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Why It Is Essential to Keep in Touch With Old Friends

Updated on December 8, 2011

Three weeks ago, a friend of mine, who was close to me since elementary school, messaged me on Facebook and said that she wanted me to come home to town because she missed me. I told her that I could not go home because I had no money so I was stuck in the city. The last time I saw her in person was five months ago when our batch had a reunion of sorts. Three nights ago, a shocker happened: she passed away for very tragic reasons.

If there is anything that I realized and learned from her loss, it is that it is VERY important to always have some time for old friends. I was stupid enough to ignore her messages, thinking that she would always be around and I could just catch up with her any time. Now I do not know whether she died with some hard feelings for me, because she treated me as her best friend and I didn’t even reach out to her when she needed me. My own guilt killed me, too.

It is sad how it takes the death of one friend for us old friends to meet again. Maybe God wants us to learn the hard way, because then it would make a greater impact on us. And that is what is happening to me.

I hope this story also serves as a lesson to those of you reading this. “I am busy” is just a lame excuse that we use to defend ourselves and put out that guilt about the fact that we are not busy actually. If we are, it is still not an excuse to forget about them. We have time for watching TV, partying, eating out, so that means we also have time for the more important things. Do it before it’s too late.


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      JoKalvin 6 years ago from Philippines

      @Admiral_Joraxx, thank you for your sympathy. You are right, her death really reminded me how short life can be. And thank you for the vote.

      @KeithTax, I couldn't agree with you more. Facebook can help, but sometimes it only separates you from people you love, thinking that online interaction is enough. Thank you very much for sharing your sympathy, I appreciate it so much. :)

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      JoKalvin 6 years ago from Philippines

      Hi Mellymoo. I really appreciate your heartwarming feedback, thank you very much. Well I understand your situation, you being a mom of four must take up all your time. You are right about guilt, but I couldn't help but feel that, especially when I saw her face in the coffin. Tell you what, she wasn't even smiling. :( And that made me think that she died not happy, not having experienced life to its fullest.

      I am glad that my hub reminded you of that lesson. And thank you again for your wishes. :)

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      JoKalvin 6 years ago from Philippines

      Hello, brandasaur. :) I appreciate your comment, and I am glad that it made you think about visiting your old friends. Keep hubbing, and thank you for sympathy.

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      Keith Schroeder 6 years ago from Wisconsin

      Old friends should also be new friends. It is so much easier today to keep in touch with social media. Still, nothings beats being there. I am sorry for your loss. You never know when you see someone for the last time. We all have to make every moment count. I hope you find peace and comfort after your loss. Make time for your old new friends.

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      Admiral_Joraxx 6 years ago from Philippines

      That's sad. It really feels sick and regretful, the things that we wish we should have done but we didn't. Most especially if we know we will never be able to do it anymore. Thanks for this hub Jokalvin. It reminds us to also value things which are his of this world like moments with people we care about. 1 vote up and useful for this.

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      MellyMoo 6 years ago from Australia

      I am so sorry for your loss. If I were you, I would be devastated also and full of guilt. I have learnt though, that guilt does nothing but make us feel yuck. You were not to know that she wouldn't be around much longer and I am sure she did not die with hard feelings in her heart for you. She will be with you forever now. You are right in thinking about the lesson here. I often am too busy to see people, as I have 4 children, but at the same time, maybe sometimes I use that as an excuse because it just feels like too much of an effort to try to organise to catch up as I have so much to do every day. There should not be anything more important (besides looking after ourselves and our families), as the special relationships in our lives and I thank you for reminding me to catch up with some of my old friends. I am sending you lots of love and healing. x MellyMoo

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      brandasaur 6 years ago from Planet X

      Oh! I feel so guilty after reading this Hub! Many times I have said to my friends, "I am busy and I don't have free time now. Maybe next week". Now, I'll surely give some time for my friends, most especially my old old friends!

      I am sorry about your bestfriend JoKalvin!