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How I Suffer in Silence When My Husband Is Right 100% Of The Time!

Updated on April 28, 2012
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Right 100%


My husband thought this would make a great Hub-page -

so I thought I take on the challenge -

and let you decide whether he is right, or not...!

Now, he cannot be right 100% of the time if this Hub-page subject matter does not make a great Hub...

so, let me regale you with his antics!

Fake It Till You Make It

When I first met my husband (obviously before we were married) we were just teenagers. He was 17 and I was 18.

He had this view that he knew everything and that what he did not know wasn't worth mentioning!

He was to say later, that he marveled at his father's uptake of information; he acknowledged and was amazed at just how much his father had learned in the time between when he was 18 and when he was 21!

My man had a 'mantra' of 'fake it till you make it.'

So, when we first met he was confident and knowledgeable in my eyes and that was what first attracted me to him, as I was incredibly shy and rather naive.

He was this young man that exuded a persona larger than his physical self and I thought that he was rather handsome - what the hey... to me he was downright sexy!

'The Thinker'
'The Thinker' | Source

Love of Learning

My man had a love of learning that drove his father nearly mad!

He was always asking, 'Why?' and this was what fueled his ongoing learning. He read everything he laid his hands on and he is the only person I know who can tell me what the time is - usually to within 5-10 minutes - without ever wearing a watch.

When he was a kid he used to count time, and this became a subconscious habit; so, now, he can, taking less than a minute to check his internal clock, tell you what the time is, give or take about 5 minutes.

He didn't learn much at school, much to his father's dismay, as he just didn't like it, but since leaving school, has never stopped learning.

To Name A Few...

We were together for those first two years from when we met and then we separated for about 25 years, to meet up again in 2002. Was I surprised at how much he knew when I met him again?

Sure was!

He had done courses in all sorts of things - like plant management, pest control, computer studies; and he had trained as a chef, been a florist delivery person, shoe salesman, and portrait photographer to name a few...

He became an adult builders apprentice two years after we decided to get back together, and he did this for a little over three years before a work accident caused 7 broken bones in his right foot, and he could no longer do the tasks required - like climbing ladders and being on his feet for 30 hours a week.

So, not content to sit with his foot up, trying to take his mind off the pain, he continued with the computer studies he had begun several years earlier, and after 3 years full time study was certified as a Microsoft Technician.

A Natural Diver
A Natural Diver | Source

Skimmers and Divers

There are two types of people - generally.

There are skimmers and divers.

People like me tend to skim the surface of things and move between interests, whereas people like my husband get interested in things, dive deep, do some research and find out more about them.

He is the kind of person who reads the manual and I'm the sort who tries to work it out first and as a last resort skims through the manual in order to get it put together or get it going.

I must say that when I need help with something technical I ask him; if I want something baked or cooked or how to do it, I ask him. If I want advice about almost anything, I ask him.

So, yes, he is right...but not sure about 100% of the time.

Wisdom - A Greatly Prized Attribute

If he wants to know about people, he asks me. If he wants a greater understanding of how others perceive him, he asks me. If he wants information about sewing, or gardening or anything I know something about, he asks me. If he wants help with color or anything to do with design, he asks me.

He has asked me 'is it hard being right 100% of the time,' when he was grudgingly acknowledging that I was right, and I replied, 'Not really...' with a giggle.

I then said to him, 'For a long time, it seemed I did not know enough about anything to be right at any time, so to be right on some things now is truly amazing.'

Perhaps experience and age does have some perks... it is called Wisdom and to me, an attribute to be greatly prized.

He Complements Me!
He Complements Me! | Source

Greater Than The Sum of We Two


So there you have it... is my husband right 100% of the time?

Perhaps not 100%, but then...

neither am I.

We both have skills and attributes that we can share with each other, and are we then not greater than the sum of just we two?

It seems to me that perhaps we complement each other quite nicely... don't you agree?

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    • Johanna Baker profile imageAUTHOR

      Johanna Mary Elisabeth Baker 

      6 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      Thanks so much for your comments and feedback.

    • slcockerham profile image

      slcockerham 

      6 years ago from Tallahassee, Florida

      Great hub Johanna, Absolutely loved your take on this marital interaction. It also sounded strangely familiar to what is lovingly said between my wife and me. She used to say that I am always right somewhat grudgingly years ago when we bumped heads over things. Thanks for the great hub!

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      Pavlo Badovskyi 

      6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

      Great hub! I ll tell you a secret- I can read what is written between lines :). What I read here - is a deepest feeling of love to your husband. You had different times in your relations, but you are together and this is amazing!

    • Janine Huldie profile image

      Janine Huldie 

      6 years ago from New York, New York

      Love this Hub and can relate slightly, because my husband and I too compliment each other very nicely. So it was so nice to read about your relationship and story. Am sharing and voting this up!!

    • Johanna Baker profile imageAUTHOR

      Johanna Mary Elisabeth Baker 

      6 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      Thanks Sunshine for your encouragement, it's a pleasure

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      6 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Way to go! You took on the challenge and were a success! Thank you for sharing with us!:)

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      Ann-Christin 

      6 years ago from UK

      A very interesting hub you sound like you work well together. I don't think anyone can be right 100% of the time because sometimes there is no right or wrong just an opinion. Well that's my opinion anyway :) By the way I'm a skimmer!

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      Annie Fenn 

      6 years ago from Australia

      It sounds like you compliment each other perfectly!!! I am a skimmer like you, my partner, well I think he would probably like to think he is a diver, but then he thinks he already knows without doing the ground work - in my eyes that makes him a skimmer too!! Thank you for sharing a little of your relationship combination in a fun and thought provoking way!!! My votes to you and sharing!

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      emilybee 

      6 years ago

      This is awesome :) Lots of men think they are right all the time, but I think yours complements you :) You wrote it in a very kind, light hearted way. Voted up.

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      Tammy 

      6 years ago from North Carolina

      This is a very interesting hub and a cute story. I am glad you compliment eachother. Voting up and sharing.

    • Johanna Baker profile imageAUTHOR

      Johanna Mary Elisabeth Baker 

      6 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      Thanks for your lovely comment ... I just love him and yes we work well together.

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      Bev G 

      6 years ago from Wales, UK

      It's a great Hub! I love it. You sound like a very complementary couple.

      I like to be right but I am learning to shut-up sometimes... "Would I rather be right or happy?" Being convinced I'm right and trying to make the other person agree can cause such upset in our house!

    • Johanna Baker profile imageAUTHOR

      Johanna Mary Elisabeth Baker 

      6 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      If you get down to here, I would like to thank you for reading this hub. It is of a slightly more personal nature,(without being a Haiku or other form of poetry) but that said, everything we write here shows something of who we are. I just wanted to share a glimpse of how we have fun together, how he supports me writing hubs especially and that learning ought to be a way of life! I hope you enjoyed it, thanks again...

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