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Jealousy: Normal and Abnormal
Is Jealousy Normal or Abnormal?
Is jealousy normal or abnormal? Well, I say it is both, because if you cannot feel jealous at least a few times in your life. Then you might have Alexithymia. Which means you cannot identify with or describe emotion.
I can remember feeling jealous of my mother when she was dating my step-father to be. I didn't know what I felt was jealousy until I was older. I didn't want anyone to take my mother away from me---I was only four years old then, but I felt jealous. Then we might say this would be an example of jealousy as being a normal emotional reaction.
I have always lived with the concept of evaluating sin by varying degrees, where I got this from-----who knows. My mother said I swam at the lower end of our gene pool, way too long. She was so funny. Anyway, I use this same concept to evaluate jealousy.
Example of Normal Jealousy
When you are at dinner, with a date and you see another good-looking man . Do you look? Well, of course, I glance in that general direction--because I appreciate beauty in any form. And as I have always told men whom I am dating--I may give my heart away, but not my eyes, so I will look if I want.
If he looks unhappy by my actions, this is normal, and I will try to keep my eyes on him, or it would be a degree of rudeness, which I really do not like from anyone, anywhere or anytime.
Or if he glances at another woman, then I assume that he appreciates beauty also. But if he was rude enough to walk over to her table when I was in the lady's room and start a conversation----and if he was still chatting her up when I returned. I would sit down at our table---order my dessert to go--then I would quietly walk out. And if I did this it would be another type of degree called ------I am just not into him .
Example of Abnormal Jealousy
You are at a dance and another man wants to cut in , and he dances with you the shortest dance in history, because Rambo has cut back in to take you back as his dance partner. Now, you may have gone to the dance with Rambo, but if he display this type of behavior---then he is not acting normal.
Anytime someone acts excessively jealous, possessive and just plain domineering ---it is time to leave this person alone---call a taxi and get out of there. Because they will become more forceful and jealous as time passes.
Yes, I fell into a rut---- you might say---and dated men who were excessively jealous---but I soon learned to climb out of there and get the heck out of Dodge.
It is not worth my time to have these types of issues. And yes, I also have degrees concerning any issues I might have---as my time on this earth is too valuable to worry about anything I cannot solve in a day, but I will ponder if jealousy is normal or abnormal?
I believe a jealous person is also possessive, and one should stay as far away from anyone who fits this description. And if you are dating someone like this--be aware of what is in store, and do not be a victim.
If you are in a marriage with a jealous person who cannot control his actions--there are many places one can seek help for this issue. Don't wait until it is out of control, act now.
Jealousy can lead to someone being mean and violent when provoked, as they operated on a volatile zone.
There are many women taking abusive treatment today, because they live with a jealous person, who needs help, but will not seek it, as they feel they are normal, and everyone else is not.
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