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How to Make Your Wife Happy
Mom is not happy, nobody in the family is happy. If Dad is not happy, nobody
cares" is a quote I heard from a wise man. He was telling it jokingly, but
there is a lot of truth to it.
Any man who has been married for sometime or have a girl friend, knows the truth in the above statement. I don't know any man who can honestly say that he keeps her wife happy all the time. It seems like they get depressed about something which we don't have a clue about and we are the ones who supposed make them happy again.
Women are very complex creatures. Doesn’t matter how hard we try we can’t understand them. One woman said ‘don’t try to understand us, because we ourselves don’t know what we want’. I am not sure about the later part of the statement, but my wife gets depressed some times for no reason. When I start asking what happened or whether I did something which made her depressed, she says ‘no, you didn’t do anything’. I don’t know why I am depressed.
Here are some things you can do to make your wife happy:
It’s not what she says. It’s the opposite
Leave me alone for sometime. When you hear that statement your tendency is to go to another room and turn on the computer or watch television or read a book for some time. If you do that you will be in trouble. Later, when she becomes normal, she will complain that you left her alone when she was not feeling well. Even though she said leave me alone, she was expecting that you stay right there and talk to her, so that she feels better (now you are thinking how in the world am I supposed to know that?).
Most important thing to her
We men feel like we are very busy with our work and game schedules & we provide all the things our women want. Sometimes you wonder you have provided everything she needs, what else does she want? The truth is, you haven’t given the most important thing she needs - your time.
Do some thing she likes, when she is not expecting
Want to see a big smile on your wife’s face? Do something she likes when she is least expecting. When you go out to take of some work or a chore, bring her roses or a box of her favorite chocolates. Buying something which she has been planning to get and giving to her as a surprise makes you win her big time.
Keep her emotional tank full
Periodically do something which makes your woman love you more. The frequency matters, but quantity doesn’t. For example whether you bring a single rose or a bouquet of roses, you get the same credit. You will be better off bringing one rose at twelve different times than a dozen roses at once.
Women love shopping. If you can go with her on Friday evening or Saturday and could stay with her while she is shopping, you score ton of points. Her emotional tank will be full and possibly overflowing.
Express your love
When compared to women, men don't really worry about whether their spouses keep on loving them or not. But women want to hear 'I love you' every minute. Tell her that verbally as well as using other mediums. You can leave I love you post it notes in places where she finds them. You can send romantic greeting cards to her email address to express how much you love her.
Don’t pull your hair to figure out your wife
God wired men and women differently. We can see the difference since childhood. When three year old boys play with cars and chase the birds, girls of same age play with Barbie dolls and kitchen toys. Women are creatures of emotion. It is difficult to figure out them with logic and make them happy. Occasionally we may have to give in and say sorry to please them. But it is well worth it.