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I'm "In A Relationship", But My Status Says "Single"
With the advancement of social media, relationships are losing their appeal. Men and women can let the world know who they are dating, but this comes with a price.
Once a relationship status is revealed to the world, everyone has the power to approve or disapprove of the relationship, but is this helpful for the people in the relationship?
At one point in time, I was in a relationship. I didn't change my status to reveal this because I'm a private person and I didn't need social media to know everything about my life. However, my significant other had his status changed to "in a relationship".
You're probably thinking he was nice to do that, but I'm telling you to dispel those thoughts. While his online status revealed he was in a relationship, his posts were not clear about his relationship with me. He would have pictures of him and other women, who he claimed were "just friends". I found that to be ironic because I considered him my best friend and I wasn't on his page.
Needless to say, I believed I didn't need to change my status because his friends didn't even know I existed in his life. Since he kept me private online, I kept him private online and offline.
If someone asked me whether or not I was in a relationship, I would always say I was single. I didn't think I was disrespecting my relationship. I was involved with someone who wanted to keep me a secret and I guess, I didn't mind being a secret. However, the posts of the other women were nerve wrecking.
But, the question here is, does social media define relationships?
Honestly, they don't. And you shouldn't read this and think you should just up and change your status because you're in a relationship. Do what makes you happy.
If you want the world to know you're happily taken, then do that. If you don't want to do this, then don't. Use your own judgement when posting things on social media.
I do believe, however, that if you're in a relationship and you're happy, you should express that freely. Why be in a relationship that you aren't proud to discuss?
Just don't let social media define your relationship.