- Gender and Relationships
Independent or Dependent
These days, it seems that we have become more dependent than independent. For example, we have come to depend on computers, new technology, sometimes even the government. It is so easy to lean on people and things because of how we don't have to work so hard on our own. There is also the idea that we would let others do what we need to do. Sometimes I wonder how many people are independent more than dependent on others.
I have been raised in a family where we learn to become independent and not have to depend on others most of the time. I remember that as I got older, I didn't want to depend on my parents to have to buy my clothes and shoes, so once I started college, I put into my mind that I was going to find myself a job so I could make some money of my own and since then I can say that I am happy to not have to depend so much on my parents. Yes, I still depend on them for certain things but for the most part I have been able to become independent.
One shouldn't be so dependent on those around them whether it is your parents or sometimes even your spouse. Sometimes it is good to know that there is someone there for you when you need them the most, however, I find that some independence is good for one. Sometimes one questions, what will I do without him or her?
Sometimes when it comes to getting married, there are times when I see my friends say they are going to just be a house wife and just depend on their husband to make the money. There is nothing wrong with that at all, but one has to know that there will be a point in life when we will have to learn to not be dependent on our significant other. He or she may not be there always in our life and it can become hard to go on when we have always depended on someone else.
Somehow, being independent is a good feeling for most people because they don't have to rely on a certain person to make choices for them. However, when it comes to getting up there in age, sometimes someone has to be there for them because they are no longer able to be by themselves and their health isn't as good as it should be. But just think that when they were young, how they were able to be on their own without anyone to depend on most of the time.
I don't know about you but while I can I want to try to be as independent. I may have my family to lean on for when I need to and for that I am grateful for but I also thank them for showing me how important it is for me to become independent.