I Know I’m Not The Smartest One In The Room, What Makes You Think That You Are?
When it comes to most things in life I tend to think that I’m undereducated about the subject. Now don’t get me wrong, if it’s about theatre or fashion or why Barbra Streisand did Funny Lady then I’m an expert but other than those and a handful of other things, I know I’m not the smartest one in the room, what makes you think that you are? – Don’t Get Me Started!
Recently I’ve encountered more than one person in “real” life as well as online who seem to have it all figured out. Whether it’s how to stop the oil spilling into the Gulf to the bible, they know it all. Not just a little bit, they know it all. They’re so smart, so sure of what they know and that they’re right that there’s really no room for the rest of us to comment or I guess be alive in their book. What I suspect is that they’re so insecure that they’re afraid that they don’t know something. But if that’s true than why don’t they know how to shut up?
I’ve always admitted that I don’t know anything about geography. I don’t think I ever won a game of Trivial Pursuit simply because I could never get that damned piece of blue “pie” that represented I had answered a geography question successfully. I remember once I was driving from the Detroit airport to a place where I was doing some business and I was on the highway. I didn’t really know where I was going when suddenly I looked up and saw an exit for Canada. I was on the phone with my spouse (who went to college at 16 and usually is the smartest person in any room that just contains the two of us as well as many others) and I said, “Oh my God, there’s an exit for Canada, when did they put that there? I mean, you could make a wrong turn and end up in Canada? I can’t believe it.” My spouse asked me to never repeat that story to anyone but of course I love it. I revel in the fact that there are things I don’t know or understand. Isn’t that what life is supposed to be all about? Learning as we go but knowing that we’ll never figure it all out? Well, that’s my view but apparently it’s not shared with everyone else in the world.
I love when people quote the bible to me when they’re railing against me for stuff like being gay or thinking that I deserve the same rights as straight people. You can’t argue with these people so in most cases it’s best to not even try but they’re so sure that they’re so right and have it all figured out. Now almost everyone will admit that the bible has been interpreted by many so some of what was once written in languages we don’t even readily speak anymore may have been misconstrued over the years. But the bible quoters refuse to even come close to admitting this. They know what they know and they know that God set the laws down so explicitly that they are going to follow it to each letter that is printed in whatever version of the bible they’re reading. They’re right and anyone who brings another interpretation to the table is just wrong, period. Boy they’re smart (eye roll).
I also don’t get people who have to be right for the sake of being right. Even if you prove them wrong, in most cases they’ll state that they didn’t understand the question or that you hadn’t posed the proper argument for them to come to the correct conclusion. They’ll make up a lot of reasons that they couldn’t be wrong and be assured that they are not wrong, were not wrong nor will they ever be wrong. Is never being wrong something to really hang your hat on as a badge of honor?
I’m very opinionated (no surprise to anyone who reads this blog) but the one thing I’m willing to do is admit when I’m wrong as well as stating over and over again when I just don’t know something. I have no idea how to solve the country’s deficit nor do I even know how a stock or bond work unless you’re talking about theatre summer stock or bonding teeth. And even in those cases I don’t know everything nor do I think I’m right about everything. While I can be very jaded and often look at the world with one eyebrow raised, I don’t think I know everything nor do I think I’m so smart that everyone should listen to everything I say and tell me how smart I am either. In some respects I’m an innocent about a lot of things and while I may lie and say that I read Catcher In The Rye and then just nod and smile as some people discuss it at a dinner party, on the whole I realize how much I don’t know and look at the life as one big two year old who has a petulant streak but is curious to learn what I don’t know about most things. It’s okay to not be the smartest, the fastest, the brightest, as long as you can admit it and know that it doesn’t make you less of a person it just makes you a little less smart than someone else about that particular subject. I know I’m not the smartest one in the room, what makes you think that you are? – Don’t Get Me Started!
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