Kept Men

Over the decades, the number of men, especially those from Third World countries, who 'sell' themselves has increased geometrically.

In 'ancient' days, there were the gigolos, the beach boys, rentadreads, where it was all upfront. Younger man, older woman, relationship lasts for the length of the stay.

The alteration from selling time to selling themselves has now exploded. And women, instead of being just the pocket have become the owners.

You don't have to search long to find one of these men. Go to any tourist centre, and you'll see women of 40+ (or 60+) with a man of 20+ (or 30+) whom she owns, as if she bought him in a slave market.

Many marriages occur where the unattractive older woman uses her position and VISA to import her property to her home country.

Once there, his status as slave is proven.

In the story "It Just Keeps Getting Better" I fictionalized a situation between a chauffeur and a person of Executive rank. It is based on a true story, one of many.

It is common that women employed to Multi-national Corporations as well as Embassies will arrive in the Third World, and make their purchase.

She holds a big position and finds a younger man. Because she has more money than he will ever see in his lifetime, she can 'buy' him.

Although one might wish to dismiss this as him 'using her', in reality she owns him. He does what he says, when she says it, or he's gone.

He, who may have only dreamed of living in such a nice house, having a full belly, buying new quality clothing, is caught in a web. He can not, will not, break free.

Once transported to a foreign country, where he has nothing, knows no one, he has no choice but to wear his shackles.

In many 3rd World Countries, the salary locals make in a week is equivalent to the cost of a lunch for one of these women.

In her country she's no one, middle class. In the 3rd world she's rich! And being rich overwhelms her.

This isn't a woman used to being upper class, who can buy an aspiring actor, this is a nothing nobody. This sudden wealth and power is why she feels empowered to buy a man and treat him as a slave.

Without her he would never be able to enter certain places, enjoy certain things. And she knows he is overwhelmed. It is this reason why he throws away pride, self-respect, independence and voluntarily becomes her possession.

When a woman isn't pretty or desirable and finds herself in a country where she is suddenly sought after because of money, power, or what she may represent, it is hard not to succumb to that allure.

It is hard not to take advantage of the moment that she is no longer the nothing, but suddenly the Everything.

Men have always done it.

It is not shocking to see a man in his 70s marrying some voluptuous female in
her 30s or younger. He knows he has bought her as if he'd gone into a slave market, and she has sold herself.

There is no ambiguity.

Women now appreciate that they also have that purchasing power.

When a woman takes a lover who is totally dependent on her, she has absolute control. She decides.

The 50 year old woman with that 30 year old man knows he doesn't really love her. She knows he is there for what he can get, so has no compunction in treating him as a slave.

He loves her money, her position, her power. As she knows this, as long as she comprehends that she is no more to him than a meal ticket, a stepping stone, she will be able to maintain her equilibrium.

Some men try to fool themselves into believing they love their 'owner' or want what she desires, because it is the only way they can manage their egos.

Others are suddenly shocked by what they have done to themselves. Few can leave, for they have no where to go, nothing to get. The idea of being swept out as garbage keeps them compliant.

The man who finds himself in this position often cuts himself off from friends and family. He is ashamed. It is evident that he is a 'kept man' which is nothing to be proud of.

He has traded whatever sense of dignity he had, for money. He is not the 'man' of the family, he isn't even the equal. She orders, he obeys.

Over time he doesn't try to find a job, make plans, he does what she tells him because she holds the strings.

In the first year or two, if he runs he has the clothes on his back and whatever she gave him in value. Most realise the hopelessness of running, so park ego, dreams, and accept the life she offers.

Sometimes the Woman reaches the stage that she's gotten what she wanted. It might be his last name, his nationality, it might be simply a companion.

RentaDreads know who and what they are, and their 'Goose' knows it too. These kept men do not feed themselves palliative. In these situations no one gets hurt and no one is really used. He'll be with her as long as she pays him, she'll pay him as long as he pleases her.

Sometimes she find another, more handsomer or charming or younger and he is replaced. Sometimes he 'trades up'.

It is always sad when one meets these people and they try to explain that 'it wasn't like that', when it really was that.

One does not feel sorry for the Renta or his Goose. After all, they know where they are and what they are, and even if they fooled themselves for a little while, they must come to some level of reality.

The sad cases are those of the hard working man who, because of lack of opportunity or education is stuck in a dead end job, sells himself.

He will put up with the treatment, he will defer, for what he can get.

People who knew him, and respected him, before, are cut out of his life. It hurts too much to see how they see him.

How he sees himself.