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I saw the Signs and had to let go of the Toxic Friendship
Toxic people are not worth part of your life
Some people are nice to you when they need a favor, or something of value.
When I realized her fake friendship, and toxic behavior, I stopped visiting her.
I saw and heard, and had to get out of that friendship sooner than expected.
· For example:
Her false pretenses in trying to make me feel good when together, and gossip about me when I am not around did not go with my kind of friendship.
The fake conversations from this woman in trying to make me feel as if I am part of a friendship but I was not,, that certainly didn't not come from true people.
The question about the whiskey, and her fake smiles for everything to look good on the outside is not what I need in my life.
When deep down she has a chip on a shoulder, definitely not a kind of person I would call a friend.
She does not like the idea of me having any conversations with others known to her.
The envy shows in her face of my progress and of me working for myself.
She enjoys passing on comments about what I have and can afford to buy, something no real friend would comment on.
Her envious ways showed when she bought what I had and what she could not afford.
I have taken in everything she said to me and of me. I don't need her in my life. I don't need to hang on to her for anything.
Being with this woman just causes unhappiness in my good life,
I don't believe I should live my life according to the opinions of others, or to please others at any time. I don't have a reason to do that.
· It is my motto in my life.
I don't have any family in Croatia except for my husband and son. It is difficult to get close to other people and is glad to know the few acquaintances I have in my life.
I have always known some people are fake and toxic, what I didn't know is how horrible people can be as to pretend with such kind of behavior.
It did hurt me when I found out about her envious character and after reading the many so helpful comments on my hub, '' I am faced with Another Greater Challenge,’’
My many challenges showed me more than I ever needed to know in this life, I treat others kindly and with respect.
I don't want to be concerned with toxic people.
My family life is my priority.
Most important of all to me, I have my life and I choose to live by the way I know is best for me.
- Toxic people can destroy any individual, mentally and physically, emotionally and psychologically.
It is poison to one’s health and that is what I certainly don't need from her or anyone else.
· Another story about Friendship:
I had a friend during my school days she was good person we got on well and had a good friendship.
Once we had parted our ways after the schooling years.
We had lost contact for a while. It was silly we lived close by but I guess with our busy lifestyles we did not see each other as often as we could have at that time.
I often tried to make new plans to meet up with her but time was of the essence for us.
· I was always the one trying to contact her not her trying contact me for a simple, ‘’hello.’’
After I married and had my son a few years went by before she contacted me to go out for lunch.
I was happy and we got together for some girl time-out and enjoyed the day.
All went well, but again I lost contact with her for a quite some time.
One day out of the blue she telephoned me for a huge favor. I was surprised by her telephone call.
She did not have the time before the incident to contact me, only then did she know how to contact me and off-course knew my number.
I helped her out of a complicated issue. She was pregnant with her colleague’s husband’s baby from her workplace.
This person needed me to help her have the baby away from her home, and without the rest of the family having an idea of her pregnancy.
I managed to get her out of her problem she had the baby elsewhere, and had adopted a baby to her lover's family.
A secret kept for years. Only I knew about her secret. However, my ''so-called,'' friend did not appreciate my efforts in helping her when she really needed me.
Since then I have not heard from her. I have no idea where she lives at. I was a good friend, and kept her secret maybe others did eventually find out, or they did not.
It did hurt me to see how she found the opportunity to use me for a favor, and thereafter forget about me.
Anyhow, I have learned lots about toxic people. The fake friends and of the envious people are not worth having in my life. The little experiences have taught me how to approach such situations.
I write about what concerns me to get something of my mind.
It has been too long dealing with such issues. I prefer not to be used by others . it is a kind of behavior I can't always escape from at anytime.
I know more now and have learned of how to deal with such beings on most occasions.
I have outgrown that relationship.
I learned that she eventually married an abusive man. Also, he is over-possessive. This man physically abused her. She did not sound the happiest during our last conversations had over fifteen years ago.
People are rude, and can be cold or ruthless when you least expect it. I made sure to get rid of toxic relationships before I lost myself in the moment.
I trusted my intuition and know when I am correct about people. Sometimes I see what I don't want to in others. I think that it is a bit of my weak point which I can't deny.
Usually, your friendship is supposed to last for a certain amount of time and not longer. I understand this inwardly. I did so for me to be rid of emotional pain and had made the right decision spiritually.
I have a sister with whom I have lost touch with, and did not have that sister-sister friendship one of my battles of life. I hope in time we could build our friendship well together.
Relationships can't always be successful with family, or with friends. .
‘’You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.’’
In my case, I have chosen my family. I have my son and husband and that matters most to me.
- I have not been successful in having good friendships while back home and now in my new life.
The little experiences have showed me to keep away from toxic people and focus on people whom I know are like me.
It is hard to accept not having a good friendship with my sister.
I am working toward that and hope I can get to it soon.
I have tolerated such behaviors for far too long and have finally written of what is no longer on my list.
I will do the occasional wave and the occasional greeting nothing more than that for me.
I did not confront the envious person I just kept my distance from her heartless behavior.
She did not hurt me any more than she had hurt herself.
The woman who did not care of how I felt when she asked about the whiskey she is no longer part of my life.
She does not like it when I talk to my neighbors. It kills her to see and hear my friendly conversations when with other neighbors.
I don't care for her she is just an acquaintance to me.
Consider the feeling of others before making harsh comments heard.
If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything.
Don't blurt out words to hurt the feelings of others.
I can only take that much and when it gets too much I know to let go.
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