- Gender and Relationships
If A Gay Man Gives A Straight Woman Advice And It’s Not On The Internet Does It Make A Sound?
For years gay men have been giving their straight female friends advice (I know because I’m one of them). I’ve told them what to wear, what not to wear and begged them to just go ahead and cut their hair even though the loser they were dating had a thing for women with long hair (and it worked, the loser stopped dating her, problem solved all the way around and yes, her hair looked better short as I knew it would). So I self appointed myself The Gaytriarch in all my friends lives (gay, straight, men, women, animals, okay whoever will listen) and so far it’s working for all of us. (He said rather full of himself.)
Imagine my surprise when I learned that there are impoverished women everywhere that don’t have a gay male best friend! I was shocked and appalled (all at the same time). I couldn’t imagine a world without talking my best gal pal into buying that Betsey Johnson dress she couldn’t afford and had no place to wear. What if there were other gay men out there who had life and love experience advice to give and no woman to give it to? Now I can stop worrying (about this topic) as jacksandjills.com is a website made especially for gays and their fave straight gal pals. (And if you don’t have one or the other, you can actually be matched to one on this site - how DO these kids do it these days?)
The principle is simple, as they state on the site, “the path to friendship isn’t always straight” and nowhere is this celebrated more than on jacksandjills.com. While I would like to believe that I have given all the advice in our relationship (over the past thirty years that my gal pal, Jodie and I have been best friends) the truth is there were many times that she gave me some really good advice. (Well, I’m thinking she must have over all these years, I just can’t think of any at the moment. Probably because I was too busy telling her what to do, think and wear. I think she did tell me once that I needed to listen more but who was listening?) Seriously, we have been each other’s rock through life’s most turbulent storms and we have laughed harder and longer than the law probably allows. No matter what I’m going through and no matter where we are (we live in different states) I know she’s with me, has my back and is telling me to get my back waxed. And that’s what friends are really for (thank you very much, Dionne Warwick and Elton John)!
So if you’re a gay man who wants to give with the advice or get it or if you’re a straight woman looking for the perfect “Will” to your “Grace” then get to jacksandjills.com and start interacting with a social network that involves martinis! Facebook is fine for having people who want to poke you from high school that you haven’t seen in thirty years but imagine a site that offers advice and a relationship with your potential Manolo Blahnik sole mate? Whether you want a gay or gal in your city or across the globe this is the site that can make it happen.
And while the 1960’s movie proclaimed, “Mars Needs Women” this site needs a few gay men and the straight women they love to make a world where everything is just a little prettier and let’s face it, fabulous. So gay men, remember if you give advice to a straight woman and it’s not on the Internet it may make a sound but it’s not going to go viral – here’s your chance!