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Do You Know Your Worth?

Updated on April 28, 2015

Know Your Worth


Whether you're in a relationship or not, ask yourself, "Do I love myself enough?" Also, "Am I good enough?" If the answer to the second question is 'no' or 'I don't know', then you more than likely don't love yourself or respect yourself enough.

If you don't love yourself enough, you can't expect someone to do it for you nor can you be taught to love yourself. You can be told how to, but you must teach yourself. Before I learned to love myself, I couldn't figure out why I had such a hard time loving the women I dated. After a few years of earth-shattering break ups, I stumbled upon an excellent book called 'The Soulmate Secret' by Arielle Ford. This quote made me think: "Just as a seed grows with the warmth of the sun, so our positive qualities grow when we put our attention on them." You need to see yourself as a seed. If you want to grow, you need to put positive thoughts in yourself. Every single day, look at yourself in the mirror... and I mean really look and smile. If you're missing teeth, smile even more. You are beautiful or handsome in your own way! How you feel about yourself shouldn't be defined by someone else's standards. You need to learn how to love yourself first, before you can love someone else.

Find time for yourself to enjoy how awesome you truly are by exploring these interests:

  • Join a gym to help build muscle and build your confidence.
  • Sign up for a martial arts class.
  • Go see a movie with friends or even by yourself.
  • Buy a motorcycle, after learning to ride.

I did those things, and they helped tremendously! Get creative and do something that you've always wanted to do. Once you do that, you'll find yourself wanting to share your fun side with someone else. I mean you'll be so irresistible, that someone will want to be part of your life. You'll want to share your happiness with someone else for sure.

When I reunited with a friend from high school after 10 years (currently my fiancé), I just knew I was good enough to take her on a date. I knew I was charming, creative, a gentleman and fun. I mean, who wouldn't go on an arcade date, and the loser buys ice cream? Of course I lost terribly, but who cares. We had fun! Lets look at this as an example. You have a plastic bowl and need a lid for it right? You open the pantry and find 30 lids. You know one of those lids will fit the bowl, because it just does. Okay... you're already full of awesomeness, and there's someone out there who will see that they'll fit you perfectly. The person who's right for you will only add to your awesomeness, and they'll know you're right for them too!

Once you get going and start living, don't break your focus by forgetting what's important. Taking care of and learning to love / respect yourself is most important.

-Unbroken Focus


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    • Deborah Demander profile image

      Deborah Demander 

      3 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      I am learning to love myself. It is opening up my world in wonderful ways.

      Thanks for writing.



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