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Forgive and Forget

Updated on August 2, 2019
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To forgive someone is to give yourself a gift. Holding onto to anger and hurt destroys you inside. It may be hard but oh so worth it.


Uplifting Documentary About Forgiveness

I received a message in the comment section of my hub:

I was intrigued by the thought of a positive, uplifting documentary which would give people a chance to forgive and be forgiven. So I decided to share this on a hub.

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A documentary special is being produced by Arnold Shapiro productions and the GMC. The documentary is called "I Forgive You" and is an uplifting special providing people with the opportunity to forgive someone who has hurt them or a loved one, physically, emotionally or financially.

The program will facilitate the healing of the person offering forgiveness with the person receiving the forgiveness and there will be a therapist with experience in mediating and healing who will be present to keep the process safe and positive.

If you are interested in being a part of the documentary special, please submit the following info to:




Brief story of what has happened to you

Contact number and E-Mail address

Thank you!

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Forgiveness/Forgiving Quotes

  • Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart. - Corrie Ten Boom
  • Apologising does not always mean that you are wrong and the other person was right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego. - Unknown
  • It takes a great deal of character strength to apologize quickly out of one's heart rather than out of pity. A person must possess himself and have a deep sense of security in
    fundamental principles and values in order to genuinely apologize. - Stephan Covey
  • You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well. - Lewis B. Smedes
  • When you realize you've made a mistake, make amends immediately. It's easier to eat crow while it is still warm. - Dan Heist
  • One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody everything before you go to bed. - Ann Landers
  • It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive. - Unknown

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Why we need to forgive

Forgiving someone who has hurt you or done you wrong is the most difficult thing you will ever have to do. Whatever hurt has occurred may stay with you for your lifetime. Forgiving is not forgetting. However forgiving helps to release the power of the hurt and allows you to focus on the positive things in life.

When you focus on the hurt and ways of hurting the person back you allow yourself to be filled with hate and resentment. When you forgive someone you let go of all of that hurt and resentment. You allow yourself to move on and begin to heal and find peace. Forgiveness is a choice you make to let go of the wrong done to you and to no longer allow ourselves to be hurt by this.

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself.

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Why do we need to be forgiven?

When you have caused emotional damage to another many times you cause unbelievable pain and loss to yourself. The need to be forgiven becomes an almost overpowering need. You need to feel whole, you need to right the wrong.

How do you go about righting the wrong, stopping the pain you have caused? First and foremost you need to accept the responsibility of what you have done. Understand the damage and hurt you have inflicting upon another person.

You need to feel regret for the pain you have caused. You need to try to make amends for what you have done. Do whatever you can to right the wrong. You need to ask for forgiveness and make the choice to never repeat what you did. Last but not least you need to forgive yourself.

Understand this, because you go through these steps does not mean you will be forgiven. However, you will know in your heart that you have done what you could. If it is a sincere action you will be able to find a little peace in knowing that you have tried. You should be able to let it go and move on.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2012 Susan Hazelton


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    • KoffeeKlatch Gals profile imageAUTHOR

      Susan Hazelton 

      6 years ago from Sunny Florida

      DDE, it does appear to be easier to forgive than forget.

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      Devika Primić 

      6 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Forgiving is easy for me but forgetting is difficult as must be for most people. Interesting thoughts on the topic thanks

    • KoffeeKlatch Gals profile imageAUTHOR

      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      How true Vellur. when you fail to forgive you not only hurt others but yourself.

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      Nithya Venkat 

      7 years ago from Dubai

      Forgiving and forgetting is a very kind act. Forgiving is difficult, but if we do we stop hurting others and most importantly stop hurting ourselves. Great hub with wonderful thoughts.


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