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Just say it out loud!
"I Love You"!
Grand words, commonly used in poetry and one of the most multifaceted but perhaps least expressed phrases in human relations these days, or at least most days; it sure seems like that! But why such beautiful and divine phrase is so hindered by so many, especially when it comes to acquaintances? You could probably effortlessly say it to a close member of your family, however, in that same fashion it may feel a bit uncomfortable expressing it to others. Possibly, the “I love you’” may be just dissipating, just as is poetry!
“Don’t leave me high, don't leave me dry” ~ beautiful lyrics from Radiohead, music we certainly enjoy listening leading us simply to dream and imagine the mysticism of love. Are we mourning the tradeoff for love?
Sadly, in this era when there is a very fine line between love and hate, angry characters making the top most popular video games, people sending vicious computer viruses using the words “I love you”; and nonetheless, an almost 12 years of absurd war that hauled our world into a chaotic and vulnerable lifestyles; but of course these facts and much more miserably overflows the skepticism of human’s minds and souls when it comes to expressing signs of affection.
To uncover this predicament, not long ago I ventured in a short-lived test, posting on my various personal social media channels stating, “Say I Love you…” having the optimistic intention of getting a caring response to my emotive request. Even though I know my friends and family love me, the response? Zero, nada, nothing, no one, no even relatives had the bravery or even the awareness in retorting such beautiful words back to me.
But what is the true meaning of love? Based on resources such as Wikipedia, “Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment”. Love could also mean a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection; and "the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. Perhaps, the outmost meaning of it must be when to say it, how to say it and most importantly who to say it to. Well, that may explain it all. Could it be a matter of who’s in control?
Some people may feel awkwardness expressing their feelings fearing vulnerability, fear of commitment, or idiocy specially when done in the public eye, or some just apprehensive for reciprocity. The heroic ones that have the willpower to say it, and of course receive it, pretty well know that saying “I love you” can be one of the coolest and most fulfilling spiritual sensations in the world.
It’s very easy to get so caught-up in life by routine, making us forget the simple things in life that makes us happy, forgetting the importance in showing affection to those that surround us. This trend is making some of us realized, that many years have gone by and we have missed the best part of it.
As you consider these, some of you may find that the time is not of an essence; it's the method and the act of verbalizing your feelings. So let me share 5 simple ways that could effortlessly help you accomplish this, by expressing the words “I love you”:
- Actions Speak Louder Than Words ~ doing someone else’s chores, preparing a especial home cook meal, just smiling or perhaps leaving notes in unusual places simply saying “I love you” can make somebody’s day.
- Writing A Poem ~ an old-fashioned and extraordinary way to say, “I love you” is to write a poem. You don’t have to be Shakespeare – just look for genuine, unique ways to tell someone that you love them. Try not to fall back on clichéd phrases about their gorgeous blue eyes or their rosy plumy red lips, or the nice rack of lamb they have.
- Just Listening ~ we all have so much to say and it’s so easy to talk over people or to tune out most of what they’re saying, especially when we are so into your own daily routines. Listen for what they don’t say; unvoiced concerns or worries, will give you hints on how their true feelings are and where their mind is. Making eye contact to show that you’re paying attention and really care could be a wonderful thing.
- Dressing-Up ~ this may sound a bit conceited for some; yet, this is normally done in the early stages of most relationships, when going to special events, or spiritual places, even when going to work; you’ve probably made the effort to look your best, and not only you feel at your best, but you are displaying to your surrounding acquaintances, that you care about yourself, and therefor about them. Of course! It feels great to lounge around in your jammies or your over sized, hole-ridden, stinky t-shirts, but consistently getting dressed-up when going out, using lovely scents; it doesn’t have to be fancy, but it can certainly rekindle that early thrill in the relationship or pleasantly express a more enjoyable visual of yourself to societies.
- Just say it! ~ making a greater impact by actually saying, “I love you”; and even greater, by broadcasting these words in public, by using your personal social media channels, you can send this powerful message across to your love ones and displaying it across the globe; will encourage others that is alright to spread the love. People might even duplicate your message and incidentally creating a chain reaction serving us all to have a more harmonious world.
For sure, there are by far more than 5 ways to say, “I love you”, even without speaking a word – what tips do you have? What especial something have someone done to express these beautiful feelings?
The point across is just to say it! Once you’re ready to say “I love you,” say it out loud and say it proud! Everyone wants to know, feel and hear they are loved, no matter who they are. Sure I am! And guess what? Eventually our children will learn from you and most likely it will show them how to express their love, to our desperate world in need.