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How to be aware of cheating men in workplace? Be on red alert!

Updated on November 17, 2013

Today we live in a society where men and women work together for their career. Women cannot behave as in Victorian times in the modern society because their work is such that they have to coordinate with men. It is advisable to maintain a friendly approach with your colleagues so that your work atmosphere is amiable. But there are men who take advantage of friendliness to lure women into unwanted relationships and dump them when their interest in them fades.

Lookout for potential prey

Not all men are like that. There are many men who have a dignified mentality towards their women colleagues and they maintain a good friendly relationship with them.But there are men who have an inner and hidden mind which is full of lust looking for potential prey.

You should be friendly with your male colleagues. Your friendly behavior should have a certain amount of chillness which warns a man he cannot go any further than this. When a man talks with you with his eyes not looking at your eyes but elsewhere in your body, it is a danger signal that his approach is not friendly .He is on look out for a superficial relationship and you should immediately be on the alert.

No discussing family issues

Do not discuss your family matters with your colleagues. There are some women who share their most personal life innocently with men. It provides opportunity for some men to say sympathetic words to you and if you are keyed up with your worries, your mind seeks words of consolation and if that is given by your colleague, you find yourself drawn towards him.

This is the time your masked colleague was waiting for, and he lures you with appreciation, tender words and other tricks he knows to pull you into a relationship which has no meaning and durability. I personally feel family matters should not be discussed outside and everything should be resolved within the family itself.

Do not give your mobile number

Do not give your personal mobile number and email address to everyone. You should have a privacy which should not be intruded by everyone. Also, do not go out alone with your colleagues to far off places or some late night clubs. Your personality and behavior should be such that it shows you are a woman who cannot be taken for granted and if anyone misbehaves with you, do not hesitate to show him your anger.

You must dress with dignity and do not wear exposing clothes. There are many dresses which shows you in an elegant way. Clothes are a symbol of your character and wear such clothes that drape you well without clinging to you. Avoid receiving gifts from such men. Tell them firmly you do not accept gifts.

Be traditional

You might think that I am being a little too conservative in this modern world. It is always better for a woman to stay away from men and maintain a friendly and dignified distance. Parents should inculcate the time old, but precious traditions into the character of their daughter from the young age itself.

Too much of permissiveness might give a false sense of happiness and modernity among today’s generation, but it is always tradition and individuality which ring the bell of success in your family life. Be modern without being permissive, bold without being daring, friendly without being too close and beget the respect of everyone.

© 2011 mathira


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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      praveen, you are right when you say that girls should be very careful.

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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      I am pleased you like it Rajan.

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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      Thank you seekingaffair for the visit.

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      Disillusioned 4 years ago from Kerala, India

      Your last para is very significant.

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      seekingaffair 5 years ago

      Friend with benefits is another title of the article. Thanks for the informative post. Men must be aware of women in workplace always.

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      mathira 6 years ago from chennai

      You are true when you say that girls should not give too much of freedom to men and thank you for visiting praveenadevi.

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      praveenadevi 6 years ago from Trivandrum, Kerala, India

      Superb...its very useful to employed ladies..especially girls... They often come across with such situation in their offices..In my opinion approach each colleague in your office carefully, whether it is a lady or a man. Don't trust or give too much freedom to anybody but still keep a healthy friendship with everybody..