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Kenneka Jenkins -The Friends You Can't Trust
Kenneka Jenkins Story
- Kenneka Jenkins, Chicago teen, found dead in freezer at Rosemont Crowne Plaza Hotel - CBS News
19-year-old Kenneka Jenkins disappeared after going to hotel party with her friends, sparking 11-hour search
Let's Be Friends
People often say don’t trust a woman that has no female friends. While there are women that enjoy sisterhood unfortunately many women have experienced several encounters with women that hate you more than they love you. They spend time with you, desire to know your every move, and with sweetness even lure you to your death under the pretense of friendship. Kenneka Jenkins of Chicago had “friends” that apparently put her in danger and with full knowledge took part in orchestrating her demise. Far too long this subject is overdue to discuss honestly based on what really happens in life. Sisterhood, especially in the African American community, is at an all-time low. Too many of us unfortunately are fooled by the goodness of our own hearts believing those that spend time in our houses, going on vacation, or having dinner and drinks care for us the same way that we care for them. Too many women sit around hating others, plotting against them, doing everything to destroy a person mostly out of envy driven by pure evil intensions. Be not fooled by someone displaying random acts of kindness and thoughtfulness, often it’s just a lure to ease you and make you feel like you are great friends but that is merely an illusion.
It wasn't about the hamburger
Behind the plastic smiles and pretense, you will often catch haters convincing you to engage in activities that aren’t your style or doesn’t fit with your morals or character. Lie like me, use people like me, be phony just like me girl…. love ya. Often if you just step back a few moments you’ll see the insincerity in their eyes and feel the presence of deceit around you. Never ignore when you feel someone is being disingenuous. Wanting to be part of a group or with popular people is not as important as being around people that practice good morals and are of good character. It seems often a trend of jealously amongst women that aren’t as attractive, do not share the same socio-economic background, aren’t as bright or well-loved as the person they plot against. Time after time you witness women that believed the women they surrounded themselves with really love or care about them often costing them their life. When you look at group photos and videos of the people responsible for harming others – you can almost clearly see their evil intensions. Some of the young ladies had potential and a future whereas it’s clear the women that led to their demise most likely weren’t going anywhere in life. Some of the girls appear more attractive than those in their peer group and become objects of hate without their knowledge. Unfortunately, the victims trust their friends to look out for them when they’re drunk, stranded, or in a bad situation only to find out the people they thought were friends hate everything about them.
What It Feels Like
Frenemy is the term used to describe a person that appears friendly despite their dislike, hate, of another person. They call you to check on you and get information about what’s going on in your life. They live and enjoy any unfortunate that happens to you and enjoy any hurt you experience. They’ll be the first to listen to you cry about your life but let you start winning in life and they want nothing to do with you. They secretly measure themselves against you without your solicitation as if to say “I’m just as good as you.” They’ll appear to be nice making small gestures to make you feel like you’re included but the actions are not done in love and you will feel it. They want to tell you how to act, behave, or conduct yourself when they continue to experience doomed relationships dealing with people that aren’t worth fool’s gold. They just happen to make you run late to an audition or a special event because they really don’t want you to experience anything good. Oops -Were you headed to an event and I spilled something on the table that stained your suit? Have a job interview tomorrow or planning to attend a college tour, they’ll suggest you go out the night before and get really drunk so you don’t do so well the next day. We’re you talking to someone, why don’t I interrupt and engage in conversation that shows you in an unfavorable or negative light. Oh, were you talking to that guy? - I didn’t realize that as I interrupted while lowering my blouse to get his attention. Get the point? It’s usually a series of little slights you can’t put your finger on but you know this person isn’t your favorite fan.
Cain and Abel
Stay In Your Lane
If you were raised to carry yourself a certain way and try to conduct yourself with values, morals, and character stay away from hustlers, liars, and thieves. If you’re trying to work and go to school then you shouldn’t spend your time hanging out with people getting high all the time not focused on achievements or improving their life. You don’t sleep around with everyone but your friend can’t keep her clothes on – not your speed. You want to do better in life focusing on events, conferences, and learning opportunities while all your friends spend time at strip clubs, pole dancing classes, and clubs – not your speed. Ladies be careful around women that are jealous of the attention and beauty you may possess. “Bad company corrupts good morals” so beware of the influence and situations people that hate will draw you into that can cost you your very life.
Remember, Cain killed Abel, for no reason other than pure jealously for him doing right when Cain chose to do wrong.
6 Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? 7 If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”
8 Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.”[d] While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him.
9 Then the Lord said to Cain, “Where is your brother Abel?”
“I don’t know,” he replied. “Am I my brother’s keeper?”
10 The Lord said, “What have you done? Listen! Your brother’s blood cries out to me from the ground.
Trusting the Wrong People - Such A Sad Situation
To my sweetheart who didn’t deserve the hurt, harm, and danger that ended with your death - Kenneka Jenkins you will not be forgotten. It is up to real people that love and know right from wrong to step forward and reveal what happened. No one wants to say anything but if it was your sister or friend and you knew the people that murdered her you would want her to have justice. It is my hope that no woman experiences the betrayal and confusion this young lady faced when she thought she was around people that would look out for her only to be met with this level of hate and indifference. For young ladies to know and ignore another woman being assaulted and turn up the music up to drown out her cries of distress-unfathomable. This harm to the innocent by people that spend time faking love and friendship is something that has to stop. Ladies please really tune in and pay attention to the non-verbal communication that takes place amongst your friends. When the women around you seen sneaky, deceitful, or not true don’t second guess yourself leave them alone. As you get older you learn to read people and you learn to decipher between someone’s appearance of being friendly and the reality of being a true friend. Snakes always reveal their nature so beware of the company you keep. Only align yourself with those that operate in truth and seek righteousness. Be ok alone. Too many people will spend time with people of low character just to have someone around. Master your love and completeness within yourself to attract righteous people into your life, beware of wolves in sheep’s clothing.