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Infidelity Is It A Problem Part 2

Updated on April 28, 2022
DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

Pastoral Counselor ordained Elder/Minister Ambassador at Alpha 7 Ministries M.A.Christian Clinical Counseling Certified in Creation Therapy

Commit to live to please God!

God designed marriage for one man and one woman. They were originally created as one. Man was marvelously created, shaped and formed from the dust of the earth. God placed Adam in a deep sleep and removed one of his ribs. From the rib bone of Adam the first man He made the first woman. They were actually uniquely created and designed to be able to physically fit once again back into one another. God created sexual intercourse for man and woman to once again become one. Adam later named the woman Eve after they had disobeyed God.

Marriage in God's eyes is; HOLY MATRIMONY!"

The sexual intercourse between two committed married lovers is supposed to be a mutually satisfying beautiful expression to one another. Together the couple can learn to freely express & share physical intimacy. The goal should be to work together to achieve satisfaction. Each couple is different and so are your desires. Your togetherness should be an expression of your love. In the eyes of God; the marriage bed is undefiled.

God has asked His children to only have sexual relationships within the confines of marriage. God blesses and sanctions the marital bed. Marriage is symbolic of His Church. Remember as a believer you are His Church. You made a commitment to live by His Word. It would be helpful to take some time to read His Word. Here you will get a better understanding of God's plan for marriage. Pray for a deeper understanding about proper sexual relationships.

You are the most precious human Gift to be given to your spouse in the eyes of the Lord. You become united as one as you allow the Lord to knit your hearts together in His Love. Together you can grow in grace and love.

The world has many opitions

Think about it for a moment. The world has many options. Please, don't just go along with the world's way of being. All the chaos we see around us is the results of the masses moving away from the principles of God. Make a decision to commit or recommit yourself to God. How do you feel about this type of commitment? Is it still fashionable for believers to commit to a monogamous marriage? Yes indeed; for it comes with an unexplainable inner peace and joy! You can trust one another when you truly take your commitment seriously. If you are married it is never too late to start building a mutually satisfying sexual fulfilling relationship that is right for both of you. There is much "security & significance" when you know that you are honoring God within your marriage.

You cannot change anything that has happened. But now that you know better you can always go forward doing things differently that will enhance your life. The lessons you have learned are invaluable when you use them to actually help refine who you are becoming. Don't get bitter, but get better! God our Creator and Sustainer of life really does want to be a part of every area of our lives. He does not force His will or way upon us. He allows us to choose. In the Lord you can discover true peace. As a matter a fact "He will give you His Peace that surpasses the understanding of man." So you can expect to be misunderstood. Understanding comes from God. All sorts of things happen in life... God is available and willing and ready to help us through every situation. Learn to earnestly seek Him above all else. It is our choice to embrace the Truth of His marvelous Word. It is through His design of marriage we can experience genuine marital "Oneness."

Your marriage will be what you both make it

Get to know your spouse and their likes and dislikes. Don't compare your marriage to someone else's marriage. Your marriage will be what you both make it. Learn how to enjoy one another.

Take a look around you. What does your bedroom say? Has it become congested with a lot of clutter? It should be a reflection of your love. It is never too late for improvement. If it has, design and make a plan. Get busy getting it in order...Take steps to change your bedroom into a comfortable pleasant welcome retreat for both of you. This way you both will look forward to spending time here. Remember; Your marriage will be what you both make it.

How do you feel about yourself? Take a good look at yourself commit to being the "Best you," that you can be. Life is too short to spend most of it unhappy and unfulfilled. Again it is never too late. Sarah was over eighty and yet still attractive when she had Isaac. Begin taking better care of yourself. Pray and ask the Lord to help you. The marriage bed is honorable. It is the only place that God sanctions sex. You don't always have to have sexual intercourse. The frequency of coming together that works, is between the two of you. Just make sure that you are both sensitive to each others needs. Make sure you spend time with the Lord and always pray or your spouse. It is important to always be affectionate with one another as well. When your needs are met in a healthy manner there is no need to look outside of your marriage. Hugs and kisses, pats and embraces say "I care!" So get busy! Your marriage will be what you both make it.

Today anything goes

In this 21st century where just about "anything goes" people change partners like a pair of shoes? Many continuously compromise God's principles. No wonder so many marriages don't succeed. But this does not have to be the case. Genuine love is not something you can manipulate. Always remember that "God is Love!" There is no getter source than Him. God is so gracious kind and loving that He allows us to choose. Man continues to attempt tp redefine and attempts to reconstruct the definition of marriage. But this still has not changed God's original design for marriage. Your marriage will be what you both make it. God is faithful. He wants us to be faithful to our vows. I am Pro Marriage; GOD'S WAY!

Be God's Church Everyday & Everywhere!

Christ is the Head (by the way there is only one head) of HIS CHURCH. The Church is symbolic of His body of which He is the Head. His Church are those who have accepted Christ Jesus into their hearts as Lord & Savior all over the world. We are to daily embrace and apply to our own lives the Truth of His Word! Marriage is supposed to be symbolic of Christ's relationship with His Church. The Church is the Bride of Christ. Know God is eternally Faithful!

Cancerous sin retards the church's progression towards reaching maturity. When sin is prevalent it also hinders our worship services and reduces them to carnally dramatized emotional productions void of precious spiritual fruit. Don't allow satan to deceive you. Don't get pulled into the world's way of living. The only way to truly worship the Lord is "in SPIRIT and in TRUTH." If you are currently participating in sexual sin, if your spouse is indulging in sexual sin, repent then abstain! Know this; You are out of the will of the Lord. Take a spiritual bath in the Word of God. Allow HIM to "cleanse you from all unrighteousness." Get back on track. It really is possible to have a committed monogamous marriage.

Live everyday to please GOD not man! This is the ultimate truth; "THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE!"

Please let this be a wake up call. Stop now! Exercise some self-control! Sex without commitment to marry is selfish. You are operating outside of the will of God. I realize that this is not considered the norm by many. But notice the way the world is today. What we are seeing is a manifestation of God's principles being set aside. Find someone who you can be accountable to.

The Narrow Road is the road less traveled. Fewer travel upon this road. Ask the Lord to place someone in your life that will keep you on the straight and narrow. Better yet confess and repent and ask God to send you someone to turn you around if you need help. God knows your weaknesses. He would not tell any of us to do something that is not possible. The Lord has given us His Holy Spirit, His Comforter to help us 24/7. Sin does not have to rule your life. Paul tells us "I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." (1 Corinthians 7:8-9 KJV) If you play with fire it will burn your house down!

Allow the Lord His place within your daily life everyday. We never know what a day may bring. We who are believers are to live each day as though our Lord were going to return. As you spend time in His presence He will manifest and multiply the Fruit of His Spirit within you. With the Lord you are or can be ; "More than a conqueror through Christ Jesus our Lord..."

God says; "if you Love me, obey Me!"

To answer the question; YES; Adultery, fornication and infidelity are all a problem. As a matter of fact you are actually choosing to walk in disobedience. Sexual intercourse binds you together far deeper than just momentary pleasure. So be careful who you join together with. You are setting yourself up for unhappiness in an uncommitted relationship. But for how long? There is a better way, If you truly believe in God's Word. You cannot change anything that has happened. But you can start afresh and begin anew. God does have the power to deliver you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness. He can help you have a fulfilling lifestyle. Remember what Jesus said to woman caught in adultery? "GO & sin NO more..." Know this; she was not by herself.

© 2017 Elder DeBorrah K Ogans


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