- Gender and Relationships
Ladies: Do You Have These Types Of “Rules” In A Relationship?
Are you the type of girl that set up rules when you are in a relationship with a guy?
Rules such as:
- "No sex until three months into the relationship"
- "I will not say I love you until he says it first (just so I won't be embarrassed if he doesn't feel the same way) or...I will not say I love you until we are "fill in the blank" months into the relationship.
The truth is when it comes to relationships, there are no right rules. There are many couples I know who have experienced wonderful intimacy in their relationships early on as partners...and they're still together. I also have a friend who recently told her boyfriend that she loved him after only being with him for a month. And to her surprise, he said it back. There love is so strong and they are great as a couple.
When you feel it's the right time to have sex or to say "I love you", then you should act on your feelings. I know you might be thinking: "what if he thinks I'm easy?" or "what if he doesn't say I love you back to me?" Well you'll never find out to you act upon your feelings. There's no such thing as time. And there's no guarantee that if you say those three words many months or years into a relationship that he will say it back anyway.
So express to him how you truly feel. You may be very pleasantly surprised by the way he feels and thinks.