ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

If A Child Is Raised By Two Gay Dads What Will The Child Feel At Mother’s Day? More Stupid Arguments Online

Updated on June 29, 2010


After watching the new CNN documentary, “Tony And Gary Have A Baby” I went online to read the comments. That’s right, I have said it before and I’ll say it again, I love all the anonymous hate spewed online by what I call the “Cheetoh’s stained finger people.” Time and time again they do not disappoint and this was no exception. After reading the typical, “If God had intended people to be gay he would have created Adam and Steve” or the people who quote the bible passages, came a quote that was not really a surprise to me. After all, a pal from Australia had recently sent me an article that was in his local paper bringing up the same argument around this “sacred” holiday. Still, it’s a doozy! Someone actually wrote, “If a child is raised by two gay Dads what will the child feel at Mother’s Day?” More stupid arguments online – Don’t Get Me Started!

The Australian article talked about the wonderful joy of sharing Mother’s Day with your mother and how ostracized children would feel for not having a mother on this very important holiday. Last time I looked this was one of those Hallmark holidays created to sell greeting cards, yes? Or did I miss the part in the bible where Jesus created the Mother’s Day holiday? Or maybe it was the Pope? Meanwhile guess what morons, how do you think the children feel that have lost their mothers to death or never knew their mother? I get that you think the gays are depriving children of what’s normal but again I have to say that I have never met two people who could agree on what normal really is and if this is your big argument then I’m here to tell you that you are not a convincing arguer. I guess you should also stop Jews from having kids because they won’t know what it’s like to celebrate Christmas.

Besides the overtly religious based fervor with the ever popular top ten of bible quotes against gays there was some poorly masked religious fervor. Some of my favorites include comments such as, “If gays really want to help children they should give their money to orphanages.” That’s right, instead of giving a child a loving home to call their own, get him/her cable in an orphanage. Good thought there.

Of course there was the argument that gays just wanted to get their hands on boys to have sex with them and indoctrinate them into the “gay lifestyle.”  And next there was the “it’s a fad…look at Miley Cyrus pretending to kiss another girl. Just trying to call attention to themselves.”  Or perhaps my favorite at the end of someone’s rant about if the world order collapsed so would homosexuality and then it would have to go back into hiding, “just like the disease it is. Poopers are meant for going to the bathroom with, not for anything else.” No doubt this person is a doctor or something from their technical term usage.

But all of that suddenly went away when I read the following comment that was posted by someone only listed as “Guest”

“I am a 30 year old married heterosexual. I was not only raised by a gay parent, but by two. My mother and father were/are both gay. I found out about my mother first, as she had a live in partner following their divorce. My father (he passed away in 2004) came out several years after. They basically had an arranged marriage in order to produce my brother and I. While unorthodox, I always felt loved and was always cared for by both my parents and my step-parents. In fact, after my parents lived in separate homes for a year or so, my brother and I voiced our concern about traveling back and forth. What my parents did next, you will NEVER see a straight family doing. They moved back in together, and just had separate bedrooms. My mother and her girlfriend in one, and my father in another. We all lived together and had family dinners, and even family vacations. I write this because it has made me who I am, and it is not a bad thing. I love how I grew up, and that I knew I was loved.

Recently, my mother and her partner of 12 years adopted. They have a beautiful little girl who I am proud to call my sister. It astonishes me that so many people can hate what my upbringing was without ever knowing anyone who has been through it. I am a very blessed person. I am successful in both my personal life and in my career (I just finished law school and am taking the July Bar Exam).
Hopefully my life and experience is enough to change even one person's mind about this. Our country was built on one of the most noble of expectations, that all are created equal. Why we still can't fathom this is beyond me. But times are changing, and the bigotry is slowly coming to and end. Thank you for your time.”

Wow, was all I could think. Never mind all the bible quoting and the archaic ideals people shove down one another’s throats, here was someone who had lived it and knew more than me or the “Cheetoh’s stained finger people.” While some may say that the parents in this case were a man and woman so that makes it okay, I look at the fact children more than anything need to know they’re loved by whomever parents them and this woman obviously was loved just like I was and like the children raised by heterosexual or homosexual parents who are good parents. Amen. If a child is raised by two gay Dads what will the child feel at Mother’s Day? More stupid arguments online – Don’t Get Me Started!

Read More Scott @


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • sweet nola profile image

      sweet nola 6 years ago from NOLA

      Totally awesome comment by guest...

      On the subject of Mother's day... I don't think it is anywhere near a valid argument about gay families... You're right to call the fallacy of logic on that one for sure... The thing that bothers me most on stuff like this is what people use as arguments... if it was used the other way around, they'd get angry.

    • somelikeitscott profile image

      somelikeitscott 7 years ago from Las Vegas

      Thank you all for your wonderful comments. While I always try to entertain, "Guest" really enlightened me and so have all of you. I have hope for all of us and that we can rise up against the Cheetoh's stained finger people...guess I just blew my endorsement deal with Frito Lay! Thanks again for all of you who read and commented and for reading my rants and observations. I appreciate it more than you'll know.

    • K9keystrokes profile image

      India Arnold 7 years ago from Northern, California

      You are the best! This is very real and moving. I do love the rants and the descriptives of course, these are why I keep coming back! You've done great work here.

    • mythbuster profile image

      mythbuster 7 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide

      I KNEW this hub would be good as soon as I read, "the Cheetoh's stained finger people."


      My opinions on homosexuality needed no changes or improvements by your posting of Guest's story, somelikeitscott, but Guest's story certainly strengthens the ideas I showed up at this hub with! What a "wow" and beautiful message from Guest. I have a lot more hope now - that if people like Guest keep sharing such information, these accounts will help many people start to understand that gay pairings can be associated with decent parenthood and stable homes for children.

    • MPG Narratives profile image

      Marie Giunta 7 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      Mother's Day and Father's Day are marketing ploys that don't take into account that some people no longer have their parents (or knew them at all, as you stated). What difference does it make whether parents are gay or hetero? Great article somelikeitscott, let's break down intolerance and people with 'Cheetoh-stained fingers' everywhere. M xx.

    • Earth Angel profile image

      Earth Angel 7 years ago

      Good Morning with Good Java in hand!!

      Those are lovely sentiments you quoted to start the day!! Thank you for sharing them!! By the way, what made you think the writer was a woman???

      I am going to use your 'Cheetoh-stained fingers' with full credit to you of course!! Much more current than my 'mouth breathers' or 'bottom feeders!!'

      YOU are the BEST Scott!!

      Blessings always, Earth Angel!!

    • earnestshub profile image

      earnestshub 7 years ago from Melbourne Australia

      You had a great upbringing and are rightly proud of yourself and your life. Your parents were great to get back together for you guys. I really enjoyed the warmth in this hub.

    • tonymac04 profile image

      Tony McGregor 7 years ago from South Africa

      I really found this Hub interesting and useful. Gay bashing is such a banal and tired passtime. Why would gay parents be any worse than hetero parents? Thanks for this Hub. I hope that many who have homophobic hang ups will read it with open minds and realise the truth that is here.

      Love and peace


    • Updownside profile image

      Updownside 7 years ago from Southern California Coastal

      As a Cheetos eater I am offended!

    • SimeyC profile image

      Simon Cook 7 years ago from NJ, USA

      I do find it amazing that in this day an age of freedom and equality that people still have a problem with same sex couples - very interesting article - I know of many marriages where the man married because that is what society expects - years later the children suffered - not because they had a gay parent, but because they went through a divorce and the 'hate' associated with the gay revelations - this could and should have been avoided!