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Relationships: Let him SPEAK!
We as women tend to interrupt our men when we speak because we have a counter-argument. But let me tell you something, LET HIM TALK! And I say that because he needs his turn to speak his mind and make his point. He will respect you for it.
I have plenty of conversations with my boyfriend when it involves interesting topics. But one thing I've noticed is my constant need to interrupt him because of my counter-argument. Not only is that rude and somewhat obnoxious, but also disrespectful. It shows that I want to overpower his opinion.
Why do we do that?
Women always want to be right and we love it. It has to do with control and power over the relationship. It also shows that we are the center of attention.
But where does that leave our men? Isn't this supposed to be a partnership?
Yes, it is. And when we're overpowering our partner, our respect for them diminishes. I've learned that my relationship has to be enjoyed by two caring and listening-able individuals. It has to be a partnership where we both grow and care for each other. And communication between us has to be equal.
What happens when your partner listens?
A relationship grows and flourishes when two people listen to each other's opinions. For example, when my boyfriend talks about his opinion, I sit patiently and listen. I listen carefully to his point of view on the topic and wait for my queue to either agree or disagree with his opinion. And I not only speak in a well-mannered and respectful tone, I acknowledge his opinion and eloquently proceed to explain my position.
We have to notice when we're being disrespectful by interrupting our partner. Because no relationship can flourish and grow with arguments, yelling, and disagreements. When you let him speak, he can speak his opinion, and he'll be able to communicate more passively. Communication is important. But also, being an active listener is critical for any relationship to thrive.
So the next time you have a conversation with your partner and you have the urge to interrupt him/her, stop yourself. Wait until he/she is done with the opinion. But also listen carefully and patiently. Once your partner has finished the statement, continue with your opinion. Healthy communication builds a strong and healthy relationship.