I can't sleep alone anymore
Tossing and turning
Well it happens to be so that my man took of yesterday to go fishing for the weekend. I love that he have hobbies and that he has his own life. But what has become a problem for me is that when he is away I have trouble sleeping alright.
It might already start in the fact that I always feel like a part of me is missing when he's not around. I feel kind of empty actually, and that is a strange feeling for me to have in the first place... But I do of course have my own friends and definitely don't have a problem in hanging out alone, but it's different when I go to bed.
You see, when we sleep together, we lie very close to each other, often I fall asleep with my head on his chest or spooning. And during night we may move around but he is never further away than reaching out a hand.
I guess it has to do with intimacy and the fact that he makes me feel safe and secure in every way. Before we met I never needed anyone, and I have been a little bit scared of saying that is has changed and that now I do need someone. But I am happy that I have let myself become vulnerable because I think it is a sign of maturity and strenght to let someone else in to the point were (in this case) he is the one I trust with my life, but yet is the one who could also hurt me the most.
Some interesting facts
According to a study from Finland, which I read about in a swedish newspaper, we sleep best if we sleep together. And that people living alone is not feeling as good as people living toghether. That I can only agree too, not said that people living alone are all miserable, but you cope with the fact that you are alone and accept is and most of the time it's fine. Not until you meet someone to live with that you notice the difference of having people around you all the time.
A study from Austria, on the other hand showed that men slept better alone than with their partner while their women slept better. I can relate to this as well because I think that my man probably sleeps just as good with or without me but it gets emotional by knowing that I'm not there. And that can make him feel lonley when awake.
These studies are both from 2006. Somehow I think that sleeping well together is another sign of how well you fit together. You can't spend the rest of your life with someone if you don't sleep next to them. And there are a some tecniques to get help from if you have trouble sleeping ad it has nothing to do with your partner.
Useful information and interesting reading
- Sleep Disorders and Sleeping Problems: Symptoms, Treatment, and Help
Are you struggling with sleeping problems, such as insomnia, sleep apnea, or unrefreshing sleep.
- What does this dream about death mean?
Dreams can affect your sleep, this hub is about one of my weird dreams.