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I'm In A Relationship and Our Sex Life Sucks!

Updated on February 21, 2009

 I think we've all been in this situation, I know I have and am in that situations. While your young and not married all that is on your mind is college, work, bills, and SEX!! I've gone days where all I wanted was to jump my bf and spend the whole weekend just in bed.

Now what do you do if you love your man/woman but the sex isn't that great. First off a majority of girls can't not reach the BIG O during intercourse. They actually need some stimulation in some other form down there. Now I know some woman have an issue with their man going downstairs, but if your a woman that doesn't mind it, go get some eatable lube and let your man go to town till your knees are shaking and your moaning or screaming in pleasure.

Another thing that I have found helps is a lil thing that goes over your mans lower reigion and it has a vibrator on it, they can come in a turtle or a dolphin or even other shapes. Make sure the guy use a little lube to slide it on and believe me it stimulates that area on the female that needs to be played with to get you begging for more.

How about role playing. Go to an adult store and buy an outfit that you both like. Go home and play secretary and boss. Play any kinda of role that you both feel comfortable with playing. Believe me it will amp up the sexual tension and you'll both be riping off each others clothes before you know what got you naked.

If it's the positions that are boring go to an adult book store or even Borders and check out their sex books. Believe me there are so many positions out there that it would boggle your mind. If you feel you can try the new position than go for it. Have a night of trying out new positions and make it fun, laugh, feel comfortable. That is the major key to trying out new positions is feeling comfortable.

Also women I know some of you can't even think of doing it; yes some women have issues of even thinking of doing this. But go down on your man give him some pleasure. If he doesn't like how you do it, ask him for directions. If you want an fun idea for this pick up some pop rocks. From my experience that's fun.

Now what to do after all these things and it still totally utterly sucks. Have you tried telling him what exactly gets you going? Or even directing him during your love making on how fast or slow or how hard or how soft you need. it

Now if your married and with children, simply say goodbye to sex. You'll be lucky to get it two or three times a month. If your able to catch cuddle time, take it, enjoy it, bask in it.

If you have a newborn. All I can do is laugh, sex what is sex. Once that infant turns into a baby and it's sleeping through the night that's when you're gonna attack each other and get as much sex as you can. When that baby turns into a toddler and is into everything, climbing, touching, trying to eat anything in sight, and learning to walk. Your gonna be so tired that by the time he or she is in bed. Your worn out and sex is on your mind but once your head hits that pillow your out like a light.

But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to fit sex into your relationship. Schedule it, set time aside for it. That isn't romance your screaming, nope it's not, but that's about the only way your gonna get any.

What if it STILL sucks? It's time for communication, it's time to talk and communicate about what is wrong and why it might suck. DON'T say the sex sucks. Basically bring up that it doesn't seem like she or he isn't into sex. Be opened, talk it out and see what can be done.

What if it doesn't get any better, Hmmm... that I don't know try a sex counselor maybe.

But no matter what always remember to wear a condom. If either of you are allergic to latex condoms, please remember there are non-latex condoms. And please oh my god, if you SO says but they are so expensive. Yeah they are expensive but which is more expensive condoms or a kid?

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      Rookie70 

      7 years ago

      Very useful, and informative. Your material is amazing, and I could in fact borrow from you to help me write my own topic on this subject. Thanks.

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