How To Forget Someone You Love: It Takes 15 Months and 27 Days To Forget An Intimate Lover
How To Forget Someone You Love
Trying to learn how to forget someone you love can be... challenging to say the least. The Memories. The Good Times. The Bad Times. The fantasies of what they are doing, and who they are doing it with, can drive some people...MAD.
These thoughts can make it very hard to forget someone we once loved. And it can make many of us feel like we are nothing without them.
For many of us out there we base our worth on how our partner makes us feel. And this is wholly evident in people who STAY in a bad relationship. They love their partners so much, and they think that if they are not with them, they will never be with someone else.
Or worse they feel that they CANNOT be with someone else.
But...that is a lie.
And that is a serious fragmentation of your emotional development.
So in this article, I will be going over how you can forget someone you love and how you can move on in life.
You torture yourself every day when you fixate on their love while they don't even care about you OR have moved on with their lives.
Give Yourself Time To Get To Know Yourself
As mentioned above, you probably have learned to define your worth by being with your partner (ex-partner). You may have felt like they were your WORLD. Your EVERYTHING.
And this type of love...is NOT rare.
But it doesn't make it real love or good love.
See, the idea that you make someone your world is incredibly detrimental to your emotional state. And this is evident in your current emotional destruction.
Being away from your lover NOW and just being by yourself can help you get back, or get in touch, with who YOU ARE.
You have defined who you are with that person and now that they have moved on it is crushing you, hurting you...killing you; inside of course.
But understand that it is not the person that has left that is the problem -- but YOU who is making the breakup the problem.
- You may feel like you don't like yourself.
- You may feel like you aren't good enough.
- You may feel like you don't love yourself.
But if you don't feel these ways about yourself...how can you ever expect others to feel that way as well???????????????
This time that you are alone with yourself should give you the time to go on a date with yourself.
To Pamper yourself as much as you would for your partner.
Better yet -- to pamper yourself as much as you would want that person to pamper you.
If you aren't doing it for yourself then it is superlatively greedy and selfish to dare demand it from anyone else.
Hey...I'm just saying.
15 Months and 27 Days
It has been said that it takes 15 months and 27 days to forget a loved one.
Of course, this is all subjective.
For some people, they can go to their graves still...STILL wanting to be loved by that singular person.
And that...that is a FUCKING LUDICROUS way to live your life.
Life is a gift.
And if someone cannot see the value in who you are then it is time to move on and find someone who can value your worth.
Now, I do know that there are some who may have pushed the person away and did so in a way that now makes that person no longer want to be with them.
As much as you may not like this answer, provided below, this is something you will have to do.
You will need to apologize for the wrong you have done. The apology is to help you come to some closure with that person.
Will they forgive you?
That depends on the person.
But you need to apologize otherwise that guilt will rob you of positive emotions.
The next thing you will need to do is get rid of everything in your house/apartment that reminds you of that person.
Because you will be triggered.
You have to de-trigger yourself by removing anything that will remind you of that person.
This is only a temporary thing though.
As there may be a song that comes on the radio or a movie you watched or the restaurant your both went to that will ultimately trigger you.
But removing it will help to give you the strength to, at least start to, forget the person, and that is so crucial.
Understand that this isn't cruel -- but it is helping you to move on with your life.
If you can do this for the time allotted above you will slowly start to get back the self-worth that you GAVE to someone else.
AGAIN...this is all subjective.
Discover Your Passion
Lastly, you will want to discover your passion in life.
You will be amazed at how doing something you love will take your mind off of that previous lover.
Now, this is not so much about distracting yourself -- but it is a great way to re-channel that unbridled love you had for someone and place it into something that will benefit your life overall.
What you DON'T want to do at this time is:
- Listen to sad music
- Feel sorry for yourself
- Fall into a depressive state and let it consume you
- Do NOTHING productive
- BEG FOR THEM TO TAKE YOU BACK
You may have lost that person forever -- but in finding yourself and finding your passion...you will be the better for it.
Do You Agree That You Can Get Over A Lover?
Sound Off Below
I know there are many who may disagree...and that is cool as hell. If you disagree please let me know below. I would be curious to hear YOUR PERSPECTIVE; as well all have different perspectives in life.