Kicking all those bad habits take work
What are your vices? So far, I've given up on dating to starve my love addiction (three months and counting), smoking (since the divorce was settled-- five months and counting), binging on food (I lost an inch off my waist so far), and even cut back on my drinking (but still have my wine with dinner). What's left? Facebook. I can't seem to kick that habit.
In all fairness, who said kicking bad habits is easy, or even desirable? I enjoyed smoking! Too bad it causes cancer, and makes you act like a freak if you haven't had a cigarette in a few hours. But, if you're lucky, you come to the point where you realize that to be a better person, you have to kick certain bad qualities to the curb, and choose a more healthy, active and self-loving lifestyle.
So, these days, instead of puffing away outside on the patio, or getting a buzz with one too many drinks, or even getting my heart smashed by guys who are all too willing to take advantage of a horny single mom, I spend most nights in front of my computer screen chatting away with my friends. OK, I'll admit, some are guys. Oh, and some are married.... Yikes, I think I've just transferred some bad habits into others.
Did I mention that I have an admirer on the other side of the country? I won't even get into the details, but as you can see, the love addict in me has just replaced the drug with the next best fix. Apparently, happiness is the next best thing to being in love.
Moral of the story: if you have any temptations that you are battling, you are definitely not alone. I can give up most anything, but I'd do anything for love (hey, is it just me, or is that an old song?). Or at least the futile feelings of sheer elation. The trick is to pick your poison-- and make sure it has the least harmful effects on you or those around you. When in doubt, "just say, 'no!'"