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How to Deal with Mood Swings and Being in a Bad Mood

Updated on October 28, 2011

Do you have ever-changing mood swings? Have others said you’re moody?

Don’t let those moods and attitudes control you. Pull out of the victim mentality. Use these practical tips to get outside of yourself.

Remove those mood swing stumbling blocks that inhibit you from fulfilling your dreams.

Having a bad day

Snap Out of It

There’s a familiar line in the movie, Moonstruck, when Cher’s character slaps, “Snap out of it.” This line is used in the representation of love displayed between the film’s characters.

When a person is in a foul mood, snapping out of it doesn’t necessarily come easy.

Matter of fact, a person just might ‘snap’ if another tells them such a thing.

Most people in a bad mood just want to be left alone.

Unpredictability Leads to Fear

Do you fear what the future holds? Are you feeling stuck in your life? These questions purposely illustrate the many moods found in people today.

Have you ever visited someone and wondered what kind of mood they’ll be in when you arrive?

Most people have someone in their life that has unpredictable behavior or moods. Many will try to avoid them too because they don’t want to be on the receiving end of that terrible mood.

Bipolar Disorders

This article is not to be confused with the unusual shifts in mood associated with bipolar illness.

However it’s worth mentioning that bipolar disorder affects a great number of men and women. The National Institute of Mental Health identifies bipolar as a manic-depressive illness. It is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels and the ability to carry out day to day tasks.

These shifts are very different from the normal ups and downs that everyone goes through from time to time. Bipolar is a complex illness. If you are unsure, ask your family doctor.

Ever-changing mood swings

It is so hard to do the right thing when you feel the wrong way. No matter how you feel, you can still do the right thing. For example, you don’t have to feel like forgiving someone to forgive them. You do it by choice. The same is true concerning moodiness.

The ever changing mood swings associated with typical patterns of behavior include positive and negative attitudes.

There are many types of moods. Moody behavior can be exhibited in the activities associated with aggressiveness, bitterness, carelessness, difficulties, anxieties, gloominess, happiness, and even laziness.

Positive Moods

Not all moods are negative. There are positive feelings and attitudes associated with moodiness. Examples of positive moods include humor, liveliness, playfulness, cheerfulness, excitement, calmness, and a relaxing mood.

Definition of a Mood

Mood is defined by someone’s state of mind. It includes feelings and temperaments of an individual or group.

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10 Principles to Deal with Bad Moods

Moods can instill actions as well as reactions. For example, anger is a mood which generates an exterior action. Sadness is attributed to causing an inward movement. Worry is a mood which stops the river flowing of blessings.

How does one deal with those bad moods? Diligently apply these following principles to personally deal with those undesirable mood swings.

  1. Let go of control. Emotionally out of control people use those emotions to manipulate people.
  2. Don’t get rattled over those things you have no control.
  3. Don’t feel sorry for yourself. Having pity parties keeps you locked up inside. It’s a form of self-torture. A hypocritical spirit will steal your joy.
  4. Listen to the warnings. Are you having a fit about something or about someone’s behavior?
  5. Learn to practice forgiveness, immediately. Don’t let the unforgiving heart build bitterness into your spirit.
  6. Get a mindset that will not allow the enemy to steal your joy.
  7. Learn the word of God. Study it daily.
  8. Envision yourself from God’s perspective. Have a spiritual awakening by looking through the lens of God. See yourself as God sees you.
  9. Take time to emotionally grieve. Release those emotions of loss and hurt, and then move forward.
  10. Take care of yourself physically. Get enough rest. Eat properly and exercise daily.

Moodswings - Charlotte Church

Stability releases ability

God calls you where you are. His strength works beautifully through your weakness. He purposely chooses the weak and foolish things of this world to demonstrate His glory.

Through the power of the Holy Spirit, God will work with you too.

God sees your heart. He will pull you up, hold onto you and give you the power and strength to endure.

The Bible teaches you reap what you sow; more than you sow, and later than you sow. In due season, you will reap the benefits of the harvest.

Brokenness recognized in life teaches wisdom.

Angels are Sent From Above

The Bible promises that certain situations in life will continually be allowed until one learns to remain calm in the days of adversity.

Pray confidently. Learn to trust in Him. Look to the heavenly Father. Trust in His ability to take care of those frustrating situations.

The spiritual realm is watching. The angels are waiting to help.

When you are feeling the most helpless, or frightened and intimated by your adversaries, know you will be delivered. With God’s help, you can overcome.

Stand firm in the one Spirit, striving together as one for the faith of the gospel without being frightened. See Philippians 1:27-28

You have not been given a spirit of timidity but of spirit of power. The fruits of the spirit found in Galatians dwell within every believer. The fruits of the spirit demonstrate a positive attitude in all circumstances. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22-23.

Put those things in perspective. Enjoy your life and the blessings you have.

Stability is a sure sign you are trusting in God and desiring for Him to work His purpose in your life.


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    • samtebbutt profile image


      6 years ago from Ireland

      Thankyou FaithDream. Enjoyed reading your hub.It is a great thing to "emotionally grieve" To shed old skin, to hold on leads to depression and staleness

    • Movie Master profile image

      Movie Master 

      6 years ago from United Kingdom

      An excellent article FaithDream, this is well written with lots of good advice and a strong message.

      Thank you for sharing, best wishes MM

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      Brenda Barnes 

      6 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

      You have written a wonderful and encouraging article FaithDream. Being human, we all will have times when we are not as patient as we should be. Those fruits of the Spirit really do help when we picture them growing in our heart. The more I cultivate kindness, patience, love, happiness and sweetness the more I want them. Purvis is right. We can ask forgiveness and the other person may give it. But some words linger forever and cause pain. The tongue is incredibly powerful and it is used first when mood swings strike. But we can and must take control of them. Thanks again for this reminder.

    • PurvisBobbi44 profile image


      6 years ago from Florida

      My Grandmother told me once--(because I am really a spitfire sometimes) that words can never be taken back once you have said them in anger, because they settle on the heart of the person you said them to, even if they forgive you, some people will not forget.

      That makes me think most of the time before I speak. I try anyway.

      Thanks for your hub.


    • FaithDream profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from (Midwest) USA

      Thanks Rev. Always good to get your positive comments. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

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      Margaret Minnicks 

      6 years ago from Richmond, VA

      Excellent article. Thanks for giving so many useful pointers.

    • FaithDream profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from (Midwest) USA

      You are so sweet to say this heart4theword. Sometimes my hubs are messages to myself. I've had to deal with some bad moods lately.

      I'm just learning to embrace the mess. Thanks for your comments.

    • heart4theword profile image


      6 years ago from hub

      Excellent! My hubber-friends are really speaking to me today:) Just had a mood, that overspilled onto my daughter:(...I did ask forgiveness right away, yet I should of controlled my feelings better. Thank you for being a counter-balance of words, fit for my heart...FaithDream!


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