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How to loose weight and love yourself!

Updated on January 22, 2013

My Goal Weight Dress

The ups and downs of weight loss

Talking with a friend about the sinfully tasty habit of eating chocolate that her honey insists on bringing to eat in bed every night, she was bemoaning the fact that she was gaining weight whilst he remainined lithe and trim. Too bad!

We wondered, laughing, if that was the reason women our age get dumped - traded in for a younger slimmer and trimmer model!

A couple of years ago a friend's husband, a Mr. Tubby himself, whose wife remains slim, told me that I was most definitely past my "sell by date" due to my weight gain. It got me thinking but not slimming because, at that time I couldn't. Although I wanted to, emotionally I wasn't ready to.

I had always been reasonably slim but, even when younger, I did gain weight when I was stressed. And then I could loose it easily. Since my second daughter, breast cancer and another surgery I had ballooned. I wasn't happy about it but the more unhappy I became with my weight the more I seemed to pile it on. I was certainly eating to comfort myself emotionally and thyroid, lack of physical exercise (due mostly to exhaustion) and stress continued the cycle. Eventually I came to believe and told myself that I would always be overweight.

And there lies the problem. Many women (and men too) complain that no matter how hard they try they cannot shift the weight. That diets don't work - well that IS true. They will oftentimes spend a fortune on weight loss supplements and products that won't help over the long term either. But until the mind is ready to make the change, even though the scales may get lighter for a short period they will just as surely go up again.

So what to do?

Tips for weight loss success

The following tips are based on my personal experience reducing my weight from 189 lbs to 154lbs with another 15 to go and continuing to keep the weight off.

  • Check to see if you have an allergy to wheat and or gluten, or other food allergies. A food allergy will contribute to feeling unwell and could be a cause for depression. Wheat, if you are allergic, affects the brain and contributes to feeling depressed.
  • Reduce your calorie intake slowly. Count averagely how many calories you eat on a daily basis - do not judge yourself - its a fact. Now see where you can save calories. Try and replace empty calories with protein.
  • Examine why you want to loose weight. Is it for specific health reasons or because yu think you should. Those messages may get in your way. Take time to consider what weight YOU would like to be and why. Find pictures of people who are that weight or when you were that weight and pin them up. Be realistic in your goal. Size 6 at 50 does not look good on every body type.
  • Take a 20 minute walk every day as you start to reduce calories. Start slowly and try to increase the pace and route you walk. Add in an extra10 minutes three times a week and then another 10 until you are doing an alternate 20/40 minute walk daily at a good pace.
  • Consider a low carb weight loss plan eliminating breads, cakes and muffins from your food choices. Overtime this will create a new way to eat and you can have the odd treat that won't lead to carb carvings.
  • Ensure you eat enough healthy fat. Try to use whole fat prodducts. The low fat options have fillers and sugars. Eating fat in a healthy way increases metabolism.
  • Eat throughout the day - do not starve yourself.
  • Keep a record of what you eat.
  • When you have an "off day" and eat more than you needed to or gorge on pizza don't give up. Tomorrow is a new day.
  • Find a friend who can cheerlead you on without judgements.
  • Buy a goal weight dress or pair of pants. Keep trying them on and take pictures as you get closer to your goal.
  • LOVE YOURSELF. You are worth it.


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    • Lizam1 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Victoria BC

      Thanks. The pic has generated quite a buz:-)z on my Facebook page. Feels good:-)

    • Karen Hellier profile image

      Karen Hellier 

      6 years ago from Georgia

      Great hub, and the picture of yourself in your goal weight dress is a nice addition. You WILL get there.


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