King Ahasue'rus and Queen Vasti
Now it came to pass in the days of Ahasuerus which reigned from india even unto Ethiopia,over a hundred and seven and twenty provinces. That in those days when king Ahasuerus sat on the throne of his kingdom which was in shu'shan the palace. in the third year of his reign, he made a feast unto all his princes and his servant; the power of Persia and media, the noble of his glorious kingdom and the honor of his excellent majesty many days, even an hundred and fourscore days.
And when these days were expired, the king made a feast unto all the people that were present in shushan the palace, both unto great and small, seven days in the court of the garden of the kings palace. Where were white, green and blue, hangins, fastened with cords of fine linen and purple to silver rings and pillars of marble: the beds were of gold and silver, upon a pavement of red and blue and white and black marble.
And they gave unto them drink in vessel of gold(the vessel being diverse one from another) and royal wine in abundance, according to the state of the king.
And the drinking was according to the law: none did compel: for so the king has appointed to all the officers of his house, that they should do according to every mans pleasure. Also Vasti the queen made a feast for the women in the royal house which belonged to king Ahasuerus. On the seventh day when the heart of the king was merry with wine, he commanded Mehu'man, Biz'tha, Harbo'na and Abag'tha, Ze'tha and car'cas, the seven chamberlain that served in the presence of Ahasue'rus the king, to bring Vasti the Queen before the king with the crown royal to shew the people and princes her beauty: for she was fair to look on.
But the Queen refused to come at the kings commandment by his chamberlains: therefore was the king very wroth, and his anger burned in him.
We just read the story of a man who was a ruler of one hundred and twenty seven provinces. He wasn't just a king over one province but over a hundred and twenty seven provinces. As a husband, aspire to live an extraordinary life. You don't have to leave at the mercy of your friend's or mates. This man don't have two heads neither did he have four legs. He was a king but not an ordinary king, he was in charge of one hundred and twenty seven provinces. A man with just one head and two legs. A woman said if you are a man with only one job you are not manly enough. That's true. Your stream of income should be more than one. There are things you will do as a man that will make you not to demand for respect but to command it. Many women kneel to greet their husband whereas others don't and its because such man has what it takes to command the kneeling down. There are two kinds of husband: a mean man and a man of means. When you begin to defend your age as a man something is actually wrong somewhere. You get to hear stuffs like " be careful with me, am not your mate". This shows that something is absolutely wrong. "Be very careful with me woman, did they not tell you that i was born in 19940". That shows you don't have prove. When things that are supposed to be present in your life are absent, things won't be normal. People consciously begin to add insult to your injury.
You ought to be a man of means and not a mean man. Your wife and children should not be forced to respect you as a man.
Now to the women,if a man is in charge of one hundred and twenty seven provinces, then it means that he can't just wake up in the morning, step out in the street and marry anyhow woman. A man that have such authority won't marry a woman who doesn't know the difference between tomatoes and politics, "Who is the president of America, she replies "STEVEKAL". As a single person prepare yourself because water flows at it's level and magnet does not magnet plastic but objects of like passion. God will not give His trusted and proved sons to quarshokor ladies. Water will always find its level. You must really invest in yourself and be loaded as a woman. Now that you are a single, use it to invest into your life and destiny. Becareful who you go with and who you accompany because who you go with determines what goes with you and who you accompany determines what will accompany you. This reason makes most men to be selective. The story told us that Queen Vasti had a feast for the women in the palace belonging to the king. Where she held the feast was not her own. It belonged to the king and he the king now sent for her and she refused to come according to the kings commandment. Queen Vasti has forgotten that she was a Queen because Ahasue'rus was a king. Success is a wild animal, if you don't tame it, it will tear you. Always remember the people that helped you when you were small and there was nothing good to write home about you. Such a man does not need an ingrate. You can change your clothes, your shoes, your electronics, your mind but you can't change history like that. The people on whose shoulders you rode, remember them. I don't fancy you coming to me when am big while you left when i was small. Remember the people that was there when things were void and hopeless. Don't let success enter your head because if it does, it will certainly make your head to swell and your crown will fall off. Its important to know that. Vasti forgot it's because of king Ahasue'rus that she became queen. To whom much is given, much is also expected of such person. As a wife treat your husband as a king. When you are drawing a man's tie in courtship, he should not think of getting married to you because you will also slap him if he eventually marries you.
As a single, abusive words should not proceed out of your mouth. After wedding, only God knows the things you will say. Close one eye in prayer and before you choose open the other eyes to watch. Don't just close the two eyes because even in the church people behave. As a man who has a great future, you can't marry anyhow lady and as a woman who has a great future, you can't just marry anyhow man. Marry someone that can trust you and stand beside you all the way. The person you will marry will determine how long you will last on the throne. You don't need to marry a vasti that will neglect you in the presence of your friends, loved ones and people you are leading. As a woman, treat your husband well and like a king. Honor him. It is what God keeps that is kept. Build your marriage on trust and when you are trusted, don't betray the trust.
There are three things in a mans life and one of them is a king that wants to reign. When he comes back from the days work, let him meet a loving wife. As a woman also learn how to pamper your husband and stop abusing him. Stop calling him his real name. Look for a pet name and call him. Same things goes for the men, inside of every woman is a queen. Address your wife that way and stop shouting at her. As a man, you must be a blessing to your home. If as a man when you come back from work the whole family starts running hectare-sketar, then you are the lion of the tribe of your home. "hes coming, Daddy's coming run, put off the television, arrange every where" Something is wrong. You are not a leader but a tiger. Your family should be happy when you are around. If you are traveling and you tell your family you will be away for just two weeks, they will start crying. But if you are a tiger in the family they will tell you to extend it to two and half months. In the bible you see people like Sarah who call their husband MY LORD, who will not love that. You must be missed when you are away. That's why she told Abraham to take Haggai and he did, he also told him to send her away he also obeyed her.
Its important for you to celebrate one another and build your home. The kind of family your children will have may be to an extent the photocopy of the one you built. They will learn from you. As a man you don't have to always shout and render abuses at your family. Women, inside of every man is a little boy that wants to play. When last did your husband put pillow in your laps? You are always busy. While cooking you can take a little fish in your mouth, come out and put it in his mouth. A lot of our marriages romance has grown wings and flew away. While going to church you are always ahead with your big bible and you leave you wife behind. Your wife returns from the saloon, you can't even appreciate her hair. Come down from cloud 9 and touch your wife. Psychologist said that a woman needs 13 meaningful touches per day. Tickle your wife, touch her kiss her. Carry her on you back if you can. Your home can be heaven on earth but you have to work it out.
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