Is It Wrong To Wear Lingerie Behind Your Wife's Back?

This is a big question. For some men, it is the big question, the question on which entire lifetimes of love and family hinge. Is it wrong not to tell your wife you wear lingerie? Is it wrong to secretly wear lingerie behind a woman's back?

In an ideal world a man would tell his wife that he liked to wear lingerie, she would agree that she also liked wearing lingerie and they would continue doing the dishes. Lingerie is just clothing and in a serious relationship what the two of you are wearing is usually the least of your real world concerns. However this is not an ideal world and many women lack the broadness of mind it takes to realize that lingerie is just clothing and not symptomatic of some deep instability in a man's personality. Some women also take appearances very seriously indeed, and if you have one of those lovely ladies on your arm you can be sure that she doesn't want you even so much as thinking about trying to upstage her in the femininity department.

In general, I believe that it is only right and fair that you at least tell the woman in your life that you like to wear lingerie. If you do not you are denying her the chance to be close to you and you are denying her the chance to actually show you that she does love you no matter what you wear. If you do want to tell the special lady in your life that you wear lingerie, I've written a couple of guides. You can find them here, here, and here. People have found them quite useful, and there are some great comments from men who have lived through the experience and survived, so I really do recommend that you at least browse them if you're contemplating honesty.

Usually, guides or not, men will at least hint towards the idea to see if the woman in their life is receptive. Receiving a sharp rebuttal in the feeling out stages will make a man realize that his wife is not interested in such things and due to societal conditioning and a disposition towards accepting the status quo as the holy grail, may even hold the idea of a men wearing 'women's' clothing abhorrent. Is this an illogical and misandric position to hold? Yes. A thousand times yes. But I've written about these things several times so there is no real need to repeat myself now is there, now, in this article, we must deal with the fact that there are men who love women who are unable to love them for who they really are. Reality is sometimes unpleasant but we have to climb down off our unicorn clouds and deal with it at some point.

Let's all get off our unicorn clouds in Part Two of this piece...