ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

In My Room

Updated on April 23, 2012
Yes, I;'m brave enough to share with you a picture of my room in my dinky apartment in upstate New York.  It really does look like a teenager's bedroom.
Yes, I;'m brave enough to share with you a picture of my room in my dinky apartment in upstate New York. It really does look like a teenager's bedroom. | Source

There was a Beach Boys tune, called "In My Room", that had so much resonance with a whole generation of teenagers.

In some ways, I'm still that teenager, though I've aged quite a bit in the intervening years. I still need to be "In My Room" sometimes, with the door shut and no one to bother me. I think everyone needs that: a place to go where you feel completely safe and free from interruption, and where you can simply let your mind rest for a while.

I'm alone now: a single woman on her own. I don't mind that. I still have my room, and it's my room, a place for me alone, where I can completely be myself. My whole apartment is "my room", in a manner of speaking. I can't tell you how much I enjoy that. I'm afraid if you knew, you'd think I was antisocial or something, which isn't true. I just like my privacy, a lot!

Really bold.  You can even see the bed I sleep in.  I wonder if I'm completely nuts.
Really bold. You can even see the bed I sleep in. I wonder if I'm completely nuts. | Source

"In My Room" by the Beach Boys

As you can see, I haven't made a mad success, materially speaking in my years here on earth. Truthfully, I don't care. I have enough. I'm happy and comfortable, for the most part, where I am and with myself. I've accomplished some things that I've wanted to do with my life, and I think, on the whole, I can count myself in as a good person.

I was really struck, when experimenting with a new camera that I had bought, of how very...I don't know, juvenile? shall we say? of the appearance of my bedroom. The rest of the apartment is a lot more grown up, (not expensive, not elegantly furnished, but a lot more grown up!) it seemed to me, but it does seem my bedroom suffers from a case of arrested adolescence.

Well, that spoke volumes, really.

And, it's true.

I've been married, twice. Both relationships failed for a variety of reasons. I can't really say it's all my fault, or the fault of my incomplete adaptation to being an adult in adult relationships, though I'm sure that aspect of my character contributed a lot to both failures.

It has always been difficult for me to share living quarters with my mate. I wonder if other people have this problem? I seem to need my space, my room. I find living with someone else involves a constant, edgy awareness of another person in "my" space.

It should be "our space" and I should gladly share it.

Truthfully, I never quite got that far. It seemed to me that I was always pushed into a corner; that my mate actually owned the flat, townhouse or house we lived in, and that I was a visitor. I never seemed to be able to occupy my own space within our space, comfortably. I never felt completely safe, completely comfortable and free from unwanted interference, unless I was living on my own, by myself, in my room.



Are you happiest "In Your Room"?

See results

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Paradise7 profile imageAUTHOR

      Paradise7 

      6 years ago from Upstate New York

      Thanks for the comment, Sweetie Pie.

    • SweetiePie profile image

      SweetiePie 

      6 years ago from Southern California, USA

      Your room is adorable and sweet, and who cares what it looks like. If you like it, that is what matters. It is not like people are giving dinner parties in their room anyway, and I have seen bedrooms of people who bought expensive linens and beds for their bedrooms, but who were such pig pins that you had to wonder why they even bothered. I think a tidy room with pictures you enjoy on the wall is far more important to making your room look like a magazine photo shoot, which are pretty darn staged anyway. I think everyone needs their own room, even when they are married. I remember when my grandma was still alive that her and my grandpa each had their own rooms in their house. It was cute because they each decorated the rooms the way they liked.

    • Paradise7 profile imageAUTHOR

      Paradise7 

      6 years ago from Upstate New York

      Thanks for the comment, and the compliments, Gypsy. I love the Beach Boys, too. That song in particular.

    • Gypsy Rose Lee profile image

      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      6 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and thanks for sharing. Even though I share my bedroom with my husband it is still my room and I work there alone on the comp while my husband pounds away on his laptop downstairs and you know any time I walk into the bedroom I always feel a good aura all about and I guess that is the most anyone can ask. Love the Beach Boys thanks for the video.

    • Paradise7 profile imageAUTHOR

      Paradise7 

      6 years ago from Upstate New York

      Thank you very much both for the comment and for the moral support.

    • kittythedreamer profile image

      Nicole Canfield 

      6 years ago from Summerland

      I might have to do an "in my room" hub now. You've totally inspired me! Except, I am jealous that you're able to do WHATEVER you want in your room! I have to compromise as I am married and my husband and my style are totally different. But what I do is slowly introduce my style into the house...so as not to scare him too badly! LOL. :) Awesome hub. Don't ever stop being you. I love your style.

    • Paradise7 profile imageAUTHOR

      Paradise7 

      6 years ago from Upstate New York

      Thanks for the comment, Phil, and I can certainly understand your need for time to yourself. Everyone does; as adults it seems we have to compromise our alone time, a lot, to accomodate loved ones and work.

    • Phil Plasma profile image

      Phil Plasma 

      6 years ago from Montreal, Quebec

      I've never been a big fan of the Beach Boys, but reading your hub reminded me of when I was a teenager and my room was my life. I can certainly appreciate how for some people they need to have their own space. For me it isn't space so much that I relish, it is time. Time for me.

    • Paradise7 profile imageAUTHOR

      Paradise7 

      6 years ago from Upstate New York

      Thank you for the comment, Deborah, and even more for the moral support!

    • Deborah Brooks profile image

      Deborah Brooks Langford 

      6 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      wow first of all I love the beach boys and this song is great. and I agree I love my privacy.. I am alone a lot. I don't mind.. and I love your bedroom.. looks cozy..

      great hub.. sharing...

      Debbie

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)