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How I Suffer in Silence When My Husband Is Right 100% Of The Time!
My husband thought this would make a great Hub-page -
so I thought I take on the challenge -
and let you decide whether he is right, or not...!
Now, he cannot be right 100% of the time if this Hub-page subject matter does not make a great Hub...
so, let me regale you with his antics!
Fake It Till You Make It
When I first met my husband (obviously before we were married) we were just teenagers. He was 17 and I was 18.
He had this view that he knew everything and that what he did not know wasn't worth mentioning!
He was to say later, that he marveled at his father's uptake of information; he acknowledged and was amazed at just how much his father had learned in the time between when he was 18 and when he was 21!
My man had a 'mantra' of 'fake it till you make it.'
So, when we first met he was confident and knowledgeable in my eyes and that was what first attracted me to him, as I was incredibly shy and rather naive.
He was this young man that exuded a persona larger than his physical self and I thought that he was rather handsome - what the hey... to me he was downright sexy!
Love of Learning
My man had a love of learning that drove his father nearly mad!
He was always asking, 'Why?' and this was what fueled his ongoing learning. He read everything he laid his hands on and he is the only person I know who can tell me what the time is - usually to within 5-10 minutes - without ever wearing a watch.
When he was a kid he used to count time, and this became a subconscious habit; so, now, he can, taking less than a minute to check his internal clock, tell you what the time is, give or take about 5 minutes.
He didn't learn much at school, much to his father's dismay, as he just didn't like it, but since leaving school, has never stopped learning.
To Name A Few...
We were together for those first two years from when we met and then we separated for about 25 years, to meet up again in 2002. Was I surprised at how much he knew when I met him again?
He had done courses in all sorts of things - like plant management, pest control, computer studies; and he had trained as a chef, been a florist delivery person, shoe salesman, and portrait photographer to name a few...
He became an adult builders apprentice two years after we decided to get back together, and he did this for a little over three years before a work accident caused 7 broken bones in his right foot, and he could no longer do the tasks required - like climbing ladders and being on his feet for 30 hours a week.
So, not content to sit with his foot up, trying to take his mind off the pain, he continued with the computer studies he had begun several years earlier, and after 3 years full time study was certified as a Microsoft Technician.
Skimmers and Divers
There are two types of people - generally.
There are skimmers and divers.
People like me tend to skim the surface of things and move between interests, whereas people like my husband get interested in things, dive deep, do some research and find out more about them.
He is the kind of person who reads the manual and I'm the sort who tries to work it out first and as a last resort skims through the manual in order to get it put together or get it going.
I must say that when I need help with something technical I ask him; if I want something baked or cooked or how to do it, I ask him. If I want advice about almost anything, I ask him.
So, yes, he is right...but not sure about 100% of the time.
Wisdom - A Greatly Prized Attribute
If he wants to know about people, he asks me. If he wants a greater understanding of how others perceive him, he asks me. If he wants information about sewing, or gardening or anything I know something about, he asks me. If he wants help with color or anything to do with design, he asks me.
He has asked me 'is it hard being right 100% of the time,' when he was grudgingly acknowledging that I was right, and I replied, 'Not really...' with a giggle.
I then said to him, 'For a long time, it seemed I did not know enough about anything to be right at any time, so to be right on some things now is truly amazing.'
Perhaps experience and age does have some perks... it is called Wisdom and to me, an attribute to be greatly prized.
Greater Than The Sum of We Two
So there you have it... is my husband right 100% of the time?
Perhaps not 100%, but then...
neither am I.
We both have skills and attributes that we can share with each other, and are we then not greater than the sum of just we two?
It seems to me that perhaps we complement each other quite nicely... don't you agree?