Make conversation; don't be an inanimate blob and just sit there.

· Listen to what she's saying! Don't be like, "What" after she's told you her life story, which she'll do at some point.

· Be considerate to her when you're around your friends; it'll impress her that you can still be cool when you're with guys.

· Put some effort into your wardrobe.

· Give her random things, even if they're little; burn her a CD, find something cheap and make some connection to her with it

· Be spontaneous! Call her at an usual time, tell her what you like about her out of the blue. You're good at being random, I know.

· Laugh at things she's saying if she's funny. I mean, if she's really not funny, then she'll get the hint, but hearing laughter is good for a girl.

· Tell her she looks good! But not if she looks like crap or she might not believe you. Well, sometimes; it takes strategy...

· If you're at a dance, dance, fool! You know what I mean; even if you're bad, a girl will dig it if you're on the floor. Bust out the worm!

· Get in good with the family, even if it's just being friends. Trust can't hurt. Talk to the parents, play with younger sibs, etc.

· Try to say what you think a girl wants to hear. Don't make it a big lie, but if you can get away with it, be her hero. Thus, the "Does this make me look fat?" question.

· Practice unhooking a bra beforehand. Just kidding.

· BE YOURSELF! *corny* Because you have such a good sense of humor that shouldn't go to waste.


· You can kiss on a first date, but no make-out sessions! That just indicates a fling/short relationship, nothing really meaningful. Unless if that's what you want. A second date is good for making out.

· Don't be a wet kisser!

· Don't lick her teeth or anything weird like that. Unless if she's that type of girl.

· Don't attack her face!

· Don't kiss her if you have eaten anything that would smell bad to her. Nothing is worse than bad breath.

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      6 years ago

      LOL,what does the girl do?is like the girls shit dont stink,treat her howd youd wanna be treated..simple

      im suprised there isnt points like *give her money when she wants it

      *fulfill all her needs

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      10 years ago from atop the grateful castle

      Great hub with lots of specific do's and don'ts. Just want to share with you what my mom said to me when I asked her why she loved dad. She said, "He makes me feel special." Any guy who follows your advice here can't go wrong..he will be making his lady feel "special".

    • glassvisage profile imageAUTHOR


      10 years ago from Northern California

      I would lay off a little... at this point it seems like it depends mostly on how she feels and what she's ready to accept. Be ok with stepping back for a little while and see what she wants.

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      10 years ago

      I was playing a online game while some random girl told me she loved me.lucky we were from the same province. But i am stuck in a position.i went a bit hard on her. but she told me she might forgive me.if she does forgive me what should i do for her?

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      10 years ago

      haha that was fun to read


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