ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

How to Improve your Dating Profile

Updated on March 5, 2019

Having tried various popular dating sites for many in the past, I remember having come across a lot of poorly constructed profiles. You should want to sell yourself, like in an interview. You need to give it a lot of effort and thought. You need to make yourself sound interesting.If you find it too hard to do that, then maybe you shouldn’t be focusing on dating, you should be focusing on self improvement and making yourself more interesting. The dating world is not easy, whether you’re a man or a woman. But for men, finding anyone to respond to you or successfully initiate a conversation is a much harder task, and it will take you more effort to make your profile stick out. Nevertheless, this guide is for both men and women. You might find some of these to be obvious, but from my past personal experience looking at others, it isn’t obvious for everyone.

First comes the username. Not all dating services let you make your own screen name anymore, but if you’re on one of the few that still let you do that, then you should get creative with it. Think about your interests and somehow combine it with your name. You don’t have to use your real name though, if you’re not comfortable and like a sense of security, then maybe omit any hint of your real name and use an online name. Don’t use a screen name you use too often around other parts of the internet, you never know if someone will use that information to stalk you. Highly unlikely, but if you want to cover all of your bases it’s a good thing to consider.

Most importantly comes the main profile picture. What you should do is take (recent) fully clothed pictures of your entire body, and make it the first image. Make it a unique and fun image. Do not do anything trashy, like giving the middle finger with your tongue out, unless you want people to think you have the personality of an immature frat boy. Most women often complain about men who have images of themselves in the mirror. I personally don’t understand why, but it is nicer to have the viewer see you out and about doing something exciting. If you want to use a picture of yourself and your friends (no matter the gender), you’ll want to either crop them out or blur their faces, so the viewer isn’t confused as to which one you are. If you're just too lazy of a person to edit your photo, at the very least dont take a picture of yourself next to someone far more attractive. If you want to edit your photos, grab a free photo editing software like GIMP to accomplish this if you don't have photoshop. Make sure you have more than just one photo. Show people pictures of you enjoying your hobbies, assuming you have them. Using filters is not a great way to make you look better for a first impression. It can feel like you’re doing that to cover up how you really look. People want to see your natural face, even if you do look cuter with whatever deceiving filter you put on. Regarding makeup, I would advise against it. And don’t forget to smile! Even a semi neutral smile is acceptable, but do not frown. Frowns are not attractive. You want to be honest about your appearance. Do not lie. No one wants to date a catfish, people will find out. Just be yourself!

Now for the description, the meat of your profile. If they got this far after seeing your photos, you’re doing good! It’s good to start off by talking about your personality and all other aspects of what makes you, you. Don’t treat this section like a live journal though, make it as short and sweet to the point as you can possibly make it. Be positive about yourself. Talk more about things you like rather than things you don’t like. It’s ok to be a little negative to talk about things you dislike, but only a little bit. Don’t talk about your ex. You can mention what you want and don’t want based on what you learned from previous experiences, but don’t get too personal and specific. Make sure to talk about hobbies, as it’s a good conversation starter for anyone who might be interested in messaging you. Also talk about what kind of movies, music, shows, games, etc. that you enjoy, so that they can better know about your compatibility. Talk about your hopes for the future and what you’re looking for at the moment, what you’re want in a partner.

There are certain things you definitely should want to avoid when talking about yourself. Do not try to brag too much. When you’re writing, do not use all caps, not even if it’s just one paragraph. Also, people don’t want to see a row or a scattered bunch of emojis, it does not add anything unique, it just takes up space, and comes off as juvenile. Don’t say that your friends forced you into coming here, people want to know you’re there to be serious. Don’t lie about anything, this should be obvious, but it happens. The other person will find out eventually and be disappointed.

You should write at least a few paragraphs or more so people know the right amount about you to be confident that they want to meet up. I’d recommend 3 or 4. If you follow this guide, you should have a pretty good profile. But, in the end it's up to you what you want it to be like. In the meantime, you could always increase you chances by working on yourself. Go to the gym, learn new skills, do what makes you feel positive. Eat healthy. If you feel like you need to loose a few pounds, you can always try the veto diet to loose pounds fast. If you have any other questions, feel free to ask them in the comments!

Best General Dating Sites (based on experience)

  • Bumble
  • Okcupid (got worse ever since you have to match in order to see the message right away)
  • Plenty Of Fish (mostly a fake profile graveyard now)

Worst General Dating Sites (based on experience)

  • Match (You'll see this one advertised everywhere, but it's expensive and no one responds)
  • Eharmony (Will narrow things down too much and you wont even know what the other person will look like until you match... at least for some reason that was my experience)
  • Zoosk (Basically match but somehow worse)


© 2019 Rusty Shackleford

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      13 months ago from Chicago

      Generally speaking "water seeks it's own level".

      We don't get to tell people who they should want to date.

      Everyone has their own mate selection process/must haves list.

      It's okay for someone to want to date a person who has a college degree or a successful professional. It's not a matter love versus financial success. It is possible to have both.

    • therealrustyshackleford profile imageAUTHOR

      Rusty Shackleford 

      13 months ago from Mount Prospect

      @dashingscorpio Good points. I did forget to mention the best sites to visit. I personally didn't mind the mirror thing, because there was a point I didn't have any friends close by, and for some it may feel awkward to ask a friend. I'm not so sure that mid-level managers, doctors, or lawyers wouldn't be on free sites. You shouldn't be aiming for someone based on what their job is or how much they make anyway, to each their own but the idea is to find love.

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      13 months ago from Chicago

      Sound advice.

      "You can mention what you want and don’t want based on what you learned from previous experiences," I would avoid the listing things you don't want. It always comes off like someone who either has a chip on their shoulder or they have a past filled with a lot of "drama". In other words they're carrying a lot of baggage!

      Simply describing the kind of person (you) are and mentioning you are looking for someone who has your {same values}.

      Truth be told if there is a "hot looking girl" whose profile says: "No players", liars, or cheaters...etc. It's not as if a "player" is going to say to himself: "Aw snap! She ain't got no love for the players! Well, I guess I had better move on to the next profile."

      Seriously??? Is that how she really imagines things will go? NOT!

      It's a waste of time and space to go negative.

      Images of people in the mirror looks tacky and cheap because it implies a person doesn't have a friend who can take a photo of them.

      Remember you are responsible for the people you choose to engage with. The purpose of a dating site/app is to give you an opportunity to meet new people. The rest is up to you. It's up to you to have your own mate selection process and "must haves list". Nothing happens until (you) say "yes" to someone.

      Last but not least it pays do some research and read reviews about sites/apps you are considering create a profile. There are also niche dating sites for one to consider. Datingadvice.com as well as others has a review section for the top online dating sites and breaks it down by male to female ratio, age, sexual orientation, education, income, and so on of the average person on the various sites.

      What you are looking for should determine where you shop.

      Not too many mid-level managers, doctors, or lawyers are going to be on OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, or other "free" sites.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://maven.io/company/pages/privacy

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)