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Updated on October 9, 2010


"How do you know when love is real?" he asked.


"Compared to what," she responded.


"Say, infatuation, or a moment of weakness,




"Have you heard the story of the Velveteen Rabbit?" she asked.


"Maybe, but tell me."


"Well the Velveteen Rabbit asks the skin horse

a similar question.

The skin horse says

That real

Is having your fur loved off.

When I first read that, I thought,

How sweet.

But then the more I thought about it,


So real love sort of implies

A little suffering,

A little loss of skin,

Bumps and bruises

Along the way."


"So real love hurts now and then," he said.


"Well, the pain comes from the journey,

Sometimes the uncertainties,

Sometimes the fears of

What have we gotten ourselves into,

Sometimes finding ourselves in the dark,

Sometimes feeling lost,

Sometimes not knowing which way to turn,

Those moments when even God

Seems to have no opinion.

We are left to ourselves

To make important decisions

That seem to hold

Our entire life in the balance."


"You say it so well.


What do you think about our love?

Is it real?"


"It is as real as the darkness that covers the day.

It is as real as the light that dissolves the night.

It is as real as our hearts

Keeping time together.

It is as real as this very struggle

To decide where to go from here."


"Do you remember

When we climbed the mountain together?




"Well, so does that apply here?

These questions, these struggles, are they like the mountain?"



Hand in hand,

We traveled the face of the mountain,

Discovering places

That seem almost unreal,

But real they are.

Places too high

For the fog

To cloud our vision.

Places where only God dwells,

The God we will someday

Stand before


To account for our love

For each other. 


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      Vernon Bradley 7 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      I think that is the ultimate "find." And it becomes a little more delicate when I realize how much of my journey to find myself involves relationships with others. Maybe ultimately, we come to terms with our "alone" (all one) existence but maybe not. Maybe it does involve relationships. Maybe those relationships are part and parcel of being all one or alone in some kind of paradoxical way.

      Thanks again for sharing your journey here on hubpages.


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      Justsilvie 7 years ago

      Thanks so much Vern,

      I am learning a lot by writing it down. I hope we both find what we seek and I am pretty sure now that will be ourselves.

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      Vernon Bradley 7 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      Well, apparently, you didn't miss it!! Sorry, I get silly sometimes. Glad you enjoyed it. As are you, I am on a real love journey these days. Scary, exciting, and a lot of my soul and being is being slowly unearthed!! Slowly rubbed off. And sometimes it is, I don't know if painful is the right word, but definitely emotionally moving. I cry a LOT these days, and it does not seem to be about sadness as such, but a lot of stuff that goes way back, perhaps to the very beginning of my life as I know it now. So anywho, thanks again for reading and commenting. I really appreciate your sharing of your journey. I learn a lot reading your journey.


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      Justsilvie 7 years ago

      I somehow missed this. Beautiful.

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      Vernon Bradley 7 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      Thank you Everyday Miracles. I don't think we have met or if we have, I apologize for forgetting. Will have to check out some of your hubs before the day is over.

      I am glad you enjoyed this "piece." Been going through a multitude of experiences in the last three months with respect to love and discovering many many new awarenesses.

      Thanks again for stopping by and reading and commenting


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      Becki Rizzuti 7 years ago from Indiana, USA

      Beautiful! Very nicely done. Thank you so much for posting this.

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      Vernon Bradley 7 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      Hi Lorlie6

      I first heard the story when I was in college as part of sensitivity training!!! I always thought it was a very touching story, inspirational, etc. Then one day several years ago, I was reading it again and found myself thinking, real is having your fur rubbed off? THAT HURTS!! The story started taking on a whole new meaning to me. And yes, he will love the story and buy him a copy for his own and as he grows the story will also grow and take on new meaning, as it will for you as well.

      thanks again for reading and commenting and contributing to the community the way you do


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      Laurel Rogers 7 years ago from Bishop, Ca

      I'm embarrassed to say that I've never read The Velveteen Rabbit, Vern! But from what you've said, I will definitely pick it up. Another reason to buy a copy is my new grandson, Quinn-we'll discover it together!

      Lovely poem, thank you.

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      Vernon Bradley 7 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      You will never know, how much your comment means to me particualrly this morning. I just finished writing my entire morning pages talking to God about all of this and wondering if I am just stark mad! I am discovering what it real-ly is to be loved both by God and special people in my life and some times it seems so complicated like that silly movie. I keep looking for an answer from God and God used you this morning to talk to me. THANKS

      NOW where are my pancakes, woman?

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      Candy27 7 years ago

      I love the story of the Velveteen Rabbit-in the end the rabbit becomes REAL. Maybe it is an allegory for us, if we allow ourselves to experience the pain that is a part of loving deeply-we become REAL. If we allow ourselves to be loved by God-we are REAL. Have a wonderful day and lose some fur!

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      Vernon Bradley 7 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      Thank you terri for stopping by and reading and commenting. I appreciate your support of my hubs. I don't know if I like the image of HANGING in there, but I get your jist!! There's certainly not too much pushingof the Staple's button (That wss easy!), but maybe we are all missing the boat! Maybe it is supposed to be easier than we all make it!!!

      Thanks again


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      terri Huerta 7 years ago

      Vern ,you are such a talented writer.. yes, true love is a lot of hard work..But is certainly worth all the trouble and in the end how blest we are for hanging in there. Thank you for a great article