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Lesson I Learned for Being Passionately Married
My wife is wonderful. Examples, or someone’s story can truly spark just enough in you that would cause the passion needed for success. Lessons, on the other hand, is just a strait forward, teaching on how to see better, or do better, perform better, or just to BE better.
Now I know what some may know or, understand when you read the title of this blog; not all, but some. And the reason why this is, just a lack of knowledge. It is not about anything else, but just…..timing concerning learning.
One of the most dangerous statements that has EVER been said by a human being is, “I already know that”. So much information is out there. So much learning in every area of living and we have the right to consume it, invest in it, learn from it and then….teach it. There is a scripture in the Bible that says,
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.(Ephesians 5:25 AMP)
Now whether a person believes in the Bible, as a way of life, this scripture/statement is pretty powerful in the imagery that is thrust-ed in your mind; against so much of what is taught these days in marriage.
If you don’t know the story, let me paraphrase and tell it to you. ‘Christ’ is the husband and God’s people(represented by the ‘church’) is the bride of Christ. Christ was manifested(made known) in a body and allowed himself to be sacrificed(killed) in order be an exchange and reconcile( bring back and restoring favor) the world to Himself again in the marriage relationship. I could talk more about that, but you get the point. Christ died for his bride. A good reference is II Cor 5:19(AMP)
That is a BIG deal! Now the lesson for me comes from reading this passage in it’s entirety in Ephesians Chapter 5 with emphasis on verse 25 and verse 32:
*25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
26 So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,
27 That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless].
28 Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.
29 For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,
30 Because we are members (parts) of His body.
31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.(Genesis 2:23&24)
*32 This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning [the relation of] Christ and the church.
I did not have the knowledge of this until after I was married for a couple of years. God revealed this mystery from Genesis 2:24 in Ephesian 2:23, even with the exact same words! leading to who my true example is. Christ. What a lesson huh? Was I to decide not to follow the example, because that is exactly what I would have been doing if I did something different. Making a decision.
Ray Higdon, a multimillionaire in network marketing, was explaining that once you know something of value, you can’t un-know it! It’s impossible, so now it is your responsibility of what you’re going to do with it.
My Wife and I are humbled when we hear people express how they see how much I love my wife and how much Kim loves me. We’re humbled when we here young and adult want a spouse with attributes like us. Even though they may not know, or don’t know of the hardships, disciplines, crying nights and lessons we have gone through and are still going through to have a mature, trust worthy relationship where we are not afraid for people follow. Humility.
Focusing on and always reaching for what some may think is un-attainable, will always put you and keep you above the noise. Not better than, but as a leader who has the scars of victory. Stay above the noise is the lesson learned. Stay above the noise.