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Infidelity Is It A Problem

Updated on August 28, 2014


Infidelity...Is It A Problem? "Can a man or woman take fire into his/her bosom and not be burned?" (Proverbs 6:27 KJV) "Playing with fire" is no laughing matter. Do we really take God's Word seriously? Infidelity means unfaithfulness. God illustrates the seriousness of adultery by comparing it with fire.

There is definitely a price to be paid for sexual infidelity. God has given His children specific directions in regards to proper sexual relations. The undefiled marriage bed is the proper place for sexual intercourse. The marriage bed is biblically designed for one male and one female. When the two come together they become one. God's design according to the bible does not authorize any sex outside of marriage nor sanction same sex relationships. "For this is the will of GOD, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and Honour; Not in the lust of *concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God. " (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 KJV) *Concupiscence meaning; sexual desire.

Due to Adam's fall we have inherited a sin based nature. Sin is anything that separates us from God. Sin causes one to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. But when we accept Jesus Christ as our personal SAVIOUR we are to embrace and imitate His principles within our lives. Yes there will always be a struggle between the spirit and the flesh. Many are compromising Christian principles. Pandora's Box has lost its lid and now just about anything goes. Should this be? What happened to "Be not conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may PROVE what is that good and acceptable and PERFECT WILL of GOD..." Romans 12 We who say or claim we are believers must learn to submit to the will of God. The power of His Holy Spirit gives us the ability to overcome the desires of the flesh this is why we all need Jesus Christ as Savior & Lord! .

The scripture clearly tells us that sexual infidelity is like playing with fire. When a Christian chooses to indulge in sexual sin know that you are definitely operating out of the will of God. Sexual sin is rampant within the Church. It doesn't matter if you were once married, how old or young you are. Your position doesn't matter; widow, minister, usher, mother, teacher, member, priest, elder, apostle, bishop, evangelist, deacon, deaconess, pastor, missionary, this should not be! By ignoring God's Word the body suffers. It tells the unsaved yes I am a hypocrite and no I don't have self-control. It hinders the effectiveness of your ability to minister beacuse you are operating in a carnal mode. Better yet, it waters down the effectiveness of your testimony. This also hurts many other people around you as well as destroys relationships!

Every time you choose to operate outside the spiritual moral boundaries God has designed you can expect some sort of consequence. God is totally aware of everything. Just listen to how patient He is with us; "The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some men count slackness: but is long suffering toward us, not willing that none should perish, but that all should come to repentance." (II Peter 3:9 KJV) Repentance does not mean repeat or practice. We as Christians all to often have commenced to embrace the world's principles that encourages indulging in satisfying the flesh. "After all I'm human! We aren't really hurting anyone! Nobody else knows but us." Wrong! God knows! Remember that fire I warned you about. Pray for discernment and seek God's direction.

Sex is much more than a physical act. It was designed to be a beautiful inimate experience shared between two committed people in love! This is why God tells us that the "two become one !" So please think again with who you join yourself to; because who you join yourself to becomes a part of you. Seriously, this is really deep! You actually unite and give a part of yourself to them. It forms a bond. God has asked His children to have sex within the confines of marriage. Marriage God's WAY was designed for one man and one woman. We as man and woman were actually made, created and designed to physically fit into one another. God blesses this; within the confines marriage! The sexual intercourse between two comitted married lovers is supposed to be a mutually satisfying beautiful expression of love! How do you feel about this type of commitment, is this still fashionable for believers to commit to a monogamous marriage? If you are married it is never too late to start building a mutually satisfying sexual relationship.

Get to know your spouse and their likes and dislikes! Learn how to enjoy one another. Take a look around you. What does your bedroom say? Has it become congested with a lot of clutter? It is never too late. If it has, make your bedroom a comfortable welcome retreat! How do you feel about yourself? Take a good look at yourself commit to being the "Best you," that you can be! Life is too short to spend most of it unhappy and unfulfilled! Again it is never too late! Sarah was over eighty when she had Issac! Begin taking better care of yourself! Pray and ask the Lord to help you? The marriage bed is honorable! It is the only place that God sanctions sex! It is importatnt to be affectionate with one another as well. Hugs and kisses, pats and embraces say "I care!" So get busy!

In this 21st century where just about "anything goes" people change partners like a pair of shoes? Many continuously compromise God's prinicples. God is so gracious kind and loving that He allows us to choose. Man continues to redefine and attempts to reconstuct the definition of marriage. But this still has not changed His original design for marriage. I am Pro Marriage; GOD"S WAY!

Christ is the Head (by the way there is only one head) of the church. The church is symbolic of His body. Cancerous sin retards the church's progression towards reaching maturity. When sin is prevalent it also hinders our worship services and reduces them to carnally dramatized emotional productions void of spiritual fruit. Don't allow satan to deceive you. The only way to truly worship Him is "in Spirit and in TRUTH." If you are currently participating in sexual sin, if your spouse is indulging in sexual sin, repent then abstain!! Please let this be a wake up call. Stop now! Sex without commitment to marry is selfish! Find someone who you can be accountable to. Better yet confess and ask God to send you someone to turn you around! God knows your weaknesses. Paul tells us "I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." (1 Corinthians 7:8-9 KJV) If you play with fire it will burn you! Yes infidelity is a problem! If you truly believe in His Word, He does have the power to deliver you!


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      Bail Up ! 7 years ago

      I agree, too much infidelity going around these days. I can't belive our best friends are getting divorced now over precisely this, after being married over 20 years. Very wrong indeed.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Bail up!

      Thank you for visiting and your affirming comments!

      The same thing just happened to our best friends as well!

      It really is sad as well as selfish! I hope others see this and decide to not get caught up in the clasp of infidelity! It really destroys trust and invites deception! Many others suffer as well!

      Again thank you and please come again!


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      Holle Abee 7 years ago from Georgia

      Great hub! I used to struggle with this in my first marriage, and so did my husband. Prolly why we got divorced!

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Habee, Thank you! I always appreciate your openness and honesty! I wrote this after much prayer realizing that for many this was and is an Achilles heal...

      Openly discussing infidelity helps to bring about a better understanding. Many are unfulfilled and seeking comfort that actually leads to further discomfort... What has been done cannot be changed but one can move forward and gain strength by learning a better way....

      As God's children we all are forever growing as we seek Him above all else we grow spiritually... Thank you for sharing and visiting as always its a pleasure, In His Love & Blessings!

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      stars439 6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Your work here is so true. I live for my family, and than God I have a family that loves me. God Bles You Dear Heart. Beautiful work and so important to be told.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 6 years ago

      Stars, THANK YOU! I too am thankful for a family that loves me! God KNOWS what is best for us. It is important that we know HIS WORD for ourselves and share it with others! God Loves us and really wants us to have full and happy lives! He has given us healthy boundaries to live and love by... GOD is GOOD! Thank you for stopping by to share,

      In HIS Love, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

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      keiship 5 years ago

      well yea but sometimes it could be agood thing because it helps you realize you are with the wrong person before allowing the relationship to progress any further

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 5 years ago

      keiship, I don't believe that it is necessarily a good idea to base a lifetime relationship on a casual sexual encouter... I believe if we look a little deeper and consider that it takes only one time to get pregnant and or one time to acquire an STD it will cause many more to think! Is it worth a few moments of pleasure that may result in a lifetime consequence?

      Giving yourself to someone physically again goes much deeper you are actually giving yourself away...

      Thank you for sharing your opinions I hope this will cause others to think as well! Peace & Blessings!

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      Pastor Dr. Carlotta Boles 5 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

      DeBorrah K. Ogans, I agree with your response to keiship. When the method abstinence is not usually practice, people just don't understand why they must do this. This is strange to them. And frankly, they don't want to submit to it! God knows whats best for us and we must follow Him to live a righteous life! It will benefit us in the long run!!!!!!!!!!! AMEN! Voted-UP!

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 5 years ago

      DR Pastor Car;otta, Amen! &B PRAISE GOD! I believe that as Christians we must encourage others to do things God's WAY! He is our Father and Creator and truly KNOWS what is best for us! ALL HIS WORD IS TRUE! The BLOOD of JESUS has cleansing POWER! The LORD can transform anyone's life! But first we must give our life to HIM! This is why we ALL NEED JESUS CHRIST as our SAVIOR & LORD to SAVE us from the power of sin reigning in our lives! GOD DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE Through JESUS CHRIST WE CAN live a RIGHTEOUS LIFE!

      Thank you as ALWAYS for stopping by to share your spiritual insight! May or Heavenly Father continue to grow you in HIS GRACE & KNOWLEDGE!

      In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Infidelity causes many problems and should not be part of a family crisis but too often this happens and the till death do us part just goes downhill. An excellent hub.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 3 years ago

      DDE, Thank You for stopping by to share your wise comments!

      Please do come again, Peace & Blessings!

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