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Important Things You Need To Know As A Foreign Lady Before You Marry A Nigerian Man
Marriage is sacred and for that, it must be treated with respect and carefulness. Remember, a marriage will either make you or mar you, and that’s why you must be very careful when making choice of whom to marry in life if you don’t want your life to be marred forever.
I love interracial marriage for so many reasons, and the world need more interracial marriages for peace and unity. But then, there are certain factors you must consider before getting yourself involved in an interracial marriage to avoid marital failure and crises.
If you take a survey of interracial marriages that have taken place between 1900 to date, you will discover that there are more black-white interracial marriage than any other interracial marriage in the world, which makes this topic a vital topic.
Over the years, I have come to discover that black guys love white ladies so much more than any other race, and this is also evident in black nations like Nigeria, where men always prefer to date and marry fair black women than the pure black women, which has led to so many Nigerian women patronizing skin bleaching creams and soaps to become fair. Anyway, that’s by the way, lets move on…
Who Is A Nigerian Man?
I have written so many articles on this topic, so I would like you to find time and go through them because I am not going to repeat the things I said in those articles here to avoid making this write-up too bulky and confusing.
Nigeria is a country located in the Western region of Africa continent. The population of Nigeria is 140,000,000 based on the last national population census. Nigeria comprises of three major tribes: Hausa, Igbo and Yoruba. There are so many other minor ethnic groups in those three major tribes, such as: Ibibio, Bini, Ijaw, Idomo, Fulani, Tiv, Itshekiri, Calabar, etc, with their own dialects.
You will find the Hausa tribe in the northern region of Nigeria, and their major or dominant religion is Islam (Muslim), with a negligible number of Christians, found mainly in the North-Central region. Hausa tribe speak Hausa as their dialect.
Agriculture is practiced in large scale in the northern region of Nigeria- cattle rearing, yam farming, groundnut, etc. Pure Hausas find it difficult to marry other tribes in Nigeria, and polygamy is a dominant practice in the region.
An Hausa man is peaceful by nature outside his religion. You can only have conflict with an Hausa man when you play with his religion (Islam). They are not money conscious like other tribes in Nigeria, but they love political and royal power. Hausas marry very early than other tribes in Nigeria. Hardly can you find a 30 years old Hausa man that is not married, and it is very rare to see an Hausa man married to a foreign woman.
The Igbo Man
You will find Igbo people or Igbo tribe in the South-Eastern region of Nigeria. This is the only tribe in Nigeria with a homogenous religion- Christianity. In the past, they practiced idolatry until the arrival of the early Christian missionaries from Europe. Igbo man is a success-driven man. Igbo man is a money-conscious man. An average Igbo man is very ambitious and ready to do anything to make money. They are the most industrious tribe in Nigeria, and they are business driven, and can go extreme to become success.
An average Igbo man love financial success more than any other thing, and he is ready to stay single till late 40s if he hasn’t attained the level of financial success he wished to attain before settling down. After the Yoruba tribe, they are the second most educated tribe in Nigeria, and the most successful tribe.
You can hardly find youths in Igbo villages because most of them have migrated to the city to search for greener pastures, leaving behind their parents and grandparents who most times engage in peasant farming for life sustenance.
An Igbo man is a liberal man, he travels to anywhere and marries from anywhere. In fact, there is a riddle that says: “wherever you go and you didn’t find an Igbo man, don’t spend the next minute there”, because it is believed that Igbo people are everywhere, so long as there is life there.
If you want to be in good terms with an Igbo man, don’t joke with his business or money.
The Niger Delta Man
They share similar traits and history with the Igbo tribe. Some Niger Delta tribes bear Igbo name and also speak Igbo-related dialect. Their major occupation is fishing due to their location. It is in this region that you will find 50 to 70% of Nigeria’s crude oil reserve. A Niger Delta Man is semi-Igbo man.
The Yoruba Man
Yoruba tribe are the most educated tribe in Nigeria. It is believed that in every 10 Yoruba family, there is 1 professor, and may be a lawyer. They love education so much. There are two dominant religion in Yoruba land- Islam and Christianity, with few people still practicing the ifa religion (idolatry).
An Yoruba man do marry from other tribes, but they marry more of foreign women. Polygamy used to be dominant in Yoruba land, but things have changed with Christianity and western civilization. Naturally, Yoruba men love party also known as “Owambe” in Yoruba language. He is ready to use his last savings to host a party, though things have changed, but that love for party is still inherent.
The Bini Man
Some share similar traits with Yoruba people, with others who behave like The Niger Delta people. Bini men prefer to marry foreign women to their own indigenous women, reason being that there was a belief that most Bini women do kill their husbands to take over his properties and to become the family head. History also showed that so many Bini women were once involved in witchcraft and water spirit worship, which was believed to be the cause of the increased deaths of married men in Bini land. Though Christianity has changed things to a great extent, but Bini men love marrying foreign women.
Important Questions & Answers About Nigeria
Why Do Nigerian Men Marry Another Wife In Nigeria After Marrying A Foreign (White) Woman?
Like I said earlier, Nigerian men love white women so much, and would love to spend the rest of their lives with a white woman, but unfortunately, history has taught Nigerian men that white women who married Nigerian men in the past and had children with then, never stayed back with their Nigerian husbands, instead, they all abandoned their Nigerian husbands in Nigeria and travelled back to their home country with the children they had with the Nigerian men, leaving the Nigerian men that married white women childless at old age.
In order to avoid this heartbreaking experience, Nigerian men started keeping two marriages- one in Nigeria as a backup and one in the foreign country where they live, and most of them aren’t happy doing this, but they are most times pushed into it by their family members at home, who do remind them of Nigerian men in the past who lost all the children they had with white women.
What Is The Solution To Stop Nigerian Men From Keeping Two Marriages?
This will stop when foreign women who chose to marry Nigerian women start accepting Nigerian men and their country of origin, and not just accepting the man without accepting his country. How do I mean?
If you are a foreign lady, before you decide to marry a man from another country, you have to understand that you are making a strong decision, which involves abandoning your own country to accept and live permanently in the man’s country till death do you guys part.
There is no way you will expect a man to live in a foreign country forever till he dies, that is impossible. So before you decide to marry a Nigerian man, have it in mind that he will leave your country someday to go back to his home country Nigeria and live permanently till death. Haven known this, you must be ready and willing to go with him to live permanently in his country with your children. If your children must visit your country, you should let them know that they are Nigerians, and that they must go back to their father’s country.
If foreign ladies who marry Nigerian men start putting this into practice, with time, Nigerians will be convinced that any child you have with a foreign lady is truly a Nigerian child, and you will see a natural end to double marriage by most Nigerian men married to foreign women.
Are All Nigerians Corrupt?
Britain colonized Nigeria until 1960 when Nigeria became independent. But immediately after the Brits handed over to indigenous leaders, military guys took over and that led to a 2 year bloody civil war that claimed so many lives in Nigeria. The effect of that civil war is still inherent in Nigeria.
Since then, it has been series of corrupt military government ruling Nigeria and squandering Nigeria’s finance, which led to a very bad economy in Nigeria, hence, the struggle for survival amongst Nigerians.
In a country where corrupt military governments impoverished the entire population to enrich their personal pockets, it is not easy to survive without getting involved in illegal businesses and transactions. This was what led to the spread of corruption in Nigeria, but still, there are millions of good Nigerians who frown at corruption, who still believe in integrity and uprightness.
Is Nigeria An Islamic Nation?
No! Nigeria is never an Islamic nation, and can never be one. We have two major religions in Nigeria- Christianity and Islam. Islam is mostly practiced in the northern region of Nigeria by the Hausa and Fulani tribes, and few Yoruba people in the South-West and Benin, every other region in Nigeria practices Christianity, especially the Igbo tribe.
Is Nigeria A Terrorist Nation?
NO! Islamic religious extremism only started in Nigerian around the year 2006 or thereabout by a group of Islamic extremists who called themselves: Boko Haram, meaning- “Western Education is A Sin”. Their mission was to Islamize northern Nigeria region and to impose sharia law there, but government disagreed with them and they started insurgence which got internation sponsorship and later became both religious and political.
All the bombings, killings and kidnappings you may be hearing or seeing in the news are all happening in the Northern region of Nigeria where we have Islam as the dominant religion. Other regions of Nigeria are peaceful and calm, though the government is gradually wiping out the extremists in the northern Nigeria and peace will soon be restored there.
I will stop here for now….if you have any question, kindly drop it on the comment box. Thanks.
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