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How to win back an Ex with jealousy
How to win back an ex with jealousy
How to Win Back an Ex Boyfriend with Jealousy
He still hasn't called, has he? All of that time that you invested in building and sustaining a relationship together has been lost, and it seems that "the One", has erased you from his life completely and permanently. No matter what steps you take, it feels like you and your ex are drifting further and further apart.
Want to know why he won't contact you? It's simple, really; you haven't given your ex time to miss you yet. Since the breakup, he's been filling the space you used to occupy with something, or someone else.
So what should you do to win him back? (Assuming he's worth the effort!) What's quickest method to get your ex boyfriend interested in you again?
The answer may surprise you in its simplicity; jealousy.
Once you manage to create jealousy in an ex boyfriend, his focus will go right back to you- where it belongs! Nothing is more attention-grabbing than the thought that someone else has something that he doesn't, and remember- the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side for guys. Simply put, jealousy is huge part of the equation when it comes to getting an ex boyfriend back.
There are a lot of methods that can be used to create jealousy, even if he dumped you, even if it seems he's no longer paying any attention. It may appear to be a hopeless situation now, but believe me- there are still emotional bonds and attachements that can be used to incite a little jealousy.
Create Jealousy By Accepting The Breakup
Your first step? Acknowledge and accept your break up. Instead of fighting for your relationship, casually shrug it off. Walk away. This will make your boyfriend realize that maybe he's not worth chasing after all, creating an insecurity on his part. When his confidence is destroyed, he begins to question his decision to end the romance, making a nice dent in your ex's ego. Satisfying, right?
Create Jealousy by Severing Contact
Where did you go? What are you doing? Did you move on already? Are you seeing someone else? Why are you not chasing him, calling him, or trying to repair the split?
These questions act as seeds of doubt in his decisions when planted in your ex boyfriend's mind. When they grow, they breed jealousy... for the simple reason that your ex wants to be the first to move forward with HIS life, and will be jealous if he perceives you as moving on with yours!
By breaking ties and not talking to your ex, You've surrounded yourself with mystery, tapping into a guy's primal desire to hunt, and chase. I'm not going to lie, it won't be easy, but trust me, the payout could be huge. In order for this strategy to be effective, you must stay entirely away from phone calls, emails, texts, facebook messages- ANY attempt at premature re-connection will only sabotage your efforts. You must be prepared toremove all traces of yourself from your ex's life. This is guaranteed to create jealousy by not only making your ex miss you, but also create a craving for knowledgeof what you're doing... even if you're doing nothing at all!
Create Jealousy by Dating Other Guys
Although the breakup might feel too fresh for you to want to see someone else, this may be your best bet at creating jealousy.
The simple truth is that dating someone new may be the quickest way to bring your ex crawling back to you. Believe me when I say that jealousy will instantly flare once your ex sees you in the arms of another man, laughing, flirting, having the time of your life. He will instantly see you as "the one that got away", as even though he dumped you, the LAST thing your ex wants to see is that you've found someone to replace him. Even worse, someone he perceives as better than him.
This doesn't mean you should grab the first guy you see and start dating around. Find someone you like and actually want to hang out with. You may be surprised, and be able to move forward yourself! Getting out is always good, especially after a breakup. A point to consider, when employing this strategy, is that you may wish to avoid physical intimacy with the new man, at least until you are at the point where you no longer miss your ex, and wish to continue with the new relationship. This ensures that your heart won't become hopelessly enmeshed in yet ANOTHER relationship, before you've gotten over the first one.
Once you've created a sensation of jealousy, don't stop now! Victory is nearly within your grasp. From this point, you will need a well thought out, step-by-step plan on what to do next!
Your Next Steps
However satisfying it may be, using jealousy to win back an ex is only one piece of the whole puzzle. You will also have to learn how to make him miss you after the break up and realize what he is missing in his life. You can achieve this through specific psychological techniques that will suddenly wake your ex boyfriend wake up and see that the single life, or even without fabulous YOU, is not so hot.
Before you do any of that though, you will need to figure out if he still likes you first. There is no point rushing in there with a plan if he is not interested in you anymore, as this will only cause you unnecessary pain and humiliation. A low-investment, high-return strategy that enables you to make inroads into your ex boyfriend's life again is through Facebook. There are extremely powerful Facebook tricks that you can start using on him today to get a response from him. Surprise is your friend here- when you do what he least expects, you will have the best results.
An example of this would be taking the high road- leave him a sweet message on a date significant to him, thus reminding him of exactly what he's missing in sweet, considerate, wonderful you.