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I Love My Wife

Updated on August 9, 2013

The Love of My Life

I Am Truly Blessed

This hub is something I feel I need to write regarding the love of my life. It is something that has been overdue in saying to the world and to my wife. I can't say enough just how much I love my wife.

When we get married we all make a vow to each other saying that we will stand by each other in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer to death do us part.

My wife has surpassed all and stuck by my side threw thick and thin and including my alcohol addiction.

Being married now for 30 years, we both went through some tough times together. We were let down, disappointed, sad, cried on each other shoulders on many occasions.

Deep down I loved my wife, but many times I never showed it to her. I had a feeling a quilt in that respect that I didn't show the love that she deserved as she always showed her love to me.

Our marriage was great, but only when I was sober and mostly in the morning and midday. I say this because come early evening the drink started to flow and I then became basically useless to all around. Yes, we had our fun times and I was funny on many occasions, but I do believe it was the booze speaking out loud.




Our Favorite Place

The Ocean and Bay are our favorite places to be in our 30 years of marriage and still are today. We both seem to be so happy when we are near or on the beaches.

I met my wife back in the middle 80's on Long Beach Island, New Jersey. Where do you think we met? Yep, you are right, drinking alcohol in a bar on the island.

We talked, we danced and at the end of the night we went our separate ways. I tried looking her up the next day because she told me about where she lived at the end of the island.

I wanted to see her again because I just felt that we had something in common and no other girl I had ever known did.

It was like I knew this girl was for me. I was off on a mission to find the girl that took my heart. Having some luck I did find the trailer park she had mentioned. I turn in the drive and she and her mom were in the distance, but suddenly turned around after seeing my Corvette and they high tailed to their trailer and out of sight.

She knew it was my Corvette from meeting her the night before. I turned around and headed back to my home at the other end of the island, saddened and with a broken heart.

I figured she had enough of me the night before and didn't want to continue a relationship.

Five Years Later

Five years later while working in a Hospital a new girl that was recently employed happen to catch my eye in the cafeteria. I asked one of my nurse friends, who might that be? They told me and I said get me her number and maybe all of us could go on a double date.

The nurse pulled through and got that phone number. It was that phone number that changed my life forever. I called that evening and we started to talk about our lives and what we liked to do and where we liked to vacation. It was just small talk to break the ice. Everything we spoke of rang a bell with either myself or her.

I THEN BEGAN TO REALIZE....

I had found the girl that broke my heart five years earlier and I was tickled to death. She or I were not dating anyone at this time, thank God, so I was good to go. I knew I could not let her pass me bye this time.  God has sent me my angel to stand by my side and protect me in the future years ahead.

Could it have been fate?

Could it have be Love at first sight?

OR...could it have been just meant to be?

Whatever the case we were so happy we found each other again and now ready to start a very short dating process.

I proposed to her after 6 weeks of dating. We got married in her families home with all our family and friends, six piece band and great homemade food. We spent our honeymoon in Florida in which we also both love and have been married now over 30 years.

That is just a short story of just how life works and if something is meant to be it will indeed happen and I am living proof of that.

My wife gave me a great life and also saved my life from a horrible alcohol addiction that was sure to kill me in the end.

Anyone that knows me or has read my hubs, knows that I have been sober for over one year and own it all to my wife, my God and to myself for stepping up to the plate and admitting I had an alcohol problem that had to be dealt with before it was too late.

My wife stood by my side through many years of my drinking alcohol and she never gave up her hope that I would sooner or later realize I was doing wrong and that I would eventually surrender to my demons that ran my life and hers as well.

If your marriage ever starts to go downhill because of an addiction or anything for that matter don't ever give up hope if you truly love your partner.  If there wasn't true love and commitment in our marriage I would be a lonely drunk as I write this now.

I can't thank my loving wife enough for standing by me and giving me the room to breathe and find myself on my own and to be able to deal with the only real problem our marriage had, which was drinking alcohol.

I just hope that other people in our world can find their true soul mate and true love of their life as I did.  Since being sober our love keeps getting stronger with each day that passes.


© 2010 Mark Bruno

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      Mark Bruno 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ saleheen, Thank you so much my friend. Yeah we are certainly much happier now that I changed my life around 360. Life great now !!! :)

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      richtwf 6 years ago

      A beautiful story and wonderful message on marriage you shared here.

      I think the women in our lives like our wives and mothers are true unsung heroes and we need to recognise and appreciate their efforts and sacrifices that they make for us. They love us unconditionally and we can sometimes neglect the simple things not because we don't love our wives but because we become too engrossed in work or absent-minded so we should remember to make the effort to give our other loving half the time and presence that they need from us to show that we love them and they're loved and not forgotten once we're married.

      I wrote a poem for my wife today and posted it at HP for her. Our marriage is only a tenth of your duration and we've had ups and downs like most other couples and I praise her for her patience and understanding. She is my angel from heaven!

      Thanks for sharing your personal story and may you have many more great years of marriage ahead of you!

      Cheers and God bless and peace to you!

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      Mark Bruno 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ richtwf. Thanks you for your kind words and yes sometimes we do forget about what is true and dear to our lives and yes we get tied up in everyday things and don't acknowledge our love to our wives.

      In my case it really was and everyday forgetfulness due to alcohol, but I have that all taken care of now thank God.

      I'm heading over to read your poem and thanks again and God Bless you and your family as well.

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      VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      This was beautiful to read, your wife sounds amazing; you definitely were destined to be together or else you wouldn't have met again 5 years later. I too wish for everyone to find their soulmate, I found mine late in life and I am grateful. May love and sobriety continue to shine on!

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      Mark Bruno 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ VioletSun, Thank you ! Yes my wife is truly amazing and to stick with me all through those bad times with me. I feel so blessed and life is so much better now being sober.

      It almost sound like a fairy tail but it is 100% true.

      God Bless you and your Husband!!

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      ralwus 6 years ago

      A wonderful tribute to love and providence. Kudos my friend. i am glad that my wife keeps me straight as she doesn't like to drink much. this is a wonderful story of perseverance. And god does work in mysterious ways. peace alway and much love, Charlie

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      sofs 6 years ago

      Beautiful story! I believe that is what marriage is all about, sticking through thick and thin.

      Mark, life is not about making mistakes, all of us do, but it is about how we get up and right the wrong

      Mark, I am so happy that you told the whole world now how much you love your wife.. wish you and your lovely wife the very best and God Bless!

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      Mark Bruno 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ ralwus. Yes indeed Charlie, without my wife, I don't really know were my life would of headed. Well I kinda do know and that would of been to the lowest of all..Rock Bottom. Thanks God we have wonderful wives to stand by our side and keep us straight Thank you again for such a nice comment and I wish you and your wife all the Happiness, Love and Contentment during this Christmas Holiday Season.

      God Bless you and your family Charlie!

      Mark

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      Mark Bruno 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ sofs, Hello Sophie and thank you so much for your kind comment. I am glad you enjoyed my story. I just felt after all these years that I should speak out and tell the world just how I feel now being sober and can think straight.

      You are a wonderful friend Sophie and I want to wish you and all your family the very Best , Happy, and Loving and safe Christmas Holiday and a wonderful New Years ahead!!

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      Bel Marshall 6 years ago from Michigan

      This is what love is all about! Good marriages don't just happen...they are worked at and sometimes fought through.

      Bravo!!!!

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      Mark Bruno 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ Bel Marshall, Thanks you for your comment and yes you are right, we don't seem to find marriages that last into the years, like in the old days.

      I think first off that people get married too young and start a family too young. It's like babies having babies. As I said in hub I new from the very first moment ( that's my wife to be) I think it was a feeling that not too many people get these days.

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      MonicaRobinson 6 years ago

      There is hope for us dealing with addiction in our families.

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      Mark Bruno 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ MonicaRobinson, Yes there certainly is hope and that word is very important!! Never Give Up Hope!!

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      Pamela Kinnaird W 4 years ago from Maui and Arizona

      Beautiful story. I'm so glad it's true.

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      Mark Bruno 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Pamela - Thanks you !! It is so very true. 31 years now married and she stuck by my side because she knew sooner or later I would make my life right and I did.

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