Sensing a caring person for life.
It's like a light bulb litting up when I had a dialogue with a newly-met mommie at the dog park a few days ago. We were talking about how we acquired our own dog. She said that the five-month young Irish Setter sat on her lap at the adoption center, so that was the reason why she took her home. I said with mine, she hang around with me everywhere I went.
Then, realization hit. It seems that dogs can sense who CAN BEST take care of them, while we, human beings, have a difficult time with this. We, as people are always in constant search for love and companionship. It has been a never-ending roller-coaster of emotions. We try, we fail, we succeed...for awhile, then try, then try, then try. To fall in love with another person with the intent of romance can be painful or can be glorious. It is a risk one has to take. To fall in love with another for friendship can be gratefully fulfilling, damaging, or frustrating. It is a risk also.
Now, each dog has its own personality, as you may well know. A dog may not like other dogs, or other people, too. But dogs have a closure to their approach in life. My lab retriever, Dallas, the more years I spend with her, the more I learn coping with my chosen single-blessedness.
There is more love and connection between us than any guys I dated, plus she doesn't snore. And if she does, her snores are adorable. I seem to have zero sense on which man would care for me (not the materialistic sense but the loyalty trait).
Most women that I know of, especially the single ones, are in the same boat, cannot sniff a potential caring mate. The married people I know of are on the rocks, or accepted the complacency of marriage life. I wish that I have had that dog's ability of sensing the caring one.
But now, my relationship is focused on my lab princess. The perfect sense of love/not pleased relationship is every present. I get annoyed of her usual dog habit of getting muddy. I get irritated with her stubborness. I cracked with quick-laughter at her silliness.
However, I realize each morning when she wakes me up, a new day of enjoying life relating and caring for her is a gift. Single life is not at all unfullfilling having a lab retriever spending a typical day different from yesterday.
Just like with married people's humdrum existence, me and my dog have that, too.