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Ways In And Out Of Relationships

Updated on January 25, 2016

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All But Love

I started to title this, In And Out Of Love but love is not always in the equation or what a relationship is involved with. Relationships are usually started because of infatuation, sexual attraction, good looks, material value, prestige and other things that maybe you can come up with based upon your experiences. Many times a relationship between a boyfriend and girlfriend or man and woman is everything wonderful except for love. I think that is too bad because without love between the two, how far will the relationship go? When the chips are down, will the good outweigh the bad?

Is It Lust Or Love

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Love Was Not There

I need your honesty here. How many relationships have you been in since you first liked a little boy or girl? What about since your teenage years? Oh, come on now, you were kind of hot so I know they were after you. Ok, what about in your young adult life between ages eighteen to twenty-four? What about from twenty-five on up? How many hearts have you broken? How many hearts have broken yours? Wow, there’s been a lot of emotion floating in the air over the years. What about your brothers and sisters coming home after breaking up with a mate and you had to console them. Like the song says, Breaking Up Is Hard To Do. Why? Because the love wasn’t fair and if it wasn’t fair then it was never there. Sorry… You can debate me all you want but for love to be there it must have come from both ways with Almighty God (The Creator of Love) in between.

Love Me Or Leave Me Alone

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The Realness In A Relationship

Let’s be real now. Have you ever been in a relationship and you knew darn well, that you were not going to marry the person or should I put it, you had no intentions of marrying even though that you knew the person wanted to marry you? Huh? But, you weren’t ready to give the person up yet. Right? This is real game playing. I’m not going to suggest, that someone was being played for a fool but you call it what it was.

Treat Someone The Way You Want To Be Treated

This idea is a tough one when you think of it. Some people don’t want to receive in return what they dish out in a relationship. I wonder why not? Maybe it is because they cannot take it. I didn’t say all people. I said some. Can you receive what you are dishing out or have dished out in a relationship? Did you consider the relationship full of love properties? When the person said, I love you. Did you immediately return the phrase? Every time?

It's Either Casual Or Love

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Accepting Someone For Who They Are

Sometimes, there is a problem of accepting a person for who the person really is.One wants the other to change their ways. There is nothing wrong with wishing that But… It is a grand mistake in trying to change a person. It creates friction as well as conflict, feuding and eventually to war. Why? A person is who they are from deep down inside. They must see the need to change for the best of themselves instead of for someone else. Once they figure out what’s going on, they would rather say, Poop on that! Subconsciously.

Changing For Someone

I need some feed back for this one (please).Have you ever known someone to change for the request of the other? And they lived happily after? I don’t meant if one helped the other stop smoking stuff, drinking or doing drugs or even from being a terrible character but well, this is a hard one because people help people change but I guess I mean change some natural good ways to fit the mate’s preferential standards.

Hip Hip Found True Love

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Evaluate To See If Love Abounds

Put the emotions and heart aside for just long enough to evaluate or at times evaluate to see if love abounds. Is that important or absolutely not?

From now on, I’m going to work from a mental checklist. I am not going to be caught up in the wrong relationship ever again. I’m not going to go two, five, seven or ten years just to realize that there was no love in my relationship. It may not have been a waste of time but I could have learned an experience along with the precious value of love. As we venture in and out of relationships, are we looking for that precious value of true love so that we can feel secure for the rest of our lives? Or, what is it do we want? Or, do you want?

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One Way Out That Works Best

You can certainly pray to God if it is according to His will for you to bow out and move on from the relationship. If you are disrespected, disregarded or taken for granted to no return of these then you want out then move toward the doorway and don't look back.

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Thanks C.V.Rajan for stopping by and commenting so powerfully!

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      Disillusioned 2 years ago from Kerala, India

      You have made a frank and honest analysis.

      "Some people don’t want to receive in return what they dish out in a relationship. I wonder why not? Maybe it is because they cannot take it. " Very striking words.

      C.V.

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Thanks again ubanichijioke for such a genuine comment. If we don't bring out the realness in a relationship then it is destined to fail.

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 2 years ago from Lagos

      Anything that concerns love is always hard to place. Relationships aint spared, most people who start relationships make mistakes cos they fail to set priorities. Some are swayed/pushed to it by infatuation, lust and most times family pressure. But, I know that marriage or relationship involves more than that. I think 'treat others the way you want to be treated covers it all'

      A very important piece for those who wanna learn. Kudos.

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Hi MsDora, Similarity is the reason why we are good friends. Glad you're up and running there :-)

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Glad I wrote my last article before I read this. My style is different, but my objective is somewhat similar. People in relationships should not use the word "love" when love is not what they have. We can't teach this enough.

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      I love what you said here teaches, we must promote that sacrifices are necessary to make a marriage oneness. You explained it so well in your hub on marriage as well. I appreciate you and thanks for stopping in :-)

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      Dianna Mendez 2 years ago

      Marriage does require commitment which involves work from both parties in the relationship. Giving up something in order to improve your relationship should be a decision geared towards building trust and love, not just to make peace. Great thoughts here, Word55!

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      I Loved that LOL Faith and your sense of humor about Mr. Reaper. I guess he reaps all the benefits that you give to him too. LOL!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      LOL dear Word55,

      Oh, "Mr Reaper" would not mind at all, hee hee.

      Well, it helps when one is married young, as the older we get, the more it would be so difficult I am sure to be in this world.

      Blessings always

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Wow Devika, I liked how you put that and the end was quite humorous. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Relationships are all hard work and you made a good note of that part of it no bed of roses until you fall asleep.

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Hi Faith, I'm glad you gave such a wonderful comment. It's good to know of someone that did the right things in life. I hope to shake your hand some day or give you a hug (if Mr. Reaper wouldn't mind) All I want to do now is please God. The big city life is filled with artificialities. We sometimes become a product of our environment. However, that is no excuse for not living as Godly as we should. Thanks for the big vote here :-)

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Word55,

      What an honest hub here of your thoughts on love and relationships. Well, I could not answer your first poll, as I saved myself for marriage (did not really date), as I did not want to enter the marriage not pure, and I know that is about unheard of today. I am so glad I made that decision long ago. I was married at a young age (19) and still married to the same man. Marriage is no picnic all of the time, but as we go through the trials and tribulations of life together, our relationship grows stronger. Once I make a commitment before God, that is it for me, come what may.

      I do hope you find that true love, the one God has planned for you in this life, as you are so deserving to know and experience such for a lifetime.

      I am sorry I have had to be away from HP for a bit, but I am looking forward to catching up on all that I have missed and hopefully publishing something inspirational.

      Voted up ++++ and away

      Blessings always

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Michelle, thank you for stopping by. Your comment is the first and most beautiful testimony to the point in this article. I don't know if anyone else can top that. Although, topping comments is not what this is about. Yes, all people should see and hear what you've attested to. Some people search a lifetime and never find the true treasure of life that you have found, my sister. You have gifts. I'm glad that you are using them. Stay blessed! :-)

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      Michelle Ascani 2 years ago from Deep in the Heart of Texas

      Too true. Until one realizes what a true relationship is, it's too difficult to try to maintain one. I found clarity in earthly relationships by understanding my relationship with God. Until I knew what real love was in His eyes (and there is still more to learn), then I could not expect to have a healthy relationship with a man. Once God showed me how He loves me, I knew what to look for in a future partner. It changed my life. Unfortunately, so many folks have had something happen to them in their early years that has had some kind of mental affect on their outlook that they don't know what to look for and accept the first person shows them attention. This is dangerous. But God is one of wisdom. Once we seek Him, He makes it all clear. Lust cannot wait to get, love cannot wait to give!

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