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Infidelity Among Men And Women Society Weighs In
Should Women Come Terms With The Fact That Some Men Cheat?
Is infidelity accepted among men? This article is surrounds the topic of infidelity and how some women view the matter at hand.
What's Good For The Goose Is Good For The Gander!
Two Can Play That Game!
I used to stay up late at night eavesdropping on my parent’s conversation. Through the thin walls separating our bedrooms, I overheard my dad telling my mom, that she had to deal with his infidelity in order to make their relationship work.
“That’s how men are!” Is what he would say. But what bothered me the most is that my mom constantly put up with my dad’s philandering ways.
I was nothing like my mother, she was passive and quiet; she rarely spoke a word. I took after my dad, who was bold, and unapologetic for his unsubtle behavior. My promiscuous nature was also inherited from my dad as well.
My mother continually reminded me that men can go out into this big vast world and have all the sex they want, because this is a “man’s world.” However, a young lady must keep her legs closed and her heart open towards submission.
My mother’s advice went in one ear and out the other. I refuse to be a doormat for men like my dad!
I enjoy sex, similar to most men. And due to my heavy sexual appetite, I’ve been called every bad name imaginable, by men who thought that I was one of those women who idly stand by and keep quiet. Nope! Two can play that game.
Men are studs when they sleep around and women are known as sluts. I believe that the same societal judgment should be applied to women as well. I don’t understand Why Is It publicly acceptable for men to sleep around? Signed,
(O.S.)Outspoken Slut, & Proud of It!
Think Before You Hop Into The Sack!
Dear… Lady, it’s not wise for men or women to sleep around. I can think of three reasons off hand:
Research indicates that the following STD’s plague those who engage in sex with multiple partners.
1. Sexually Transmitted diseases: Gonorrhea (1.4 million each year (1.3 men to every woman. This disease is caused by direct contact with infected mucous membranes and secretions in genitals mouth and throat.
Syphilis -130,000 each year (1.3 men to every woman) Caused by direct contact with ulcers of someone with active infection.
Chlamydia- 4 million each year (1.3 men to every woman) the cause of this disease stems from direct contact with infected mucous membranes.
Genital Herpes- 30 million affected; 500,000 each year (2 women to every man) The cause stems from direct contact with an active sore or virus containing genital secretions which can lie dormant for months in some cases years.
2. Pregnancy- You could end up pregnant by a guy you don’t know or like. And as for men, you could end up impregnating a woman who will come after you for child support. (Note: eighteen years is a long time.)
3. Bad Reputation: Defend your reputation. After all, you don’t want “Outspoken Slut” engraved on your headstone.
If you feel the need to sleep around perhaps something more could be going on mentally. Contacting a health professional that you can talk to about your energetic physical desires could be of help.
Million-Dollar Cheat Deal
Have It Your Way Jerry Weintraub
The Truth About Infidelity
Lust can happen in a seemingly good relationship. The desire to please the flesh over commitment can torment the soul.
According to research, the temptation is acceptable in a large city. In smaller towns infidelity is not accepted.
Relationship doctors share that 50 percent of all married women are residing with a husband who has or will eventually cheat. Many experts claim that the number could be higher. Do to shame many men will not admit to having an affair.
However studies suggest that women are catching up to men. Some women are having affairs on the job.
Trying to Get Even
Many women and men who have been cheated on feel victimized to the point of getting even. In a studies show that the majority of women are emotionally hurt by the thought that their husband shared a meaningful relationship with another woman.
While men are most hurt concerning the physical nature in which their wives were involved with another man.
Women communicate verbally, the details that their spouse may have shared with another woman is heartbreaking. Later on some women began beating themselves up mentally.
Why Men Cheat
Men feel betrayal differently from women. For men there is a sexual desire and adventure.
Some men desire the attention from another woman, other than their wife. Many men view infidelity as an escape. And some men feel that it is acceptable.
Why Women Allow Cheating In Their Marriage
Many Women Allow Cheating in their marriage, due to low self-esteem, not believing that they are capable of finding anyone else, they allow the infidelity.
Is It Possible To Stay With A Spouse Who Cheats?
It is possible to stay with the spouse, if you are willing to forgive. Forgiveness surrounds trusting that your spouse is not lying, learning not to doubt your spouse, and truly accepting his/her apology.
However, the jilted spouse has to really believe through constant reassurance that she/he will never be hurt again, and this could take a while.