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"Jealousy is a malignant Cancer that Will Kill Any thriving Relationship"

Updated on May 13, 2013

''Jealousy Is A Malignant Cancer That Will Kill AnyThriving Relationship"

Beware of jealousy, it's the culprit that kills a thriving relationship and make bothparties miserbale.
Beware of jealousy, it's the culprit that kills a thriving relationship and make bothparties miserbale.

"Jealousy Is A Malignant Cancer That Will Kill any Thriving Relationship"

I know this to be a true fact because I lived it myself, when I was much younger. Jealousy is like a malignant tumor that eats at the core of an otherwise healthy relationship, until there's nothing left but hatred, heart break and frustrations. This is the reason most relationships shrivel up and dies. ahe people that carry the jealousy around like an important part of a realtionship, have no clue that this jealousy is the culprit of many broken homes and wrecked relationships. They have no clue what the green eyed monster is capable of, until it's to late to fix the problem. A jealous heart people put their loved ones in prison, by them causing to punch time cards,when ever they go anywhere so they can be able to time the person to see how long they been gone.

These jealous people go as far as to check your phone messages to see who you been calling or whose been calling you. It does get worse because some of them have the audacity to want you to stop seeing your family and relatives for fear of someone telling you something like warning them about the pitfalls of being with a jealous person. Anyone that's involved in a relationship with an insanely jealous person is living in a nightmare in the daytime. I have lived in fear, fear of arguing, fighting and even to the point of fearing for my life. When you live in fear in your own home , where else can you go to feel safe. Everything you say or do is under total scrunity when you're involve with a jealous person. Jealousy is an emotion that destroys and kills it's victims mentally and sometimes, physicially.

I have seen my children involved with jealous control freaks, that want to tell them what to wear and what not to wear, what to do, when to come home, who to see and not see. I know this sounds silly and pathetic but it's true. The sad thing about it is these people are making your life miserable and they don't seem to care as long as you're doing, what they want you to do. So, if anyone of you are going through this type of relationship, maybe it's time for your to free your self cautiously for this person. always remember that this jealousy cancer want stop until it destroys you and your emotionally stability.

Love is trust and respect for the person you love and not being a prison warden over the person. Jealousy is not love, it's an insecure sickness that destroys the people that you profess to love. If you want genuine love, respect and security, then find someone that love, trust and respect you. Then you can enjoy life and peace of mind because without it you're miserable.


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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you NanaMarie, for your visit and comment, I totally agree with you. Godspeed. creativeone

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      ThussaysNanaMarie 6 years ago from In my oyster

      Well said. Many people cant help being jealous. They are just so insecure.They should get help fast and put the shoe on the other foot.

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Hello, for your visit and comment, jealousy is a royal pain in the behind and shouldn't be entertained by anyone. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

      I wish everybody would read this and learn from it. I had that experience and it is a nightmare. It done so quietly, you don't realize it until the 'cage' is locked. I personally could never be jealous and he had al the freedom and a field day.

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much listlady, for your visit and comment,I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      TheListLady 6 years ago from New York City

      When I was growing up and I am 62 now, society taught us young women that if a man was jealous it meant he loved you, really loved you and it was an acceptable defect.

      We know now that it is is not true. Almost everyday I read about a jealous man attacking/killing a woman - even being so evil as to harm the children.

      Jealousy is a trait that indicates there is savagery. Get away quickly because these people will now kill your children.

      Rated up!

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank Revlady, for the visit and the positive feedback, I appreciate you. God bless you and I hope you getting back to your old self again. Godspeed. cvreativeone59

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      RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      Great hub. Surely, jealousy, if not contained, will explode into violence. Thanks for this wonderful exposition Creativeone. I enjoyed the read.

      Forever His

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      SpiffyD 6 years ago from The Caribbean

      There are some who subscribe to the view that a little jealousy is a good thing. Perhaps that is so, but the threshold is not that great. As you pointed out, that is when it morphs into controlling behaviour. Even moderate volumes of jealousy on a consistent basis can put people on edge. Nice hub.

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you pointblank,for yourvisit and feedback. Sometimes the signs are there,but people want to be with someone so bad that they look over the signs or they be in denial, like it will pass. They end up hurt and broken hearted in the end. God bless you. creativeone59

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      pointblank009 6 years ago from Buffalo

      To bad jealous people don't publicly announce they're jealous nature in personal ads or some type of relationship report or resume.

      Many times men and women show the signs in the beginning and still ignore it. I didn't I once saw it early in a big-busted woman, but cut it short. Mind over mammaries, lol.

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you again Guanta, I appreciate you and your feedback.Blessings to you. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      c-bless. thank you for your visit and comment, I believe that statement is true. I also know that I couldn't write about it so well unless I myself had lived the experience. God bless you. creativeone59

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      Guanta 6 years ago from New York City

      creativeone59 - thank you KwameG, appreciate your comment.

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      c-bless 6 years ago

      Joyce Meyer says: Hurting people hurt people. I believe that is the mind of a jealous person. Your article was insightful and a good read. Thank you for writing.

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank LG, for your visit and comment, I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you dashingScorpio, for your visit and feedback, I totally agree with your analogy of jealousy, it is an insecure sickness and some people think it's okay, when it's not. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Ruby,for your visit and comment, and I learned a long time ago that what you say is really true. God bless you. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Apostle Jack, for your visit and comment but I wrote the truth as see it.Godspeed. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you KwameG, for your visit and comment and for the comment on the picture,God bless you. creativeone59

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      William Kovacic 6 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

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      So very well said and right on target. Thanks for sharing!

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      dashingscorpio 6 years ago

      "Jealousy is not love it's an insecure sickness that destroys the people that you profess to love." This is a very true statement unfortunately there are lots of people that see jealous lovers as caring about them. In fact I have seen couples intentionally try to upset each other. Now that is major game playing! No one should be in a relationship where they feel the need to walk on egg shells in order to keep the peace.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I agree. When someone is overly jealous, quite possibly they're thinking you are doing what they are doing. This is familiar. Thank you.

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      Apostle Jack 6 years ago from Atlanta Ga

      You said a mouth full.

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      KwameG 6 years ago from MS

      Very good info and perspective, and nice picture also. thanks for the Great Hub.

      @Guanta, it is amazing how many people actually think being jealous is a prerequisite of love or an indication of extreme love, when in many cases, jealously is just the opposite, thanks for your comment.

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much Guanta, for your visit,comment and feedback. I appreciate you. I know about jealousy because I was a victim myself. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Guanta 6 years ago from New York City

      Thank you for your Hub creativeone59. Very good advice, especially for younger people who might mistake jealousy for love. Thanks again.

      p.s. love your necklace on the photo.

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      benny Faye Douglass 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much cynamans, for your visit,vote and comment, I appreciate you and God bless you. creativeone59

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      cynamans 6 years ago from Washington DC

      Hi creativeone59,

      very interesting hub. relationships are definitely hard and being a jealous person will not get you far, you are so right to point this out. I enjoyed reading your post and I am voting this one up and awesome!