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I’m Proclaiming Today National “Benefit Of The Doubt Day”

Updated on July 9, 2010


I know that I’ve spent most of my life with one eyebrow raised in a sort of disbelief at everything anyone was telling me. Whether it was someone telling me on a phone what a great deal I was getting with the anti-virus protection I was purchasing for my computer and an additional program that had to be ordered as well for an additional $49.99, I’ve begrudgingly purchased what I was sold all the while thinking to myself that this was just a salesman trying to sell me without any sense of really giving me a deal or something I absolutely had to have in my life. The same goes for when friends tell me they met a man with the “largest dick they’ve ever seen” this is normally coming from one of my more promiscuous friends and if you just wait until next week he’ll regale you with a story about someone else who apparently REALLY had the largest piece of equipment EVER! So while I tend to be as one ex said about me when I was a mere twenty-one years old, “jaded beyond my years” I thought it would be nice to greet a day with a childlike sense of wonder that I never had even as a child. I’m proclaiming today national “Benefit of the Doubt Day” – Don’t Get Me Started!

There will be no parades, no funding required for this day and not even a rubber bracelet with the words, BOTDD on them. No, this is about a mindset, a way of looking at the world and offering the fellow human beings in this race of life a chance to not be seen as some sort of evil doer but as someone who is perhaps just not informed or God love them, what we used to call, “a little slow.”

So to the person who raced me into the Starbucks this morning, all the while looking at their phone to seem as though they were not racing me into the Starbucks to get to the counter first, I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and just think that you happened to walking at a fast pace due to what you were reading on your phone and to get your day started. I’m also going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you didn’t know ordering seventeen different drinks all with special requests on them would hold up the line until the rest of us behind you were now late for work. I almost wanted to help you to your car with your seventeen blended coffee drinks but I couldn’t bring myself to go that far.

To the friend who called to “see how I was doing” and then never let me get a word in edgewise while talking about yourself for an hour and a half, I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and think that you initially did call to see how I was but then just caught up in telling me everything that was going on with you from grocery store exploits to problems with your husband’s third cousin whom I’ve never met nor do I care about, forgetting the reason you initially called was to find out how I was doing. You’re not evil and selfish as I would normally think, you’re not what they call “toxic” you’re not even self-centered…today because today is “Benefit of the Doubt Day.”

I guess what I’m learning is that I’m neither the “glass half full” or the “glass half empty” kind of person. I think I’m the guy who’s wondering how the spots got on the side of the glass and how best to clean them off without disturbing the water inside because no doubt I’m going to be the one who ends up cleaning everything up for myself and others. But wait, those thoughts are not suitable for today, this special day I’ve created, today there are no spots on the glass of life. Today feels as though the world is not conspiring against me to get on my last nerve. Even the people cutting me off as I drive down the road I feel are simply having a rough day today and not purposefully ignoring everyone else on the road but just trying to keep themselves a float. Today you are all absolved, forgiven but if Scarlett O’Hara has taught me anything, tomorrow is another day…so take advantage of the fact that I’m proclaiming today national “Benefit of the Doubt Day” – Don’t Get Me Started!

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      June Naff WY 5 years ago

      Was the Jessie Stone Movie Benifit of Doubt really Supposed to end this way????? I kept looking for more and there wasn't any. I love Tom Sellic movies but I hate it when it ends in a cliff hanger!!!!!

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      somelikeitscott 7 years ago from Las Vegas

      You are certainly welcome!

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      KKalmes 7 years ago from Chicago, Illinois

      Hello somelikeitscott, exactly what I needed was a reason to get out of bed today... it's a celebration of life and no one had better get in my way while I celebrate the good in everything because boy would that tick me off on my special day... laughter, forgiveness, get out of pissing-jail free cards to everyone!

      You're right I do feel much better... thank you!

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      somelikeitscott 7 years ago from Las Vegas

      EA- boy did you give me a LOT to think about. I guess "Benefit of the doubt day" needs to come more often in my life. Sure feel bad about the guy trying to keep his job buying everyone Starbucks! ;)

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      Earth Angel 7 years ago

      Good Morning Mr. B-O-D!!

      Yes, we all need to extend a little more compassion and understanding to those who often 'know not what they do!!' We all seem to be walking around in a sleepy fog of unawareness!!

      In Buddhism, we hold most everything as 'an open question' knowing we never have the full picture - thereby giving all people/circumstances the benefit of the doubt!

      So the guy who cut you off in traffic may have been trying to get his 11-month pregnant wife in the back seat in hard labor to the hospital!!?? Before she popped those twins out on the floor board!!?? Of his dream car!!??

      The people who try and sell you things you don't need or want are just trying to earn enough money to help pay for the medical bills of their dying mother!!?? Or their child's kidney transplant!!??

      The guy with the seventeen specialty coffees at Starbucks was just trying his best to save his job because he had been fired from four others this year alone!!?? Because he wouldn't sleep with the boss!!?? And he would lose his green card and be deported back to a country that stones gay men to death!!??

      The friend who called and wouldn't let you get a word in edgewise might really be saying they are in desperate need of human connection for reasons they don't even understand and it is a backhanded compliment to you for holding an open door for them to connect!!??

      The guy who brags on 'other' men being so well equipped - okay, he just needs a tape measure!! And a self-esteem check-up!! (How come all the men I meet brag on their own Mr. Happy, not others??)(Yes, that is rhetorical!!?)

      'Holding everything as an open question' seemed really hard at first!! (Pun intended!!) Once I accepted the fact that we never really do know all the contributing factors to a situation, it became really easy to let it all go!!

      Have a GREAT day Good Scott!! I LOVE your Benefit of the Doubt Day!!

      Blessings always, Earth Angel!!

      P.S. Just put the spotted glass back in the dishwasher; your time is too valuable to waste on the little stuff!! (Pun intended!!)

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      Paradise7 7 years ago from Upstate New York

      LOL!!!! I think I met your Starbucks racer at the grocery store. He had a whole lot of coupons and had to write a check.