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You Can Be A Master Of Love
Can I Learn To Master Love?
Is it possible to master love? Only with practice and plenty of it. And along with working consistently on how to master love, it's important to have at least a little knowledge of how human beings operate.
Learning to love is an on-going process. Patience, forgiveness, and kindness are basic to loving. Another thing to remember is action. Walk your talk. Show your love each day, throughout the day during the good times as well as the bad.
Let's take a look into our basic emotional needs first followed by the reason that prevents us from loving.
What Prevents Us From Loving - The Biggest Reason
Author Stephan R. Covey wisely quotes, "Nothing destroys trust faster than making and breaking a promise. Conversely, nothing builds and strengthens trust more than keeping a promise you make."
Trust is one reason relationships fail however the biggest reason is fear.
Fear prevents us from both loving and being loved. Some of our biggest fears include:
The fear of:
- Being controlled
- Lack of communication
- Financial Issues
- Loyalty (on both parties)
- Remaining Faithful
- Not being good enough
- Being accepted
- Being changed
- Losing our sense of self
- Being judged unfairly
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.
6 Helpful Tips For Mastering Love
- Mastering love requires complete integrity and honesty. There is no place for lying. It will never bring peace of mind. Be impeccable with your word.
- Develop your listening skills. You cannot be understanding until you see what they see Avoid interruptions and the need to give advice.
- Keep your ego out of your perception to see things clearly. Avoid being to quick to judge.
- Develop an appreciation and love for YOU. Until you truly love yourself it's difficult, if not impossible, to love another. This implies the act of forgiveness, including yourself.
- Think before you speak. This is seasoned advice which still holds true. It's difficult to "take back" a hurtful word. Just take a second or two to evaluate how your words will sound to someone else.
I Loved Him In Silence
Slowly… excitement grabs my heart, claiming my desire for him
Captivated by his smile, decorated with Sean Connery dimples
Full beckoning lips
I wonder how they would feel coming home to mine
He speaks, I hear a symphony
More please, more
My imagination speaks,
How would it feel to touch his fingers
The very same fingers that strum his guitar
His eyes call to me
with promises that cannot be
Two hearts unite but never take flight
Hidden words never spoken
He is King Arthur and Sir Lancelot, “with virtue to spare”
Though his head is bare where there once was hair
It matters not
It is a most beautiful crown
I am waiting to become Guinevere
Take me away
I’m falling…into sleep.
His arms wrapped around me
I am bathed in his warmth
Like a bed of roses basking in the sun
I am complete.
Still, I am alone.
My Own Thoughts on Love
I believe that love surrounds us. It cradles and soothes us when we need it the most. We can find love as we look up. Gaze at the sky and it's vastness and feel love pouring down on you.
Life itself is full of love if we are open to it. We find it in nature, the pride of mother earth. We hear it in the laughter of children. Our animal friends are always ready to greet us with unconditional love. The song of a bird reminds us of how valuable we are. A beautiful symphony fills every pore of our being with love.
The greatest love of all is only a heart beat away. It comes from within. We carry it with us every single minute of every passing day. Nurture and care for this love. Share it freely.
The more we give away to others and to every living thing on the planet, the more love we shall receive.
Thank you for being here. ~
Don Miguel Ruiz - The Mastery Of Love
Stephen R. Covey - The 8th Habit
If Ever I would leave you - Musical Camelot
Do You Consider Yourself A Master Of Love?
© 2011 Audrey Hunt