- Gender and Relationships
Ladies: Have You Discovered That Your Partner Watches Porn?
What do you do when you've discovered that your partner has been watching/hiding porn?
This is a question that many women, in particular, want answers to.
Here's my view on it...
- First, you should have a talk with him. As hard as it may be to keep your emotions in check, you should definitely try. So no yelling, arguing, or belittling. If you confront him out of anger, you could put him on the defensive- and/or cause the conversation to take a negative turn. Listen, and try to get a better understanding of why he likes what he likes. The point here is to have a more open line of communication so he wouldn't have to do things out of secrecy.
- If it's an actual problem/addiction, you may want to encourage him to seek help from a therapist (even if you have to be apart of it like in marriage/couples counseling), a close friend, or trusted family member. Use whatever resources that you know can help him overcome his issue.
If your sex life is suffering because of this, and you just need to add some spark into it, you may want to try...
- Watching the porn with him. This is a big tun on for many men. Just the thought that their woman is watching it with them, may make a guy want to be more intimate.
- Act it out with him. Of course you should do the stuff that you feel comfortable doing. But don't be afraid to step out the box a little bit to try new things. In addition, many movies have a lot of role-playing scenes. Why not dress up every once in while to spice things up? You may find it fun and exciting.