Keeping Spiritual Peace
This is a true testimony I would like to share with you:
Sometimes we look at the way we act, and it looks right to us. But it is not until God gives us a revelation, that we realise we went about doing things the wrong way.
I really wanted my husband to be as passionate about the Lord as I was. I was forever telling him what God wants and what He doesn't like. Always listing him the do's and don'ts of God's Holy Word. Always mentioning how we should live... And one day, he asked me this jaw-dropping question: "Why is the word 'God' in every second sentence you say?" In my defence I automatically uttered: "Because God is the centre piece of my life. Of course I am always going to talk about Him."
My defence looked perfect, because it was true. What I did not realise was, that I was projecting God as my centre piece in a totally wrong way. A few months ago, I came across a scripture that I was sure to have known. Yet, I have missed one little detail about it:
1 Peter 3:1 Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your husbands, so that even if they refuse to believe the word, they will be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives.
How could I have missed the 'without words' part.
And so, months passed where I continued to spoon feed my husband with scripture. It just didn't work. After his jaw-dropping question, my pastor also gave another jaw-dropping suggestion: "Maybe you could try not preaching to him..." Suddenly, the scripture I had partially missed, regained its position in my memory and it took root. I received the revelation I needed.
And it actually worked. My spoon feed strategy changed into lovingly and peacefully portraying a person passionate about God. No wonder people say: actions speak louder than words! I was doing it all wrong!
The question remains though: is it good to speak to your spouse about God? Absolutely! But God mentions a very important thing: That His law is never harmful. Basically, getting someone passionate about the Lord, is all about reeling them in. Not chasing them away...
Maybe you are sitting at home, wondering why your spiritually-perfect words do not reach your spouse's heart? Maybe you could try doing the same. Start displaying how passionate you are about God. Display how you fearfully serve Him in all things you do. Leave the warnings for someone who is really playing with God's mercy or someone is a blasphemer. But even then, warnings should come from a loving place in your heart.
I really hope this post shed some light on a question you were perhaps asking yourself a long time.